When the elders called and said they wanted to have a "shepherding call" I politely, but firmly, said I wouldn't be interested in that, but if they would be so good as to help me reconcile with a "still-in" family member that shuns me I would appreciate that.
The elder said he'd get back to me on that. It's been about six months. I'm still waiting for him to get back to me.
Let's just say I'm not holding my breath.