i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.
i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.
i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.
MNIONC: Let me ask you something: Have you ever been in this situation?
Not exactly, but similar enough.
I handled it poorly and lost my sons. Don't make the same mistakes I did. Absolutely reaffirm appropriate boundaries. It's that important.
You might enjoy this thread: Relationship Issues: Boundaries, Freedom of Choice and Codependency
i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.
i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.
i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.
MNIONC: My wife will not permit me to talk to him unless she is present.
Dude, be the man.
You're awake but you're letting your still asleep wife boss you around.
You gotta' grow a pair and soon.
i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.
i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.
i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.
You need to tell this individual in no uncertain terms that he is NOT to have any further communication with your son. None. Do this immediately.
Inform your wife of your decision as head of the house.
If any of them even hesitate for an instant to respect your clearly stated direction on this matter, remind them that you are the God appointed head of the house and if any of them disobey you, disrespect you and do anything to circumvent your stated directions the consequences will be immediate and severe.
Say this calmly and firmly. Do not accept any response other than, "Yes, I understand."
a must see if you haven't seen it.
some scary stuff.
they pay their workers.
Just watched it. Very powerful stuff.
I do wish they would not have used Jason Beghe or at least gotten him to speak without dropping the "F-Bomb" every time he opened his fucking mouth. It didn't help the cause.
Although Scientologists are more kooky than JWs, it's really only a matter of degree.
I'm sure JWs would laugh that members of Scientology's SeaOrg sign a billion year contract, but the truth is: JWs agree to a verbal one that is supposed to last forever!
Last time I checked, forever is longer than a billion year. A lot longer. So who's more crazy?
They're all crazy.
The verbal and psychological abuse, the shunning and subsequent destruction of families in both groups are all very similar.
There were a couple of quotes that really resonated with me:
Substitute Jehovah's Witness for Scientology and both of those statements completely apply to JWs!
Let's review: They're both cults!
N.O.: Either way, it's been enlightening to read the responses to the question.
Good for you.
Ironic though since YOU NEVER ANSWERED ANY OF THE QUESTIONS POSED TO YOU!
i watched some of the segments on the jw broadcast.
in the video they showed how they managed their inventory orders for the congregations.
at the conclusion it was stated by the narrator how god is speeding up the work.. the problem is the system they implemented has been used for over two decades in logistics.
If Jehovah's been "speeding up the work" for many decades, then why is the organization still way behind the rest of the industrialized world?
Apparently Satan's system is a hot rod compared to Jah's pedestrian chariot.
It's just stupid. The people running this organization are only good at one thing, ripping off gullible people that mistakenly think they're serving god.
Let's review: It's a cult!
back storymy cousin, who i was pretty close to growing up, was dfd several years ago while i was still drinking the kool-aid.
i contacted her shortly after i woke up and left the borg.
we have been having great non-religious conversations on and off for a while.
it feels like you turned your back on him and the rest of the family
This is the kind of cowardly, mind-fucking bullshit that proves this religion is cult: blame the victim for their abuse.
THEY shun then rationalize/justify by pretending the person THEY won't talk to "turned their back on them."
This kind of personal dishonestly is appalling
i've been looking on this site for some time but never posted.
i'll give a little about myself, but not too much.
i'm a ex-bethelite ( brooklyn )and currently serving as an elder (10 years) (thinking about stepping down) on the service committee.
NEJ said, "A number of my still-in contemporaries (now mostly in their 30s) have been leading double lives since adolescence yet they still go through the charade."
See. This is stupid. It's no way to live.
There is no good reason to do this. The ONLY reasons to live like this are fear and cowardice. Those may even be the same reason stated differently.
i've been looking on this site for some time but never posted.
i'll give a little about myself, but not too much.
i'm a ex-bethelite ( brooklyn )and currently serving as an elder (10 years) (thinking about stepping down) on the service committee.
If you don't agree with the leadership of a group--any group, religious or otherwise--then why stay?
i don't post on here for often, but i read posts almost daily and i love our little community of ex-jw's.
a little bit of a background i was raised in as jw but was never baptized but was a publisher and believe it wholehearedly.
my father was very strict when it came to the religion and although i really quit going in my early 20s (which broke his heart) it held a power over me until i was close the to 30. at 30 i decided to enroll in community college while working full time and got my aa last year.
1) do you think it's a good idea to provide this quote on my personal statement?
First of all: Good for you for pursuing an education!
That being said: No, I do not think it's a good idea to quote the WT on your personal statement.
FYI: I'm a high school teacher in the United States and have written MANY letters of recommendation for my students. Several have gotten into very prestigious universities.
Do NOT go into your JW past. Don't do it.
If you really want to tell your story, do so with out mentioning the specifics. You could say something to the affect that you were raised in a community/culture that does not value higher education; yet in spite of that ... [your details here].
2) If so, can anybody provide the exact quote and the exact year, page etc so that I can cite it appropriately?
Yes, but I won't. See above.
