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  JW Mom killed in house

  by Wordly Andre in

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  http://www.pe.com/localnews/murrieta/stories/pe_news_local_s_sdead29.4016de2.html

  murrieta - a 40-year-old mother of two was killed in her murrieta home monday morning, authorities said.

  coroner's officials identified the woman as isabelle jarka.

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  The Californian
  Oceanside, California

  MURRIETA: Man pleads not guilty in wife's murder

  Kelle Jarka could face the death penalty as prosecutors allege motive of financial gain

  By JOHN HALL - Staff Writer | Wednesday, June 4, 2008 7:17 PM PDT

  Kelle Lee Jarka appeared at the Southwest Justice Center in French Valley on Wednesday for his arraignment in the alleged murder of his wife. (Photo by Steve Thornton - Staff Photographer)

  FRENCH VALLEY ---- A Murrieta man pleaded not guilty Wednesday to charges he murdered his wife for about $1 million of insurance.
  
  Kelle Lee Jarka, 39, quietly answered questions from Judge Judith Clark at his arraignment at Southwest Justice Center
  
  Through his attorney, Deputy Public Defender Tracy Macuga, Jarka entered the not guilty plea and also denied an allegation by the prosecution that the murder was committed for financial gain.
  
  The district attorney's office alleges that Jarka killed his wife, Isabelle, about two weeks after taking out life insurance policies of about $1 million, listing him as the beneficiary.
  
  The financial gain allegation legally allows District Attorney Rod Pacheco's office to seek the death penalty, but Pacheco has made no decision yet to do so.
  
  Isabelle Jarka, 40, was found brutally beaten to death on April 28 in the master bedroom of the couple's home on Tamarisk Street in Murrieta.
  
  A coroner's autopsy later determined she had been hit at least 11 times on the head with a blunt object, which police have not been able to find.
  
  About 8:45 the morning of the murder, Kelle Jarka called 911 to report that he returned home after a short shopping trip to find the home broken into, ransacked and his wife's body upstairs, Murrieta police have said.
  
  Police say it took Jarka 26 seconds into the call before he told a dispatcher that his wife was dead, detectives have said.
  
  Detectives say, after nearly a month investigating the murder, that Isabelle Jarka was not killed by a random burglar. Police believe Jarka came up with a story about the break-in and ransacked the home himself to cover up the murder they say he committed.
  
  The errands Jarka said he was out doing when his wife was killed included getting baby formula for the couple's infant, but police say they found plenty of formula in the home.
  
  Jarka was arrested May 22 and remains in custody, being held without the possibility of bail.
  
  His next court hearing is scheduled for later this month when attorney's on both sides will meet to further discuss the case.
  
  Contact staff writer John Hall at (951) 676-4315, Ext. 2628, or [email protected].
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  JW Refuses to Let Husband have Life-saving Transfusion

  by fjtoth in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  jehovahs witness refuses to let husband have life-saving blood transfusionby lucy cockcroft last updated: 6:42 am bst 06/06/2008 the wife of a man who is critically ill in hospital has refused to let doctors give him a life-saving blood transfusion because he is a jehovahs witness.john edwards, 57, suffered severe injuries when a motorist suspected of drink-driving knocked him over and medics have warned he could only have days to live if he does not have the transfusion.. but his wife sheila said he has signed a form banning any blood transfusions in the event of an accident or illness, because their religion forbids it.. it is believed she is rejecting repeated pleas from doctors hoping to change her mind.. the couple's sons, jonathan, 36 and tom, 29, do not share their beliefs and it was unclear last night whether they supported their mother's decision.. a family source said: "sheila is adamant that john must not have blood.

  she says giving him a transfusion would be like assaulting him, and he wouldn't want to live knowing he had disobeyed his god.. "she is in a terrible state, constantly in tears at his bedside, but won't give in to requests from anyone.

  her sons are both with her but her position hasnt budged.".

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  I can't help pondering the insanity and twisted thinking found in this one paragraph within some of the newspaper reports:

  A family source said: "Sheila is adamant that John must not have blood. She says giving him a transfusion would be like assaulting him — and he wouldn’t want to live knowing he’d disobeyed his God. She’s in a terrible state, constantly in tears at his bedside, but won’t give in to requests from anyone."

