I have gone back to being a lurker and have not posted here in AGES!!! ('cause I'm a "fraidycat"and my reasons are my own) However, this particular topic sends me reeling and indicates that I am really in need of professional help!!! I have read EACH AND EVERY one of the responses so far and have concluded that there is not ONE POSTING on this topic that I disagree with. Need to send y'all some money (via Paypal) for the free therapy session. This further "ILLUSTRATES" how insidious these coined phrases and words can be. If ever there was a moment of indecision for me , it has been resolved now. I'm not going back!!! This stuff is psyche ward material and should contain a warning!!! Flashbacks can be deadly!!! I just had one. Peace. Out.
Ah, and one more thing: DO NOT underestimate your affect on lurkers. The one you save may be your own.