Just wondering....Take a 40 year old male ('cos he's an ex-elder!) who's been born a dub. He becomes disenchanted with dubdom and eventually decides to leave. Can that man ever reach the stage of being a balanced and mature individual?
i thought for a minute that you were describing me! i'm 40-something, but never wuz an elderette.
i sure hope so. at least i think so. yes, there are allot of hurtles to overcome. in time though, as in my case, you realize allot of who and what i am, i would have been weather or not i was a dubbette.
i think i am recovering well, not patting myself on the back though. i base that statement on the person closest to me and how she see's me now. ask her for her opinion if you like. maybe she'll volunteer it for you