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  Been awhile

  by outbackaussie in

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  actually, it has been so long i hardly remember who's who.

  i thought i would pop in and say hi, share alittle love and hugs with the folks that can use 'em.

  i hope kelpie is doing ok, i haven't heard from her in the longest time.

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  outbackaussie

  Actually, it has been so long I hardly remember who's who. I thought I would pop in and say hi, share alittle love and hugs with the folks that can use 'em. I hope Kelpie is doing ok, I haven't heard from her in the longest time. If you are out there hun *huggles* for you. I am also really surprised that it has been more than two and a half years since I registered here. Time really flies huh. Guess I better drop by more frequently and be part of the support that gets many of us through. Cheers Tiff
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  JW - non JW relationships

  by sjf84 in

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  i'm sure that if i had come to this website as a non-jw looking for information on this cult when i was dating my jw girlfriend, i would not have taken any notice of a message like this.

  but i cannot stress this enough to any non-jw in a relationship with a jw: get out now!

  it is only natural to believe that your relationship will be different to the other failed relationships between believers and non believers which you read about on boards like these.

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  I would have to disagree with you on this. I was a good little JW pioneer girl. Met a handsome, charming and *gasp* worldly man. We ran the gambit of hiding our affections, him studying to be "with me" , confessing my "sin" to the elders, being disfellowshiped for disobedience (not breaking off the relationship as my mother had instructed me to), being shunned by my JW family, having my aunt die and not be able to be part of her last days, getting married without my family to share my special day, struggling through the reinstatement process to be finally back in the congregation. And then finally realising what a farce it had all been. I left the JW behind, my family fortunately still talks to me, as I had been reinstated. My main point is that my husband of now 14 years, is still with me, he stayed with me through all the drama and tears and heartache that goes with separating from the witnesses. To advise people to give up on a relationship you are not a party to is a pretty big call. I am glad you didn't try talk my husband out of sticking with me! While I can sympathise with your experience, I would encourage you to remember that not everyone will go through what you have, nor deal with it as you did. Telling people to give up on a relationship because it is "too hard" is not loving or compassionate, it is bitter and condemning. I think most people would prefer the former.
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  Troublemakers

  by Xena in

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  i'm curious were any of you ever labeled troublemakers?

  lol i never was....i was the shy retiring type, pretty much kept to myself.

  a loner.

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  I was labelled a troublemaker, even before I actually became involved in any trouble LOL I guess some could see it coming.

  I had 1 Cor 15:33 quoted at me so many times it wasnt funny. Apparently I chose friends poorly. Or maybe I was the bad association, I forget which now.

  I had an elder's wife criticize a dress I wore to a meeting once, it had sleeves but cutouts on the tops of the shoulders. She said if I had worn the dress in israelite days I would have been stoned to death. I said if I had worn it in israelite days I would have been rich, as it was polyester and they hadn't invented it yet. She didn't laugh.

  I must just look the wicked type I guess, when I had the meeting with the 3 elders that had DF'd me, you know the meeting you have months later when you have tried to grovel enough to get back in so your family will speak with you again blah blah blah...well at that meeting they asked me if I engaged in anal or oral sex with my new husband (of only 4 months) which naturally enough, at the tender age of 18 and having been raised a good witness girl I had done nothing of the sort but I was so shocked that they even asked me! After my meeting had finished, I told hubby what they had asked me on the way home in the car, he wanted to go back and abuse them, dirty pervs LOL

  I got told off for wearing red when I had a part in a CA skit thingy. I was always in trouble for flirting, which I guess I did but hey I was 16 isn't that what you are supposed to do at 16? LOL I once had an elder tell me to wear a minimising bra, apparently my breasts were even troublemakers :D
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  What Would You Do If...

  by dh in

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  you suddenly found out that you only had six months to live, how would you choose to spend those last few months.. (morbid topic i know, but i thought it would be interesting)

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  I had to laugh at Surrepetitious, that is priceless :D

