Posts by Gokumonkey

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Do Jehovah's witnesses take therapy?

by Gokumonkey in

i know two jehovah's witnesses couple.

the husband had a rough upbringing.

his father left him at a young age, leaving his mom and himself to take care of his siblings.

Gokumonkey

To me if he have a tramatic experience and don't take any therapy it would seriously effect them in the future. That's why I hear so many messed up stories about suicides an such after being DF.

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Do Jehovah's witnesses take therapy?

by Gokumonkey in

i know two jehovah's witnesses couple.

the husband had a rough upbringing.

his father left him at a young age, leaving his mom and himself to take care of his siblings.

Do Jehovah's witnesses take therapy?

by Gokumonkey in

i know two jehovah's witnesses couple.

the husband had a rough upbringing.

his father left him at a young age, leaving his mom and himself to take care of his siblings.

Hello there. I know two Jehovah's witnesses couple. The husband had a rough upbringing. His father left him at a young age, leaving his mom and himself to take care of his siblings. He had to learn things faster then any normal child. Now grown man and married he developed a porn addiction and even went to strip clubs and his wife didn't know of this. The wife how ever had a hard life. As a child her mother left her for a time and father didn't pay much attention to her. She was also molested at a young age. She and her husband were never able to have sex because of his inability to penetrate her. Aka they are adult virgins lol. The wife has an affair and is able to lose her virginity and has a baby.

My question is from my knowledge and experience with jw's. They always seek answers from the Bible or from the watchtower. Anytime I always had questions she would say look for this scripture of go on the jw.org. doing that never helped me answer my questions. I used to go to meetings but that would only give me headaches. (I'll speak more on that in the next topic I post). I feel google has more real answers then the Bible and I actually go to therapy and it has uncovered a lot of things about me that I never could understand by myself.

I feel as though he really need therapy but they don't take it as far as I know. What do you guys think about this? Ask me questions if u please

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custody orders, proving to the court why my daughters should be baptized at 18. JW OR NOT

by Gokumonkey in

hello everyone ive been posting about this situation about my daughters and their jw mom so if u want to get a back story about whats going on you can check out my previous posts.. note- daughters are only 5 months old, and i live in the united states.. right now im typing up my court orders to present to the court but ive come to a road block.

i want to add reasons to why its not a good idea to have my daughters be baptized at a young age.. here is my rough draft -.

"age appropriate baptism – i wish that my daughters to be baptized at the legal age of 18 years old.

Gokumonkey

I live in New Jersey in the United States

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custody orders, proving to the court why my daughters should be baptized at 18. JW OR NOT

by Gokumonkey in

hello everyone ive been posting about this situation about my daughters and their jw mom so if u want to get a back story about whats going on you can check out my previous posts.. note- daughters are only 5 months old, and i live in the united states.. right now im typing up my court orders to present to the court but ive come to a road block.

i want to add reasons to why its not a good idea to have my daughters be baptized at a young age.. here is my rough draft -.

"age appropriate baptism – i wish that my daughters to be baptized at the legal age of 18 years old.

Gokumonkey

hello everyone ive been posting about this situation about my daughters and their jw mom so if u want to get a back story about whats going on you can check out my previous posts.

Note- Daughters are only 5 months old, and i live in the united states.

right now im typing up my court orders to present to the court but ive come to a road block. i want to add reasons to why its not a good idea to have my daughters be baptized at a young age.

HERE IS MY ROUGH DRAFT -

1. "Age appropriate baptism – I wish that my daughters to be baptized at the legal age of 18 years old. Reasons-Religion play a heavy roll in my daughters mothers life. She is Jehovah witness and I believe she wants my daughter’s to be as well. Problem is the age of them being baptized. I have no problem with them being Jehovah witnesses but an age younger than 18 is not acceptable. Being baptized at a Jehovah’s Witness is like signing a contract which my young daughter’s won’t understand at a young age. The mind, body and soul of a person doesn’t fully develop until they reach a certain age and making such a decisions at a young age and not fully understanding the religion’s policies and rules and consequence that follow if they choose to leave the religion I fear will have a negative effect on my daughters which I fear will damage them in adulthood.

