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  Child Custody/Visitation questions? JW Parent and me as the non JW parent

  by Gokumonkey in

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  hello everyone, this is my fellow up from my first post, feel free to check that out if your unsure of the whole situation.

  i have two twin babies that are now two months old.

  i already to my ex to court, yes i took her to court and now im established as the father and ill be paying child support next week.

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  Gokumonkey

  hello everyone, this is my fellow up from my first post, feel free to check that out if your unsure of the whole situation

  I have two twin babies that are now two months old

  i already to my ex to court, yes i took her to court and now im established as the father and ill be paying child support next week. no problem. part one is over now one to part two which is custody and visitation.

  i want to take her to court because i already know there is no way we will reach a fair agreement without court, she is selfish and controlling and I don’t want to wait and let bad things happen instead of seeing the problem and taking care of it right away.

  I want to have specific request in my custody order.

  1. She doesn’t celebrate holidays, so I want to have my twin for all major holidays, thanksgiving, Christmas etc

  2. She doesn’t believe in blood transfusions. I want to make an order as to when the babies need blood and both parents can’t come to an agreement we’ll have to make the doctor decided in the best interest of the child

  3. The twin babies be baptized at 16-18, not at a young age.

  4. Last but not least, we cannot be alone together while exchanging babies, my ex or myself have to accompanied by someone. Why? Because I tried to help her understand how I want to work out a temporary agreement but instead she yelled at me and called two court officers saying the I was harassing her.
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  Had twin babies with a married JW?!?!?!?!?!?! advice & thoughts

  by Gokumonkey in

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  before i begin i just wanna say, im not proud of what i did, it was wrong but it happened now im just trying to do the right thing.. ok so im a "worldly" person and i meet a jw women at my job.

  i had no idea she was married due to the fact that she hid her wedding ring.

  i even ask if she was in a relationship and she denied it.

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  Gokumonkey

  @Anony Mous i think you right, i guess full custody is highest custody anyone can have and if i dont granted that it will downgrade to something lower but ill see what i can do and do my best.
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  Had twin babies with a married JW?!?!?!?!?!?! advice & thoughts

  by Gokumonkey in

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  2. relationships

  before i begin i just wanna say, im not proud of what i did, it was wrong but it happened now im just trying to do the right thing.. ok so im a "worldly" person and i meet a jw women at my job.

  i had no idea she was married due to the fact that she hid her wedding ring.

  i even ask if she was in a relationship and she denied it.

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  Gokumonkey

  full custody? dont want to do that the babies are only two months old, i dont think its wise to take them from the mother at such a young age. i think shared custody both legal and physical is better i guess. But religion is a big factor since im not a jdub. so ill be talking to my lawyer about that holidays and blood transfusions
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  Had twin babies with a married JW?!?!?!?!?!?! advice & thoughts

  by Gokumonkey in

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  2. relationships

  before i begin i just wanna say, im not proud of what i did, it was wrong but it happened now im just trying to do the right thing.. ok so im a "worldly" person and i meet a jw women at my job.

  i had no idea she was married due to the fact that she hid her wedding ring.

  i even ask if she was in a relationship and she denied it.

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  Gokumonkey

  I wanna thank everyone for there input. It's been really helpful. It lets me know I'm doing the right thing. 😃
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  Had twin babies with a married JW?!?!?!?!?!?! advice & thoughts

  by Gokumonkey in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  before i begin i just wanna say, im not proud of what i did, it was wrong but it happened now im just trying to do the right thing.. ok so im a "worldly" person and i meet a jw women at my job.

  i had no idea she was married due to the fact that she hid her wedding ring.

  i even ask if she was in a relationship and she denied it.

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  Gokumonkey

  Yup I have a lawyer. I just wanna be there for my kiddies.
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  Had twin babies with a married JW?!?!?!?!?!?! advice & thoughts

  by Gokumonkey in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  before i begin i just wanna say, im not proud of what i did, it was wrong but it happened now im just trying to do the right thing.. ok so im a "worldly" person and i meet a jw women at my job.

  i had no idea she was married due to the fact that she hid her wedding ring.

  i even ask if she was in a relationship and she denied it.

