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  Golden Rule: Pure Garbage?

  by willmarite in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  on another thread a poster made the comment that the golden rule was garbage.

  she said it was arrogant and made assumptions.. i didn't want to derail that thread so i started another wondering if this is a common thought about this belief on this forum.

  i guess i naively thought the value of doing to others as you want them to do to you was generally accepted as positive.. i understand people have different opinions of jesus as a person but i don't want to get into that here.

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  If you feel the need to have a rule for guidance, try the Kindness rule: make it your goal to treat each person you meet with kindness.

  Eliminates all the fuss.
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  The new LDC / RBC Requirements

  by DwainBowman in

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  2. beliefs

  the new ldc / rbc.

  requirements.

  there are many requirements, but when you get to the end of the form.

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  Many of the born-ins who are in their twenties and thirties still see this as a "privilege" and have families who financially support them as it proves how well they have raised their children...ergo, how much more "spiritual" they are than everyone else. Pillars of the jdub community, you know...
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  Separated from a loveless Marriage

  by PLAYGROUND in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i don't know where to start.

  i got married a year and half ago.

  some months into the marriage things where discovered.

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  Playground, I've walked a little in your shoes and was absolutely devastated to find my marriage was a sham. The emotional abuse, sadly, also applied to my children. I, like you, did everything to play by the rules and tried to be the perfect jw wife. Meanwhile my husband used his headship to tell the elders lies about me and slandered me maliciously. One elder actually tried to shame me for being upset, by telling me that Jesus was slandered much worse than me and implied that I was not a strong Christian because I was upset. I had been a strong pioneer single mom but I got zero support from elders.

  The only way I survived was realizing that I had to protect my children and stand up for what was right. I finally told the elders they could disfellowship me if they needed to, but I was no longer able to live with this man. After a final round of slander (he actually drove to the houses of those in our cong to tell everyone what a wicked person I was), he filed for divorce and found another victim and he was the one disfellowshipped (but only for eight months) for an unscriptural marriage.

  The point of this story: you must protect yourself - no one will do it for you. You are NOT at fault nor should you feel guilty, even though that's what has been drilled into your head. The Jesus of the bible would NEVER condemn you...but the wt will. You must learn to love yourself because you are a valuable person! If you need to step back, step away, please do that for yourself. You are NOT responsible for how your situation makes others feel, that's on them.

  I send you love and best wishes. Please give yourself permission to love yourself.

  (feel free to PM if you want to chat)
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  "Your bad attitude is evident, because you don't bring a meeting bag to the meetings anymore!"

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  yes friends.....this is the comment said to me by an elder!.

  "your bad attitude is evident because you don't bring your meeting bag anymore!".

  i calmly replied: "but everything i need is on the tablet now......".

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  Zombie dub - I know an older m.s. who would drive his car and a younger female pioneer who would drive her car to visit an elderly couple in a nursing home. They left the hall parking lot together and met up at the nursing home parking lot together, but they couldn't ride together. Because, of course, the only option for traveling across town on busy streets without a chaperone is to pull over and perform inappropriate sexual acts right there on the side of the road...

  Nuttiest religion ever invented.
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  2015 Convention Reminders Video!

  by Atlantis in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  credit goes to mike & kim.. .. https://youtu.be/yj3x6wjrsaq .

  .. .. atlantis!.

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  As someone wisely pointed out in the YouTube comments, why do these folks even need to be told not to shove elderly ones out of the way? Really, any of these "reminders" should be unnecessary for any "religious" group.

  And the the opening line about "Yes, another year has gone by" should be followed by "and STILL no Armageddon, so we are subjecting you to another in our endless stream of boring conventions where we try to distract you from the fact that we are just a big bunch of hypocritical money grabbers like those your Jesus tossed from the temple."
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  Apostasy Trial - Part 2 - Satan is Using Google

  by berrygerry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=373zbncuuoq

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  Painful as it was to hear these men stubbornly refuse to entertain any logical thought, this just reaffirmed how right I was to get out of jwackoville.
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  MyName...nothing is more important than your son and his future. Please don't take a backseat by saying "they are controlling the situation". Your son certainly notices when you don't stand up to protect him, and if you allow another man to take charge (and it is your choice)...your son will respect the other man instead of you.

  It really is your choice to decide how this plays out.
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  Jehovah's Witnesses video slammed for threatening kids with death for not paying attention in church

  by dropoffyourkeylee in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  here is the link to a recent news article.

  maybe it was commented before, but today was the first i had seen it.. http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/jehovah-witnesses-video-slammed-threats-kids-article-1.2116873.

  i guess caleb is getting around.

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  Good to some media coverage is being given to the fear-mongering that amounts to emotional child abuse.
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  How is Joe Publisher reacting to all the TV coverage on the abuse cases?

  by 4thgen in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  please pardon if this a repeated topic.

  i have had virtually no contact with any witnesses beside my mother for the past few years.

  she watches tv constantly and claims she has never seen anything on the watchtower abuse cases.

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  Wasn't the Nightline or PBS special on Candace Conti's case aired after midnight in the US? No wonder they dont' know about it.
  
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  Why do religious people make claims and then refuse to back them up?

  by Viviane in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  several times over the past few months i have had conversations, both here and in real life, with religious people making all sorts of interesting and conflicting claims.

  i like to know how things work, so generally i will ask questions to net out what i am being told and see if it can be explained and make sense.. for instance, if someone said 2+2=4 and i asked how, there are a variety of ways that could be shown to me, a number line, physical objects being put together, counting on fingers and toes, etc.

  indeed, in my personal life, i often have to explain how certain technologies work, sometimes planned, sometimes off the cuff, from a variety of group sizes to a varying degree of technical expertise.

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  Have to agree with Maat on this one...many folks are content with their lives as jdubs. They might have the skills to reason, but they are not in a position where they WANT to use those skills. Some folks need to belong to a group, and are not unhappy about being labeled as JW.

  Who are we to disagree?

  Just because we don't agree, and it doesn't make sense to us (and maybe not even to them), it is their choice.

  Life is much better spent with a smile on our face and with a happy heart rather than being in turmoil over the choices of others. If they want to live a different lifestyle, they'll decide to do it when they are ready...just like we did.