"glenn close stepped on the stage to honor the academy members who sadly passed away this evening.".
.. what did the reporter mean to say?
coco.
What are we having for dinner? Mother!
What's that lying in the road? A head!
I've been reading Steven Pinker's latests, The Sense of Style. In it, he spends a good amount of time dealing with issues of prosody, such as the above, where we would understand the speaker's intentions if we heard it, but when phrases such as these are written, they can be ambiguous and confusing.
thank you for raising me in this religion, this religion that when people get disfellowshipped you have to cut off all communication, even family.
thank you for making sure all of my friends, work partners, family and 99% of my life was centered around this organization.
thank you for taking the time to study with me, read the bible, making me excluded from all school activities and friends so that my whole social life was surrounded by jw.
Having no natural affection, ... having an appearance of godliness but proving false to its power - 2 Timothy 3:3, 5Four kids all raised the same and yet one can't forgive...the 'Christian' one.
"glenn close stepped on the stage to honor the academy members who sadly passed away this evening.".
.. what did the reporter mean to say?
coco.
"glenn close stepped on the stage to honor the academy members who sadly passed away this evening.".
.. what did the reporter mean to say?
coco.
thank you for raising me in this religion, this religion that when people get disfellowshipped you have to cut off all communication, even family.
thank you for making sure all of my friends, work partners, family and 99% of my life was centered around this organization.
thank you for taking the time to study with me, read the bible, making me excluded from all school activities and friends so that my whole social life was surrounded by jw.
TDS: This post had nothing to do with me, I wrote it for whinny people like who who get all hurt when people won't talk to them, to see the other side of the coin. Get over it!
Really?
That's just mean.
You nailed the "other side of the coin" really well: a self-centered complainer completely lacking in empathy; a person that won't take any responsibility, shifts blame and just can't get over it themselves.
Maybe that explains why my children continue to shun me.
thank you for raising me in this religion, this religion that when people get disfellowshipped you have to cut off all communication, even family.
thank you for making sure all of my friends, work partners, family and 99% of my life was centered around this organization.
thank you for taking the time to study with me, read the bible, making me excluded from all school activities and friends so that my whole social life was surrounded by jw.
DOC: The problem with that statement is that this OP says he has a wife and responsibilities. That suggests he is not a "child"
Anyone with a parent is still a chlid. Also, holding on to anger and resentment knows no age limits.
thank you for raising me in this religion, this religion that when people get disfellowshipped you have to cut off all communication, even family.
thank you for making sure all of my friends, work partners, family and 99% of my life was centered around this organization.
thank you for taking the time to study with me, read the bible, making me excluded from all school activities and friends so that my whole social life was surrounded by jw.
JWDaughter, I couldn't agree more!
thank you for raising me in this religion, this religion that when people get disfellowshipped you have to cut off all communication, even family.
thank you for making sure all of my friends, work partners, family and 99% of my life was centered around this organization.
thank you for taking the time to study with me, read the bible, making me excluded from all school activities and friends so that my whole social life was surrounded by jw.
Incognito,
Some angry children want to hold on to their anger and never let it go.
It is almost as if it is some precious part of them. Unwilling to let it go, they stubbornly resist a reconciliation with a parent who loves them and only wants to reunite.
Unfortunately, the policies and practices of the JW religion inculcates learned helplessness and a victim mentality into most of its members.
It takes tremendous courage to overcome these behaviors, courage and lots of hard work.
Oubliette
thank you for raising me in this religion, this religion that when people get disfellowshipped you have to cut off all communication, even family.
thank you for making sure all of my friends, work partners, family and 99% of my life was centered around this organization.
thank you for taking the time to study with me, read the bible, making me excluded from all school activities and friends so that my whole social life was surrounded by jw.
Incognito, no. TDS is not my child. although the situation is extremely similar to that of my children.
Since TDS wrote this letter to a parent that will probably never read it, I thought I would respond with the letter that I would love for my children to read, if only they would.
It was therapeutic for me and might just help TDS look at things a little differently.
Oubliette
thank you for raising me in this religion, this religion that when people get disfellowshipped you have to cut off all communication, even family.
thank you for making sure all of my friends, work partners, family and 99% of my life was centered around this organization.
thank you for taking the time to study with me, read the bible, making me excluded from all school activities and friends so that my whole social life was surrounded by jw.
Yes, I do realize the situation I have put you in and for that I am sorry. Very sorry.
I taught you these beliefs and then I realized they were wrong. I tried to gently tell you as I myself was just beginning to wake up to TTATT, but I didn't exactly know how to go about it. That was over 10 years ago now and since then I've learned so much.
Everything I did was because I thought (at the time) it was the right thing to do. I realize now how wrong I was. I tried to get our whole family out, but your mother wouldn't listen. You know how she is. I then tried to get you kids out with me, but I couldn't figure out how to do that within the confines of the cult. Finally I just had to get out myself.
If only you knew how many times I've wished I could go back and handle things differently! I now know better ways to leave, but the end result is always the same. I'm out and your mother is still in. You kids are always in the inevitable loyalty bind created by the cult mentality and your mother's venomous hatred of me for being strong enough to leave the cult.
Since I've left, I tried countless times and in every way I can imagine to reach out to you. I love you and I do know how hard this must be for you. Even though we hardly communicate, I sense your anger. Although it hurts to hear you voice it, I know that you need to say it and I need to hear it.
I don't expect things to be like they were before. I don't expect things to be "normal." In fact, I expect them to be better. But I know that won't happen all at once. It takes time and it will be difficult. But it can be done. I know. I've done it for myself and you can too.
Have you thought about why I still reach out to you? Do you know why I want to have a relationship with you?
What you do need to know are these things: It doesn't have to be this way. Please, just talk to me. I can help you figure it out. I can help you figure out how to be yourself, your true, authentic self. That is all I have ever wanted for you.
I know you think I walked out and left you holding the bag, but that's wrong. When I left our family ended, but that doesn't mean that you and I have to end. I've always been here for you and I am here for you still, even now.
I love and I miss you, very, very much. Please, just talk to me.
Dad