  I don't think I would do anything different to what I am doing now, which is being focussed on my family. I would want them to feel like things are still going to be ok after I was gone, so I would be trying to help them face that loss. I would be making sure I laughed alot, so my children remembered me as a happy person. I would make love to my husband as often as the children allowed LOL. I think I would be scared, but if it was happening...I would just try and deal with that fear, and let as much love flow as I could humanly manage.
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  I Finally Show my Face Again and with Great News!!

  by kelpie in

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  it has been a while since i was able to log on and spend time going over topics.

  i am sorry that i backed out at the last minute with the secrect santa.

  due to family obligations, landlords wanting their house back and job changes, i didnt have the time to spend to myself.. i know you are all dying to hear my good news.................. as a lot of you know, i miscarried the middle of last year.

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  I am soooo happy to see this news!!!! I will send you an email, as I think i have changed ISP's since last talking to you. We are still in Hay by the way, but looking to get back home this year.

  You must find a minute to fill me in on all the fun stuff :) ya know....EDD , the scan, morning sickness etc etc

  Totally thrilled for you hun :D
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  BTW

  by Aztec in

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  i felt wrong being away from here, so, i came back.

  i still don't want to be an ex jw and i agree with what ray said..... ona told me a few good things tonight.

  he said noone would hate me for coming back.

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  Hey there Aztec :)

  I didn't know you had gone, as I don't frequent this place as much as I once did. I dropped in and saw your name and it made me smile to recall the chat we had on MSN one afternoon.

  Hope you find your way through the hurt and rage soon sweety.
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  Wanted: All Aussies!

  by iamfree in

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  just want to know who's around in my part of the world, rather than plowing thur the members directory!

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  Hey!!! ME ME ME :)

  Live in Hay NSW atm. Really a coastie though, from Umina, and we will be going back eventually.
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  Lost my job cause of the dubs!

  by kelpie in

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  these last two weeks have been just plain awful for me... 2 weeks i hope to never have to go through.

  firstly my mum disowns me, then i lose my baby and get an infection from the miscarriage.

  i go back to work after having 10 days off to find out i have lost my job.

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  Oh Kim, I am so so sorry for your loss(es). Especially at such an emotionally turbulent time. If you still have my phone number please give me a call over the weekend. Even if I am online or out, leave a message and I will call you back. Huge hugs sweety, try stay strong,,,I know it will be so very hard, but many people are holding you up in spirit, and their prayers and love will give you that little extra you need. Draw deep from that well, it is deep and powerful, more than we ever dare imagine. We are all here for you.
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  Gday

  by outbackaussie in

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  it's been quite awhile since i posted, just seem to be busy all the time.

  *sigh* no excuse i know.

  well, i hope you all have been well, ozzie good to see you are still keeping the world up to date with detailed fine wine reviews :).

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  Hey Aztec :) Thanks for asking after me. Nothing dramatic happening down here. I started working parttime 2 days a week which is keeping me busy, plus 2 kids to run around after the rest of the time. But we are all well and happy, if at times a little stressed and frazzled :)

  Haven't had much time to keep up with everyone here though *sigh* I will try harder!
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  Gday

  by outbackaussie in

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  it's been quite awhile since i posted, just seem to be busy all the time.

  *sigh* no excuse i know.

  well, i hope you all have been well, ozzie good to see you are still keeping the world up to date with detailed fine wine reviews :).

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  outbackaussie

  It's been quite awhile since I posted, just seem to be busy all the time. *sigh* no excuse I know. Well, I hope you all have been well, Ozzie good to see you are still keeping the world up to date with detailed fine wine reviews :)

  I noticed this media release on the NSW Police website

  http://www.police.nsw.gov.au/media/detail.cfm?ObjectID=4405&SectionID=media

  seems another predator will be facing court on child abuse charges.. and not far from where I live. I wonder what church he was a minister in? Anyway, one can only hope some small measure of justice is meted out.

  Hey, Kelps, how are you? Haven't had Yahoo IM on much of late so I have missed seeing you online. Hope you are well :)

  I will try and not neglect this place, I really am a bad bad poster heehee ;)