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  @cold steel - have you considered just letting the twins grow up without you?

  yeah i considered it, i thought about it for months before they were born. i just cant do it, they deserve to know im there father, i feel like its the right thing to do for them, i can imagine them growing up and finding about how there JW mother committed adultery and they were born as a result of it. I heard a lot about jw's trying to commit suicide, having mental illness, depression and all sorts of things. They need to have a safe haven, a place or someone they can go to to ask question about life without referring to a bible scripture.

  What are your legal rights and wishes regarding this matter?

  i want to be in my daughters lives, i dont want it to be controlled or having the mother and step father keeping secrets, if she was so much of a witness she knows the consequences of her actions. i want to have joint legal and physical custody if i can. At least give them a chance to experience what it like to enjoy both sides of our religions.

  Was she anxious to have a physical relationship? And who initiated it, you or her?

  in the beginning we both were just talking then it became much more. much more as in first we talk then we had our first kiss then hey let it the bed. it was a normal relationship process and nothing was forced. we were deeply in love
  

  Do you think she wanted a long term relationship with you at the time?

  yes we spoke about marriage and living together, she had doubts and so did i, but we kept the relationship going. we had ups and downs and ultimately she decided for her daughters to end the relationship and to leave me just like that
  

  And why wasn't she on birth control? she hated condoms ,she says it uncomfortable, we used it in the beginning but she hated it. it was stupid, even her own husband told her to use it LMAO. and yes i know there is other means of birth control but we didnt mind having babies together. we were blinded by love i guess. we both had same goals in mind but religion.
  

  Is it possible you want this woman to leave her husband and marry you, or is that not part of the equation? After whats she has said and done to me and eveything ive been though. id rather not, she doesnt respect me as a father and doesnt even respect the babies. whats she is doing is a form of child abuse. i havent seen the babies for 2 months, no phone call, text, nada.
  
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  Had twin babies with a married JW?!?!?!?!?!?! advice & thoughts

  by Gokumonkey in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  before i begin i just wanna say, im not proud of what i did, it was wrong but it happened now im just trying to do the right thing.. ok so im a "worldly" person and i meet a jw women at my job.

  i had no idea she was married due to the fact that she hid her wedding ring.

  i even ask if she was in a relationship and she denied it.

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  @_morpheus thanks for the advice and strong words. Things like blood transfusion and them not enjoy the holidays and being regular kids really bother me so ill be ask my lawyer to assist me in that I really one to try and get my joint legal and physical custody and work it in such a way where they spend holidays with me.
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  Help denied visiting my gradchildren in jw brothers custody

  by Phoenixrain in

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  i regret trusting my jw brother ...long story short my daughter trusted him and gave custody to him of 2 children, he married and cut us out .. moved ect .

  sents then he moved in with dad in arizona he has faded... sis in law became caregiver... cared to stress him on a daily bases... i got to see the kids once... in over 10 years.

  sis in law is a cold mean devious person got my brother to shunning dad now... because he complaint about her abusive actions .... .

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  Gokumonkey

  Whatever you do dont have an agreement with go thur the court system. Dont make the mistake and one day they decided to break that agreement. At least with legal documents you can make moves
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  Had twin babies with a married JW?!?!?!?!?!?! advice & thoughts

  by Gokumonkey in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  before i begin i just wanna say, im not proud of what i did, it was wrong but it happened now im just trying to do the right thing.. ok so im a "worldly" person and i meet a jw women at my job.

  i had no idea she was married due to the fact that she hid her wedding ring.

  i even ask if she was in a relationship and she denied it.

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  @crazyguy thanks for the honesty. i had a feeling something like this would or might happen. its a sad situation but the end of the day there my kiddies and i cant just walk away so easy without a fight.
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  Had twin babies with a married JW?!?!?!?!?!?! advice & thoughts

  by Gokumonkey in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  before i begin i just wanna say, im not proud of what i did, it was wrong but it happened now im just trying to do the right thing.. ok so im a "worldly" person and i meet a jw women at my job.

  i had no idea she was married due to the fact that she hid her wedding ring.

  i even ask if she was in a relationship and she denied it.

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  Gokumonkey

  yeah she was disfellowshipped. no family, no friends, husband left her and only when she got pregnant they came outta the wood works barely.