Example – You baptize your child as a Jehovah witness at a young age such as 7 or 10. Children tend to want to make decision like this just to make parents happy not knowing exactly what they are getting into. Children want to be doctors at 5, movie stars at 7, astronauts at 10. Such young minds still developing not knowing exactly what they want in life. Becoming a Jehovah witness you would have to give up those dreams because the practices of the religion won’t allow you ventures on those endeavors. WHY? Because you in order to stay active as a Jehovah witness you would have spend a lot of hours and time and hours knocking on doors and attending meetings two to three times a week, instead of pursing a higher education which the Jehovah witness organization highly discouraged.

If my daughters get baptized young and later realize that the Jehovah witness life isn’t for them and decided to leave the religion or stop going to meeting or any of the religious functions. I fear the consequences. Being a Jehovah witness you are encouraged not to have any friends outside of the religion and become friends with people only in the church, "

i stopped right there. Can anybody give me a hand here and let me know of some ideas i can add on to this. I know a bit about JW but i know there are some EXJW on this sight that could possibly shed some more insight.

Thanks.

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Child Custody/Visitation questions? JW Parent and me as the non JW parent

by Gokumonkey in

hello everyone, this is my fellow up from my first post, feel free to check that out if your unsure of the whole situation.

i have two twin babies that are now two months old.

i already to my ex to court, yes i took her to court and now im established as the father and ill be paying child support next week.

Gokumonkey

thanks for the support and answer guys.

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Child Custody/Visitation questions? JW Parent and me as the non JW parent

by Gokumonkey in

hello everyone, this is my fellow up from my first post, feel free to check that out if your unsure of the whole situation.

i have two twin babies that are now two months old.

i already to my ex to court, yes i took her to court and now im established as the father and ill be paying child support next week.

Gokumonkey

this is in the united states

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Child Custody/Visitation questions? JW Parent and me as the non JW parent

by Gokumonkey in

hello everyone, this is my fellow up from my first post, feel free to check that out if your unsure of the whole situation.

i have two twin babies that are now two months old.

i already to my ex to court, yes i took her to court and now im established as the father and ill be paying child support next week.

Gokumonkey

hello everyone, this is my fellow up from my first post, feel free to check that out if your unsure of the whole situation

I have two twin babies that are now two months old

i already to my ex to court, yes i took her to court and now im established as the father and ill be paying child support next week. no problem. part one is over now one to part two which is custody and visitation.

i want to take her to court because i already know there is no way we will reach a fair agreement without court, she is selfish and controlling and I don’t want to wait and let bad things happen instead of seeing the problem and taking care of it right away.

I want to have specific request in my custody order.

1. She doesn’t celebrate holidays, so I want to have my twin for all major holidays, thanksgiving, Christmas etc

2. She doesn’t believe in blood transfusions. I want to make an order as to when the babies need blood and both parents can’t come to an agreement we’ll have to make the doctor decided in the best interest of the child

3. The twin babies be baptized at 16-18, not at a young age.

4. Last but not least, we cannot be alone together while exchanging babies, my ex or myself have to accompanied by someone. Why? Because I tried to help her understand how I want to work out a temporary agreement but instead she yelled at me and called two court officers saying the I was harassing her.

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Had twin babies with a married JW?!?!?!?!?!?! advice & thoughts

by Gokumonkey in

before i begin i just wanna say, im not proud of what i did, it was wrong but it happened now im just trying to do the right thing.. ok so im a "worldly" person and i meet a jw women at my job.

i had no idea she was married due to the fact that she hid her wedding ring.

i even ask if she was in a relationship and she denied it.

Gokumonkey

@Anony Mous i think you right, i guess full custody is highest custody anyone can have and if i dont granted that it will downgrade to something lower but ill see what i can do and do my best.

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Had twin babies with a married JW?!?!?!?!?!?! advice & thoughts

by Gokumonkey in

before i begin i just wanna say, im not proud of what i did, it was wrong but it happened now im just trying to do the right thing.. ok so im a "worldly" person and i meet a jw women at my job.

i had no idea she was married due to the fact that she hid her wedding ring.

i even ask if she was in a relationship and she denied it.

Gokumonkey

full custody? dont want to do that the babies are only two months old, i dont think its wise to take them from the mother at such a young age. i think shared custody both legal and physical is better i guess. But religion is a big factor since im not a jdub. so ill be talking to my lawyer about that holidays and blood transfusions