  The "family source" is a JW. She should be ashamed of defending JWs by saying that "giving him a transfusion would be like assaulting him." Who really is the assaulter? The doctors fought desperately to save the husband's life on the way to the hospital and in the emergency room. If they just stood around and let him die, apparently JWs would not accuse them. Really? But if they try to save his life in the only logical way they know how, JWs would claim they were assaulting him--even that they were "raping" him, as they've claimed in other cases!

  Then the JW "family source" said "he wouldn't want to live knowing he'd disobeyed his God." So the God of the JWs holds it against you and you should feel extremely guilty if you are completely unconscious and helpless when others--not you yourself--violate your religion in the way you are being treated! That is certainly no way to honor the God they claim to worship and serve.

  Finally, the paragraph says the man's wife is "in a terrible state, constantly in tears at his bedside, but won't give in to requests from anyone." Why is she "in a terrible state"? Isn't everything going according to plan? Shouldn't JWs envision this type of scenario when they sign the "no-blood" card??? Shouldn't she be shedding tears of joy for getting what she and her husband signed up for?

  She has a choice, and so does the governing body of JWs. They can save this man's life and stop his terrible suffering by ignoring an unreasonable man-made rule that has absolutely no support at all in the Bible and by allowing a blood transfusion.

  What a tremendous burden the governing body has placed upon this woman's shoulders! If she refuses appropriate treatment and her husband continues to suffer and then dies, she will have short-lived hero status among JWs but she will be left with the scars of knowing she could have relieved her husband's suffering and prevented his miserable death. If she allows a transfusion, she will be a villian in the eyes of JWs. She will have saved her husband's life, but she will be disfellowshiped and immediately lose the friendship and camaraderie of all her friends of a lifetime, perhaps even the friendship of her husband.

  The Bible condemns the worship of images and the creating of gods according to human imagination. Because of their blood doctrine, JWs have brought themselves under that condemnation. They've taken a few verses from the Bible that they conceitedly think they understand better than true biblical scholars, and they've fashioned a god to worship who takes vengeance upon innocence and who rewards heartlessness. Meanwhile they completely ignore the Son whom God sent into the world who would say in this situation: "Who will be the man among you that has one sheep and, if this falls into a pit on the Sabbath, will not get hold of it and lift it out?" (Matthew 12:11, 12) Then he would add: "All considered, of how much more worth is a man than a sheep! So it is lawful to do a fine thing by saving a man's life with a blood transfusion." He would also ask, "'Who of you, if his son or bull falls into a well, will not immediately pull him out on the Sabbath day?' And they were not able to answer back on these things." (Luke 14:5, 6) JWs will doubtless be likewise speechless on Judgment Day when Jesus confronts them about their ban on blood transfusions even when human lives are in danger.

  Frank
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  JW Refuses to Let Husband have Life-saving Transfusion

  by fjtoth in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  jehovahs witness refuses to let husband have life-saving blood transfusionby lucy cockcroft last updated: 6:42 am bst 06/06/2008 the wife of a man who is critically ill in hospital has refused to let doctors give him a life-saving blood transfusion because he is a jehovahs witness.john edwards, 57, suffered severe injuries when a motorist suspected of drink-driving knocked him over and medics have warned he could only have days to live if he does not have the transfusion.. but his wife sheila said he has signed a form banning any blood transfusions in the event of an accident or illness, because their religion forbids it.. it is believed she is rejecting repeated pleas from doctors hoping to change her mind.. the couple's sons, jonathan, 36 and tom, 29, do not share their beliefs and it was unclear last night whether they supported their mother's decision.. a family source said: "sheila is adamant that john must not have blood.

  she says giving him a transfusion would be like assaulting him, and he wouldn't want to live knowing he had disobeyed his god.. "she is in a terrible state, constantly in tears at his bedside, but won't give in to requests from anyone.

  her sons are both with her but her position hasnt budged.".

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  The Sun London, England
  June 7, 2008

  Jehovah dad 'died' in hospital By NICK PARKER

  THE horrifically-injured Jehovah’s Witness being denied a life-saving blood transfusion technically died in hospital, it was revealed last night.

  John Edwards, 57, had to be resuscitated by medics when his heart stopped after he was mown down at 60 mph by a suspected drunk driver.

  But his wife Sheila, who is also a Witness, was last night STILL refusing to allow doctors to give him blood because it is banned by their faith.

