Oubliette

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  Waking someone up using WT Article on "Doubts"?

  by cappytan in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  has anyone had success in using this article to convince their family member or spouse that critical research of what the society presents is important to build faith?.

  this article has this passage that jumped out at me:.

  of course, not all doubt is bad.

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  Years ago, I put this advice into practice and quickly realized that I was in a cult.

  It's great to be free, but I really miss my children that are still stuck in the cult.
  
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  Need to vent: Wife just went in full cult mode, huge fight. she is so brainwashed

  by goingthruthemotions in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  out of the blue my wife started to ask me about my feeling about the borg.

  i told her i didn't want to talk about it...she persisted.

  she already knows how i feel, i told her that my biggest beef is that they use mind control, and yep she went in to how i was an apostate and how she doesn't want to be married to an apostate.

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  GTTM,

  Next time she calls you an "apostate" tell her that you resent that term and that name-calling is juvenile and hurtful.

  Tell her as you do not want her to talk to the elders about your private marital relationship and that no matter what, YOU will not talk to them. (As you correctly said, they have no legitimate authority over you.)

  Finally, reassure her of your love for her and love of truth (the real truth).
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  Layoffs at Canadian Bethel

  by wannaexit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  looks like the canadian bethel is following in the footsteps of big brother from new york.

  i heard through the grapevine that a number of couples have been given their notice.

  some of these folks have been in bethel for over 30 years.

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  I wonder what their pension will look like? 

  Zero, zilch, nada, nothing, empty, void, null.

  Imagine an sealed empty void that is black--an occult prohibition preventing any and all light from entering--and from which all matter has been removed by an intense vacuum. Then delete that thought from your mind. What remains would be exponentially larger than the pension of the most devoted long-term Bethelite.

  Now then, does "Tight Pants" Tony or Stephen "Ol' Rubberface" Lett have to worry about their retirement? No.

  Why not? Because they are the ones running this scam. At the very least, they are--as the visible spokesmen--the recipients of fantastic wealth by continuing to spout the vitriolic lies of this destructive, hypocritical cult that manipulates and exploits their members for their own selfish gain.
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  Conti Appeal Preview - Oral Argument Jan 14

  by Chaserious in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  with hopefully a good deal of interest here in the conti appeal tomorrow (or later today, depending on where you are), i thought that on my ride home from work tonight i'd preview what to expect and what i think the key issues are for any who are interested.

  i have had a busy few weeks and haven't had time to read everything, but i had some time to look at the appeal briefs during my work commute the past couple days.

  it'll be interesting to see what develops out of the network news coverage of this case.

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  The thing is it is not up to elders (or at least it isn't the law everywhere) to report a crime such as child molestation to the authorities unless they have personally been a witness to it, or have been specifically asked to do so by the victim and/or parents who will then have to accompany them.  It is up to the victim or victim and/or parents. They are the ones who have to do the reporting.

  What is legal/illegal and what is right and/or moral are often very different things.

  The WTBTS/JWs assert that they are the most righteous people on Earth because they worship Jehovah. If that is true, then their practices should always--AND I MEAN ALWAYS--be superior to human laws.

  And yet clearly they are not.

  This is conclusive evidence that the policies and practices of JWs are NOT informed by the creator of the Universe.

  End of story.

  It's really not that difficult a problem if one isn't married to the idea that JWs "have the Truth" to the exclusion of all other people.
  

  Let's review: It's a cult!

  
  
  
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  Why a doubter/fader CANNOT participate in Family Worship/ How to get out it," WT Style."

  by DATA-DOG in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  family worship night is a boring, depressing, stifling, watchtarded indoctrination/brainwashing session.

  it never ends.

  like all things wt, there is no end in sight.

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  Um, I don't think you really understand how this works: To be a good and faithful JW you just need to OBEY whatever it is that the WTBTS Leadership (aka "The Governing Body") is saying now.

  Whatever they said in the past is irrelevant. Arguments based on reason and/or logic are irrelevant. Pointing out inconsistencies in doctrine will only get YOU in trouble.

  A much simpler and much cleaner approach is this: Just stop going. 

  If, and when, anyone asks why, reply, "I don't want to."

  If they say, "Why not?"

  Say, "It's none of your business."

  Done and done.
  
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  3rd Gen DF'd finally writing

  by AFreeBeliever in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i've been reading many of the postings on this forum for a couplefew years, finally joined today.

  i think reading cappytan, and others like that, compelled me to share, it seems i might have a bit of a different outcome than many i have read, perhaps it will be hopeful/helpful to someone.. i was a born-in, 3rd gen jw, my entire family (parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and most all of my childhood friends) were in.

  some dropped by the wayside as the years went on, but many stayed in, and if they didn't, they still acted/talked as if they believed it was "the truth" and it was their weaknesses/failings that made them stop attending.

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  It's pretty interesting who the first three people are that greeted you!
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  3rd Gen DF'd finally writing

  by AFreeBeliever in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i've been reading many of the postings on this forum for a couplefew years, finally joined today.

  i think reading cappytan, and others like that, compelled me to share, it seems i might have a bit of a different outcome than many i have read, perhaps it will be hopeful/helpful to someone.. i was a born-in, 3rd gen jw, my entire family (parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and most all of my childhood friends) were in.

  some dropped by the wayside as the years went on, but many stayed in, and if they didn't, they still acted/talked as if they believed it was "the truth" and it was their weaknesses/failings that made them stop attending.

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  AFreeBeliever, welcome!
  
  And thanks for sharing your story.
  
  The most important thing you begin to develop is faith in yourself. There really is nothing else.
  
  Because, ultimately, the most important relationship we have in this life is the one we have with our self. And you can quote me on that.
  
  
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  Awesome movie: "THE GIVER". This is a MUST WATCH for witnesses and those breaking free from the WT!!!

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  you have to watch the movie "the giver"!

  it is simply an awesome movie for every thinking witness, or those trying to break free from the org's hold on us.. i wont give away too much, but the concept of the film is mind blowing!

  utopia vs reality etc... conformity vs individuality and humanity... etc.

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  The book is better. Also read:

  Anthem, Any Rand (Lois Lowry was clearly influenced by this book in writing The Giver)

  Nineteen Eighty-Four, George Orwell

  Animal Farm, George Orwell

  The Scarlet Letter, Nathaniel Hawthorne
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  How to explain the HYPOCRISY of the JW blood doctrine with out getting DFd?

  by Crazyguy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the jws since 1945 have taught that one should commit suicide and sacrifice oneself to god rather the take blood.

  then in 2006 in an awake they said one could take hemoglobin even cow hemoglobin.

  since hemoglobin makes up 96% of what a red blood cell is and 45% of the total volume of blood and is the key component of what makes blood work, how does one explain that this is obviously hypocrisy and do it in a way as to not get dfd?

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  Pretend someone else asked you the question--a co-worker, a neighbor or someone in the "field ministry"--and say you didn't know how to answer it. 

  (Credit to Billy the ex-Bethelite for this powerful technique: How to ask a question when questions aren't allowed)
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  I'm at a loss at how to get thru to my parents. I fear they will die before they will stop shunning me.

  by cognisonance in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  all i want is this: for us to be a family, to spend time together enjoying life.

  i don't wish to debate about their beliefs when together.

  they can remain jws for all i care.

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  Mom, I’m right here in front of you now. I want to be a part of your life, I want you to be a part of mine.

  It's so clear once someone is out of the cult mindset, but it's amazing how someone under mind-control simply cannot see how deluded their thinking is.