Posts by brainmelt

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New Job

by LouBelle in

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hey everyone.

so i left the old company behind, the one that wasn't paying me.

they still owe me a little bit of money but have them on record and signed documentation that i'll receive payment by the close of this month.

My story so far

by brainmelt in

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i've been trying to avoid posting this, due to extreme paranoia but its time to post my story.

i hope to not post too many details, as we've avoided being df so far, our group elder was young and lovely and cool and i just hope that in time he learns the ttatt.. i'm a regular lurker on here, occasional poster (i can't post much as my phone browser only lets me read but not post, so i only post on the odd occasion i get a time alone on the pc).

i have been fading since round about last september ( so almost my first anniversary of learning ttatt).

brainmelt

Please keep supporting St Judes though, there has to be more awareness of child cancers x

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My story so far

by brainmelt in

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friends

i've been trying to avoid posting this, due to extreme paranoia but its time to post my story.

i hope to not post too many details, as we've avoided being df so far, our group elder was young and lovely and cool and i just hope that in time he learns the ttatt.. i'm a regular lurker on here, occasional poster (i can't post much as my phone browser only lets me read but not post, so i only post on the odd occasion i get a time alone on the pc).

i have been fading since round about last september ( so almost my first anniversary of learning ttatt).

brainmelt

Truth Seeker - thank you, I hope think so. At least a little :)

Mum - we are in the UK so couldn't be treated there but we feel that we are getting the best treatment possible here x

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My story so far

by brainmelt in

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friends

i've been trying to avoid posting this, due to extreme paranoia but its time to post my story.

i hope to not post too many details, as we've avoided being df so far, our group elder was young and lovely and cool and i just hope that in time he learns the ttatt.. i'm a regular lurker on here, occasional poster (i can't post much as my phone browser only lets me read but not post, so i only post on the odd occasion i get a time alone on the pc).

i have been fading since round about last september ( so almost my first anniversary of learning ttatt).

brainmelt

Thankfully for me, my husband figured it all out too, although he has never been on any 'apostate' websites, he is also an atheist. I was always the spiritual head, the one who got us all out and ready for meetings and field service. I feel so thankful to have been able to get him out too. He always says that he is glad we both figured it out at the same time but I know that he has never really believed it, just went along with it to please his parents and then me. Glad we both figured it out before our children got any older. They are 5 and 3 and adored their first birthday celebrations this year and can't wait until Xmas x

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My story so far

by brainmelt in

jw
friends

i've been trying to avoid posting this, due to extreme paranoia but its time to post my story.

i hope to not post too many details, as we've avoided being df so far, our group elder was young and lovely and cool and i just hope that in time he learns the ttatt.. i'm a regular lurker on here, occasional poster (i can't post much as my phone browser only lets me read but not post, so i only post on the odd occasion i get a time alone on the pc).

i have been fading since round about last september ( so almost my first anniversary of learning ttatt).

brainmelt

I've been trying to avoid posting this, due to extreme paranoia but its time to post my story. I hope to not post too many details, as we've avoided being DF so far, our group elder was young and lovely and cool and I just hope that in time he learns the TTATT.

I'm a regular lurker on here, occasional poster (I can't post much as my phone browser only lets me read but not post, so I only post on the odd occasion I get a time alone on the PC)

I have been fading since round about last September ( so almost my first anniversary of learning TTATT)

I decided in April that I could no longer attend meetings. I hadn't been out much in FS before that, just the odd time. Meetings were causing me soooooo much stress and anxiety that I decided to call it a day.

One month later, one of my children were diagnosed with cancer. I would never have imagined this, not in a million years. I was pretty much agnostic, but on the day of his major surgery, I realised I was an atheist. Being an atheist has brought me so much comfort. I don't have anyone to blame, or question or to supplicate. I've realised that life just sucks sometimes. I've realised that humans can be amazing. I've learned from my children that you have to live in the moment and enjoy all of the happy moments. I still don't know if our little boy will survive, he is going through some pretty intense stuff but he is absolutely amazing and doing so well that I have so much faith he will get through this.

My own family are being pretty cool and understanding, I've tried reasoning with my dad about the blood issue and how I'll never return to the cong because of this but my inlaws are crazy and think that we have no where to turn and don't know we can cope without 'Jehovah' TM.

I'm just greatful for every moment that I'm alive, every moment that we can cherish as a family, I have many JW's that I love very much but I will never, ever return. Even if I decided that there was in fact a God, I would never think that JW's were correct. The 'New System' etc are completely made up, I'd sooner be a Mormon.........................

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How many JWs are genuinely in "good standing"?

by slimboyfat in

an interesting question arose from my earlier thread:.

we all know that many jws do stuff that would get them disfellowshipped, but never get caught.

but how many jws do you think there really are who have never kept any disfellowshipping "offense" secret?

brainmelt

I often wonder this. I think our extended families are pretty clean and are not guilty of any DF offenses. They are all major uber dubs. I often think that so many others of our former aquaintances must be guilty of several, drunkeness at least. My husband and I were guilty of at least two while in (uncleanness and drunkeness) and since leaving, I have donated my blood to help save the life of others, my child has had 3 blood tranfusions and 6 platelet transfusions, my husband has smoked a joint or two, and we've celebrated our childrens birthdays. I've bought two books by Richard Dawkins. Terrible person that I am.

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Today is my birthday

by Gojira_101 in

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friends

well so far it is a fantastic day!

i know my grandma isn't going to call me like she does every year to say she is happy i was born.

you know the jw form of wishing someone a happy birthday.

brainmelt

Happy birthday, have a lovely day tomorrow. Love the cake. We celebrated our childrens birthdays for the first time ever last weekend, nothing major, just time as a family, a few presents and a yummy chocolate cake complete with candles. It was lovely and no one was beheaded. Can't wait for my 1st (31st) birthday at the end of the year!

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Why do all the COs have food intolerances/allergies/special dietary requirments?

by Julia Orwell in

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it's a well known phenomenon i've observed from jwn, my own cos. a new co we had once who was fresh from being a normal elder and after a couple of visits he said, "well i've finally become a true co...i now have food intolerances.".

i mean, only once did my husband and i ever have a co around for dinner and they couldn't eat this, he couldn't eat that, she couldn't eat this...it was so hard to cook something with none of the zillions of things they were 'allergic' to.. and then after all that the wife couldn't come anyway because she had a naturopath appointment or something.. why do all co's seem to have weird dietary problems?.

.

brainmelt

Same here, all CO's I remember growing up had some sort of food intolerance. I too reckon that its stress.

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The experience that changed my life

by hijosdelawatch in

i have been lurking for a long time here and i think i'm prepared to speak about this experience openly.. .

i was born in a jw family and i grew up as the average jehovah's witness does.

even being very young, i helped with the territories and other work in the congregation.

brainmelt

Thank you for sharing your experience and I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that and carry the burden for so long. You totally did the right thing and I'm so glad that your mother is ok now. The blood doctrine is one of the most awful of all the JW beliefs. I can't believe that the elder actualy told you to forge your mothers signature!! Unbelievable.

Welcome to the forum.

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Pagan traditions that witnesses still take part off

by Freethinking76 in

i was reading an article where it said that weeding rings and the brides vail come from pagan origins,... who have any more?,please post.

brainmelt

The bridesmaids are pagan as well, they are there to confuse and ward off evil spirits. I always found it really bizarre that JW's wouldn't allow the throwing of confetti or rice but would allow all the other pagan wedding traditions. Even before I learned the TTATT, I would point out this to my parents and others, they would just say it was ok because weddings and marriage were gods arrangement...