  The Sun told yesterday how the family is in turmoil, because the couple’s two sons do not share their beliefs.

  Sources revealed yesterday that John, of Southall, West London, lost half his blood and may lose his mangled left arm – if he survives at all.

  He has internal injuries but surgeons cannot operate because he would need replacement blood.

  Sons Jonathan, 36, and Tom, 29, are respecting their mother’s wishes.

  They joined her in a heartbreaking vigil at council worker John’s bedside at Ealing Hospital, West London.

  Tom told The Sun: “My dad has always made his own decisions. Hopefully he will be able to speak for himself soon.”

  Sheila, 61, told medics John signed a form refusing to have a transfusion – but she cannot find it.

  A family source said: “It’s torture for Tom and Jonathan to watch their father suffer when blood could save him.”
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  JW Refuses to Let Husband have Life-saving Transfusion

  by fjtoth in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  jehovahs witness refuses to let husband have life-saving blood transfusionby lucy cockcroft last updated: 6:42 am bst 06/06/2008 the wife of a man who is critically ill in hospital has refused to let doctors give him a life-saving blood transfusion because he is a jehovahs witness.john edwards, 57, suffered severe injuries when a motorist suspected of drink-driving knocked him over and medics have warned he could only have days to live if he does not have the transfusion.. but his wife sheila said he has signed a form banning any blood transfusions in the event of an accident or illness, because their religion forbids it.. it is believed she is rejecting repeated pleas from doctors hoping to change her mind.. the couple's sons, jonathan, 36 and tom, 29, do not share their beliefs and it was unclear last night whether they supported their mother's decision.. a family source said: "sheila is adamant that john must not have blood.

  she says giving him a transfusion would be like assaulting him, and he wouldn't want to live knowing he had disobeyed his god.. "she is in a terrible state, constantly in tears at his bedside, but won't give in to requests from anyone.

  her sons are both with her but her position hasnt budged.".

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  The Sun London, England
  June 6, 2008

  For God's sake By NICK PARKER and JAMES CLENCH

  Inset: A declaration to doctors that believers will not accept blood:

  This legal directive is an exercise of my right to accept or to refuse medical treatment in accord with my deeply held values and convictions. I am one of Jehovah's Witnesses, and I make this directive out of obedience to commands in the Bible, such as: "Keep abstaining from blood." (Acts 15.28,29). This is, and has been, my unwavering religious stand.

  A MUM sobbed over her Jehovah’s Witness hubby as he fought for life last night — but still refused to let him have a life-saving blood transfusion.

  Sheila Edwards insisted that horrifically-injured hubby John, 57, would not want doctors to give him blood because their religious faith bans it.

  But her agonising decision has left the family in a nightmare situation.

  Their sons Jonathan, 36, and Tom, 29, do NOT share their parents’ beliefs and can only look on helplessly as John lies close to death.

  It was unclear last night whether they had begged their mum to change her mind — or had accepted their father’s fate.

  Warnings

  John suffered massive injuries to his left side when a car driven by a suspected drink-driver hit him near his home in Southall, West London.

  Sheila, 61, said council worker John had signed a Witness form banning doctors from giving him blood in the event of an accident, in line with the controversial doctrine of their faith. She has not been able to find the form. But medics have been obliged to act on her instructions because she is John’s next of kin.

  And she is resolutely rejecting pleas to allow a transfusion — despite warnings that without intervention he could have just two or three days to live.

  A family source said: "Sheila is adamant that John must not have blood. She says giving him a transfusion would be like assaulting him — and he wouldn’t want to live knowing he’d disobeyed his God. She’s in a terrible state, constantly in tears at his bedside, but won’t give in to requests from anyone."

  Devoted

  "Her sons are both with her but her position hasn’t budged." A woman who identified herself as the Edwards’ lodger and a fellow Jehovah’s Witness told last night of the family’s ordeal. The woman, who refused to give her name, said: "There’s a real question over whether John will pull through. There’s no doubt that non-Jehovah’s Witnesses would automatically have a blood transfusion in the same circumstances. Sheila and the boys are all devastated."

  The woman said John was hit just streets away from his three-bedroom semi on Tuesday night. She said: "He was on foot and the car piled into him doing 60 mph as it came around a corner. By chance, the police were on the same road when it took place. They breathalysed the driver and he was over the limit.

