Stuck: they have refused the help of the elders who have offered to do shepherding calls on them
This is why I spin it around and say I have a personal family issue with which I need their help. (It involves attempts at reconciliation with family members alienated by my ex-wife. They are all active JWs).
"Please help me reconcile with my estranged children!" I plead.
But Elders naturally don't want to get involved in this mess.
I say, "If you won't help me with this, then we really have nothing else to talk about. This is the cause of all of my frustration and depression. This is the reason I can't go to meetings. It's too depressing."