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  How do you handle the childrens Questions?

  by lydia in

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  how did you handle the childrens questions when you left he borg??.

  were they old enough to understand, or young?.

  if older - did they see the same things occuring as you did??.

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  lol safe your daughter sounds a lot like mine...caught her recently in the tub singing a song about how glad she was she didn't have to go to boring meetings anymore and gets to celebrate holidays! Totally cracked me up!

  Seriously though...my daughter was around 5 when we quit going. We had been the good JW parents too...taught her that Santa was pagan...oh yes she shouted it out at the mall during Christmas...the church that we can see from our house was labeled "pagan" also...one of her first words was "Jehovah"....she went on stage with me at the age of 4 during a talk. But one of my defining moments was on her birthday when she started crying because she didn't feel special and wanted to know why she couldn't celebrate her birthday. When I couldn't explain this to her I decided then and there that Damn It I was going to celebrate it and no one was going to tell me different!!!!

  We explained to her that we had discovered that some of the teachings of the JW's weren't right...and when things come up at school, like the pledge and holidays...we sit down with her and discuss them...get her imput on how she feels about them and help her to make her own decisions about what she wants to do. Our main goal in life now is to teach her to use her sense of reason to make her own informed decisions. My family scared her a little with the Armagaddon stuff, but we calmly explained to her that if there was a God he would be a lot more mercyful then they make him out to be...and then we told my family that if they ever did anything like that again they would not be allowed to see her anymore. She is a little confused over the fact that one of my sisters refused to see me when she was here...but again we just calmly explained things to her...kids are very very smart...communication seems to be a crucial key in helping them make this and really any adjustment in their lives.

  Well now that I have rambled on an on...I will go..and hope this was a little help!
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  df vs disassociation

  by freebird in

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  can someone provide me some insight or past experience with the pros and cons to disassociating oneself versus getting disfellowshipped?

  besides the obvious of not having to deal with the lynch squad.

  thanks for you comments.

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  I am with number6 and william on this one...if you don't believe in them anymore..why allow them any more control over your life. D/F or D/A those words don't apply to me anymore...I have left off being a JW and that says it all for me!

  PS I am sorry qadreena but I have NEVER in the 20 some odd years I have been a JW ever heard of an unbaptised publisher being D/Aed...marked as bad association yes..but D/A...no...but I guess stranger things can happen...
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  a little about myself, part one

  by shecky2 in

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  i've been posting here for a few months now but i suddenly realized that i don't say a whole lot.

  so i thought i would tell you all a little about myself.. i was born in a little village on the base of the andes mountains called urumbamba in peru.

  my father, a local witch doctor left my mother when i was born because he thought my mother had given birth to the devil.

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  Nothing like picking men up off the streets, bathing them and putting them under the hood of your sleek limo...oh yea baby...come to American with me!!!
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  Re: Survey for US people: America is the best?

  by fodeja in

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  for every person, there seem to be things they just don't understand.

  for me, it's nationalism in more than homeopathic doses.

  i wouldn't have expected to meet that much nationalism on an ex-jw board, but then, life holds many surprises.

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  the universal citizen

  I like that idea! Maybe someday Camel everyone will view themselves in this way.....

  Looking thru rose colored glasses this evening
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  Re: Survey for US people: America is the best?

  by fodeja in

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  for every person, there seem to be things they just don't understand.

  for me, it's nationalism in more than homeopathic doses.

  i wouldn't have expected to meet that much nationalism on an ex-jw board, but then, life holds many surprises.

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  Do I think the US is the best....well it is the best for me and mine since it is ours. I think people just don't understand the US mentality. We tend to be very outgoing outspoken people. We fought hard for the freedoms that we have and we are proud of that fact. Yes sometimes we may seem a bit arrogant but usually it is just an overwelming pride in what we have built here.

  I don't knock other countries. I have lived in Spain (3 years) and German (2years) and traveled quite extensively and enjoyed immensively the diverse cultures and people that I have met. I am sure for them their country is the best...and I am happy for them and would never disagree with them...I think pride in where you live is a very positive thing and would deny NO ONE this....

  Shame not everyone feels the same way, huh?
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  Anyone From...?

  by Mister Biggs in

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  ...philly area or even the poconos area?

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  Is there anyplace you HAVEN'T lived closer????
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  Care to share your sexiest......

  by WindRider in

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  what is the most romantic/sexiest thing you've ever done?.

  for me, one of the most daring things i've ever done was to pick up my boyfriend at the bus station wearing only my raincoat and high heels.......when we got in the car i gave him a peek at what was under the coat.

  we didnt make it any farther than a nearby dimly lit parking lot without laying down the seats and steaming the windows.. ok; who's next?.

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  He has his moments Windrider....he has his moments
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  Going out with a bang

  by LittleToe in

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  after much deliberation, i decided to go "out" at the end of a public talk.

  it didn't go down too well, but at least i was able to give some of my reasons for leaving.. i've put some of the details on my homepage.

  i'll update it more when i get the time and the strength.

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  PorkChop look a how many posts LittleToe has made and when he signed up...he isn't a newbe who just popped up and started posting...he has been around a while...several people on here know his story and that he has been waiting for the right opportunity to "out" himself.

  I understand your being a little sensitive since the whole Danni thing, but LittleToe is not a troll and his experience is real.
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  Another Newbie

  by Kep in

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  hi there,.

  my name is kep, and i've been looking on and off for a while and hadn't had the courage to say hello.. however, i feel i should should introduce myself as i've posted comments over the past 2 days.. i have enjoyed this site and have been able to see that there are many good ex-jws, just like me.. i have been "out" for almost 7 years now, and in the last 6 months have finally been able to let go of the borg.. free at last....

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  Hey Kep glad you decided to take the plunge into the JW.com pool!
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  What Qualities Do You Look For In A Man?!?!?!

  by ladonna in

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  lilacs started a fluffy thread on what "men look for in a woman".

  i think it only fair that we ladies have the opportunity to have our say!!!!!.

  and.....it's time i had a fluff post.

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  Inside:

  Funny (this of course means he laughs at MY jokes), smart enough to keep me entertained (not real hard to do), but able to have fun, laid back and easy going, able to understand that there is more to me than what he sees on the surface and be willing to work to get to know the real me, very open sexually, lol and not easily shocked....

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  Taller than me, kissable lips, eyes that can look into my soul, strong hands, nice ass, and shoulders to die for....oh and an accent is WAY cool!