  "Many of John’s bones were broken and there was a lot of internal bleeding." The lodger went on: "Both John and Sheila are Jehovah’s Witnesses but neither of their sons are. They have been married around 40 years. Both were brought up as Jehovah’s Witnesses. They are very devoted to the religion and he’s a highly-respected elder, who sometimes gives talks to the congregation. John’s also a keen sailor and has just returned from a competition with his brother. He’s a happy, outgoing person. It makes this even more of a tragedy."

  John and retired languages teacher Sheila are members of the Yeading Brook congregation, which meets at the Northolt Kingdom Hall in West London. Believers can absolve medics of responsibility by signing forms or carrying cards stating they refuse blood and are aware of the risks.

  But doctors still face dilemmas while treating life-or-death situations.
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  Has Shunning Caused Anyone to Miss Seeing a Parent Before Their Death?

  by jamiebowers in

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  2. friends

  reading about the passing of wings' mom got me to thinking.

  my mother has shunned me completely for the past 20 years with the exception of three conversations about health history.

  if i outlive my mom, the probability is great that she will die without me ever seeing or talking to her in any kind of meaningful way.

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  I do have a question for anyone who experiences such severe shunning: Have you tried just confronting the relative ... ?

  There comes a point where we can start to look foolish. I have an xJW friend who has been missing the company of her parents ever since she left JWs. They had always been a close family, but since she walked away from the organization they show no interest, not even in her son who is of course their grandson. This has been going on since before he was born, which is about ten years ago. This bothers her, and she has phoned them just to say she loves them. She sends them cards and other little things her child has made with them in mind. What she gets in return is just more disinterest and callousness. I and others have told her to move on with her life and to enjoy the companionship of others who will love her and her son genuinely, but she thinks she's doing "the Christian thing" by trying to keep in touch. What she can't seem to see is that her parents are gleeful at what they think is "weeping and gnashing of teeth by someone who has lost God's favor and approval," even though that's what they told her at least once. According to a "weak" publisher in their congregation, they tell other JWs whenever she calls, and they in turn gloat due to what they describe as "misery in the life of an apostate, something that everyone who abandons God's organization deserves."

  I know another xJW who tries to keep in touch with his JW relatives, and they too take delight in seeing "an apostate" groveling and wimpering, and they hang up on him at points in their brief phone discussions where he mentions or hints that he wishes the family relationships could be what they used to be. Sometimes his mother hangs up as soon as she recognizes his voice when he says hello. He said nobody would answer the door the few times he went to their home. He said he saw the curtain move each time while he was being watched from the inside. That kind of thing happens in other families I've heard of, and in my own family as well.

  Frank
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  JWs Run Over Dog and Fail to Stop

  by fjtoth in

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  milledgeville, georgia.

  reports from the milledgeville police department and baldwin county sheriff's office for the day.. crime digest, may 30, 2008. .

  daniel mcdonald and scott teague.

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  The Union-Recorder
  Milledgeville, Georgia
  Reports from the Milledgeville Police Department and Baldwin County Sheriff's Office for the day.

  Crime Digest, May 30, 2008

  Daniel McDonald and Scott Teague Baldwin County Sheriff’s Office

  Failure to report accident

  A Sportsman’s Trail Drive woman euthanized her pitbull puppy worth $150 after a van full of Jehovah’s Witnesses struck the dog backing out of her driveway and the driver failed to stop Monday afternoon, a sheriff’s report states.

  http://www.unionrecorder.com/local/local_story_150222436.html
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  JW Refuses to Let Husband have Life-saving Transfusion

  by fjtoth in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  jehovahs witness refuses to let husband have life-saving blood transfusionby lucy cockcroft last updated: 6:42 am bst 06/06/2008 the wife of a man who is critically ill in hospital has refused to let doctors give him a life-saving blood transfusion because he is a jehovahs witness.john edwards, 57, suffered severe injuries when a motorist suspected of drink-driving knocked him over and medics have warned he could only have days to live if he does not have the transfusion.. but his wife sheila said he has signed a form banning any blood transfusions in the event of an accident or illness, because their religion forbids it.. it is believed she is rejecting repeated pleas from doctors hoping to change her mind.. the couple's sons, jonathan, 36 and tom, 29, do not share their beliefs and it was unclear last night whether they supported their mother's decision.. a family source said: "sheila is adamant that john must not have blood.

  she says giving him a transfusion would be like assaulting him, and he wouldn't want to live knowing he had disobeyed his god.. "she is in a terrible state, constantly in tears at his bedside, but won't give in to requests from anyone.

  her sons are both with her but her position hasnt budged.".

