amac,
I didn't intend to be insulting. To tell you that you're naïve is simply to tell it like it is. I just wish you would open your eyes, focus your memory, and get off your high horse. Part of the reason I left JWs after being in there for 50 years was because of observing all the hurt that was meted out to so many people due to the stupidity of COs and other elders. Many women never had a chance and simply accepted what they were told out of a sense of duty to be submissive to men said to be "appointed to their positions by the holy spirit."
But I disagree that elders everywhere will tell an abused wife to stay with her mate.
And I haven't said that this bad advice is given by all elders everywhere. But enough of it is given that it's foolish to deny that it originates in the influence of the WT Society.
Again, I haven't had time to dig up my WT CD to look up all that is published on this, so I can't really continue my argument beyond my personal experience of being a JW for 29 years and ALWAYS understanding that a wife could and should leave an abusive husband.
One very important factor you're forgetting is that elders receive letters that the rank and file never see. They also meet with the CO and DO at every circuit assembly and at other times. They attend KM school and other seminars arranged only for them. So there's a lot the elders have been told that you won't find on any WT CD.
fjt
PS: I'm glad you like my picture.