Well, I guess you got exactly what you aimed for, everyone agreeing with your point of view!
Seems to me though that everyone who replied had less than half the correct information to go on.
Reading between the lines I get
1. You are focussed MONEY
You make the statement often that you earn way more than him. Proud to earn 3 times as much as him.
Maybe he has a problem with money, but maybe you do too.
2. You are focussed on what this nasty man says to your precious boys.
Sorry lady, most 'precious' boys that are brought up in broken and breaking homes are in the 'dificult to deal with' class and he is probably simply having a great deal of difficulty dealing with their cheek and other forms of rebellion that he can do nothing about and you probably dont even see. It sounds to me like he feels frustrated in his position as nobody in respect to your boys.
He may be jealous, but more than likely he just feels out of place and irritated by them. You have said nothing of your efforts to help him adjust to 2 teenage boys, likely with them 'challenging' him at every opportunity.
You mention that his marriages broke up at 3 years and say that that means he is no good at it, but you failed at yours too. Unless you feel that wasnt your fault, in which case why are you so confident that his breakups were his fault? Obviously you may have some facts that we are not privvy to, but that simply means that my previous post was correct and that you can really achieve nothing in a relationship by posting a few words on a forum.
Also reading between the lines (actually almost stated by you) you want this marriage to be over and you have already taken steps to do it. You seem to just want the comfort of hearing that you are doing the right thing.
Sorry to say though that with such skimpy info as you have provided their input means nothing.
I have very little to go on to make the statements I make, this is true. But it is at least as much as the others have posted, I have just not gone with the flow and looked for the obvious.
As I said previously, you had already stated you earned more than him, so why go further and state that you earn 3 times as much unless you really are focused on the money and actually look down at him for not earning enough. Sounds to me like you dont think he meets your standards financially.
All the previous posters have jumped in and judged your husband quickly on the few words that you said. I am judging you on what you said.
See how easy it is to be judgemental?
It seems at first that I am against you. However, perhaps the person that has had no say in all of this needed someone to speak for him? That is me.
Hekate