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  Jehovah’s Witness refuses to let husband have life-saving blood transfusion

  By Lucy Cockcroft Last updated: 6:42 AM BST 06/06/2008

  The wife of a man who is critically ill in hospital has refused to let doctors give him a life-saving blood transfusion because he is a Jehovah’s Witness.

  John Edwards, 57, suffered severe injuries when a motorist suspected of drink-driving knocked him over and medics have warned he could only have days to live if he does not have the transfusion.

  But his wife Sheila said he has signed a form banning any blood transfusions in the event of an accident or illness, because their religion forbids it.

  It is believed she is rejecting repeated pleas from doctors hoping to change her mind.

  The couple's sons, Jonathan, 36 and Tom, 29, do not share their beliefs and it was unclear last night whether they supported their mother's decision.

  A family source said: "Sheila is adamant that John must not have blood. She says giving him a transfusion would be like assaulting him, and he wouldn't want to live knowing he had disobeyed his God.

  "She is in a terrible state, constantly in tears at his bedside, but won't give in to requests from anyone. Her sons are both with her but her position hasn’t budged."

  Jehovah's Witnesses refuse to have blood transfusions because of a passage in Acts 15 of the bible, which states: "Keep abstaining from blood."

  Those who accept blood transfusions are cast out of the faith.

  Mr Edwards, a council worker, was walking near his home in Southall, west London, on Tuesday evening when the car ploughed into him at around 60mph, leaving him with several broken bones and internal bleeding.

  A lodger staying with the family said: "John's condition is very serious. There is a real question over whether he will pull through.

  "There's no doubt that non-Jehovah's Witnesses would automatically have a blood transfusion in these circumstances."

  The lodger, also a Jehovah's Witness, said the couple were devoted to the religion and are members of the Yeading Brook congregation which meets at the Northolt Kingdom Hall in west London.

  She said: "John is a highly respected elder who gives talks to the congregation. He's a really happy outgoing person. It makes this even more of a tragedy."

  Story from Telegraph News: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/2082690/Jehovahandrsquos-Witness-refuses-to-let-husband-have-life-saving-blood-transfusion.html
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  How to survive the Distict Convention

  by is there help out there in

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  a wile back someone posted on how to survive the dc.

  i any one rembers it could you post the link.

  if not does anyone have any idears on how to.

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  During my last year as a JW, I had to attend due to being with relatives and due to being a Bethelite. But I couldn't stand it anymore. So I brought along a portable radio/tape recorder combo, plugged in a microphone to pretend I was recording, and I listened to the radio through a miniature earplug. It was the only way I could keep from falling asleep through such boring sessions.

  Frank
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  At last, proof that Jesus Predicted the Watchtower Society!

  by Wasanelder Once in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  ok, that's shameless, but it's the premise of this overdub i did of a jesus movie.

  i'm somewhat partial i know, but i think its pretty funny and very telling.

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhuus_rtfko.

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  W. Once:

  Excellent! It's worth five stars. No, I give it eight! Sadly, only those who know the real truth about the Society's history will get the full force of all the humor in it.

  Frank
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  Has Shunning Caused Anyone to Miss Seeing a Parent Before Their Death?

  by jamiebowers in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  reading about the passing of wings' mom got me to thinking.

  my mother has shunned me completely for the past 20 years with the exception of three conversations about health history.

  if i outlive my mom, the probability is great that she will die without me ever seeing or talking to her in any kind of meaningful way.

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  My story is similar to some of the above.

  My father died in 1998. I found out 4 years later from a Catholic cousin. She herself had just found out. She had been close to my father, and when he was alive they would speak with each other whenever she phoned the family long distance. Suddenly he stopped coming to the phone. My mother and sister would say he wasn't home. Eventually she got tired of this and asked when he would be home so that they could talk. It was then that my sister felt pressured to tell the truth. Another relative told my cousin that my mom and sister kept the information from her because they felt she might tell me, and they thought I didn't deserve to know.

  Frank