dryology,
As Utopian_Raindrops said, marrying or even dating an "unbeliever" is not something a JW can be excommunicated for. An "unbeliever" being someone who is not a baptized JW or not preaching door to door with them.
If a baptized JW does date or marry an "unbeliever" they will be given trouble by the Elders and even other JWs. There may be a discourse given from the stage to the congregation reminding everyone there that dating and marrying an "unbeliever" is bad. They will read the scripture in the Bible at 1 Corinthians 7:39 that says a person is free to marry whoever they want, but " only in the Lord." Which JWs interpret to mean ONLY another JW. And they will read the scripture at 2 Corinthians 6:14,15 that says, " Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what sharing does light have with darkness? Further, what harmony is there between Christ and Be'lial? Or what portion does a faithful person have with an unbeliever?"
If the Elder give that discourse it will let everyone know that someone in their congregation is dating or going to marry an "unbeliever", basically humiliating the JW who is dating or going to marry an "unbeliever".
The Elders will probably want to know if your boyfriend and you have been sexual with each other in ANY way, shape or form. And that would be something that your boyfriend could be excommunicated for.
If your boyfriend wants things to get better, he will either have to stop dating you, which I don't think he will. OR you will have to start studying the Bible with the JWs and work toward becoming a JW. Then the JWs will have to begin to, more or less, accept you, because you might just join them and they would not want to offend someone who is interested in their religion.
But, you and your boyfriend could just GET MARRIED. And in time the JWs will probably back off your boyfriend. They may even get used to your marriage and start to do things with you and him hoping that you will eventually become a JW so that you and him will be two happy little JWs together.
Or, at least, call the JWs or drive to where they have their meetings and personally ask the Elders there why the heck they don't want your boyfriend to date or marry you. LOL
Let us know what happens.
Edited by - Smiles on 20 December 2002 1:33:52