The big problem with JW.Org is the amount of control exerted
on its member’s lives. That’s why it’s classified by many as a cult. But let’s
be frank, much of the control is self-inflicted. Is anyone obligated to pioneer
or go out carting?
Can a JW go to university, get a PhD, find a high paying
job, marry a worldly person, buy a big house and lots of toys, drink and go on
numerous, long vacations? The answer is many elders could fit a good part of
that description.
Think of this year’s convention videos. Does the sister who
loves to paint have to forego a good part of her ‘painting day’ to accompany
another sister on a call? She could
actually be “inactive” and paint for a week straight if she wanted to, and
still be part of the JW club. It’s her JW.Org cult- mind that obliges her to believe
she needs to cancel part of her day to accompany that sister. Is Gloria
obligated to quit her job? Does Ricky have to shave off his beard? Should Tina
get her hair back to being theocratic? Who’s making Joe and Gloria stand on the
street with a cart?
I’ve always observed that JWs living on the edge seemed to
be the most fulfilled in life. The sister with the non-JW husband who didn’t pioneer,
lived her life and used her husband as her excuse seemed the most happy. The
more devoted always appeared to be slugging through life, somewhat overwhelmed.
If you are OK living with frowns, I think it’s possible to
live on the edge. It’s possible to still be part of the club quite happily, unless
you really want to exercise a disfellowshipping freedom….in which case you
might have to sacrifice one ‘happiness’ for another. But hey, that’s life. That’s
freedom. Decisions. Choices. Your choices not a cult’s.
My advice: Stop worrying about status and what others think about
you and begin by taking back some control of your life. Stop that ridiculous pioneering. You’ll
feel a weight lifting off your shoulders. Did I say stop thinking about what
others think of you? Repeat to yourself, “I don’t care what they think”. Take
back more control and get full time work. Get your own place. You’re 30, almost
at the ½ point of your life. Next,
decide who you want to date and if you want to get married. He doesn’t have to
be a JW. Stop being a wuss. You need to do more than dip a toe. The world is full of great people. The “world is so bad” is a JW.Org
fallacy…a controlling cult falsehood. If you decide you want to be married, be
extremely careful that you are compatible. A mistake can really mess up your
life.
You can be happier. Good Luck!
...And the weak ‘brother’ from another country? Experience has
taught me it’s always good to look for someone ‘genuine’. Hope you get my
drift.