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  Good Wife Guide in 1950's--Yah Right!

  by blondie in

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  the good wife guide

  have dinner ready.

  plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return from work.

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  LOL. Happy Man

  I must be doing something right, I don't need no guide on how to make my man happy. And yes he likes to come home and "KISS" me to, if you know what I mean
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  Question about field service reports ??

  by Silverleaf in

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  i wanted to try out the new "system" simon has created for us so i thought i would ask a question that's been bugging me for a while.. "field service reports" - is this the correct terminology for the 'time sheets' a jw fills out to show how much time they spend going door to door?

  what's bugging me is how do jws justify needing to fill out these 'time sheets?

  ' it would seem to me that god/jehovah would know how much time someone spent in service to him, and therefore not need a piece of paper to prove how dedicated someone was.

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  What's bugging me is how do JWs justify needing to fill out these 'time sheets?' It would seem to me that God/Jehovah would KNOW how much time someone spent in service to Him, and therefore not need a piece of paper to prove how dedicated someone was.

  Exactly!!!!!

  It's just another form of control and labelling.

  I know when I'd fill out these darn forms that I was embarrassed if I hadn't put enough time in the field service, or didn't place enough publications. So I'd try to endeavour to do better the next month. Oh if I only knew then what I know now. I would have told the brothers who would phone me at home, because they didn't have my report for that month and they needed to know the hours, and placements. I would have told them to TAKE A FLYING LEAP!!!
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  Good Wife Guide in 1950's--Yah Right!

  by blondie in

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  the good wife guide

  have dinner ready.

  plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return from work.

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  calamityjane

  Is this for real?

  all i can say is yah right!. Who made him king that he should come home to peace and quiet when the wife has been home all day, encountering wifely and mommy duties.

  If this was the pleasant scenario to come home too, he should be the one kissing her feet, when he got home to all of this and taking her to bed, and indulging in a little bit of " you know what"
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  I Miss My Friend!

  by Cicatrix in

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  i couldn't take the constant pressure of being under the microscope.

  and i just plain couldn't continue living what i didn't believe anymore.

  i don't have any family members in, and i don't regret leaving.

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  (((((((Cicatrex))))))))

  Well it does sound like your on the road to recovery. You'll be amazed at how many friends you'll make, and when they find out that you were once a jw, I'm telling ya girl, they'll welcome you with open arms.

  My hubby and I had a close relationship with a "wordly" couple when we were dating. After we got married we decided to cut ties with them, because it was "the right thing to do". Okay we got married in 84 and left the bOrg in 1994. A couple of years ago, I met up with them in a store, looking for xmas things. They were taken aback but never questioned me on it. We found out later that they thought hmm they're witnesses and they're trying out christmas, whats that all about."

  One night, my husband goes to visit them after my encounter with them at the store. He told them the whole story, as to why we left our religion, they couldn't believe it. They were glad to hear we were okay and ever since then we have gained an old friendship back. We do lots of things with them. We go camping with them, hike, bike, get together at xmas with them. I've never been happier.

  You'll be fine, and yes ask one of them out for coffee, that will be the first step to a long journey of new friends.
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  Have You Ever Considered Suicide? Have You Ever Thought Of Just Not Living

  by minimus in

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  i know of a few people that have expressed themselves over the years regarding suicide and their loss of joy in living.

  after reading some of the horrendous things some have gone through on this board, it is more than concievable to believe that you might have considered such options.

  i, personally have never had these thoughts, but some close to me have expressed that if they "could just sleep" in death, they would feel better.

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  Scully and Scootergirl :

  Oh yes, the feeling of just wanting to go to sleep and never wake up. That was me at one time to.

  Your on the jw treadmill, working, raising kids, working against time to make supper in a hurry and get to the meetings on time, making sure the kids are dressed and cleaned, getting the dirty looks or snide remarks about being late, yadda yadda, yadda, getting up on a Saturday and Sunday morning for meetings and served, never getting to catch up on sleep. Do I miss that treadmill. Hell no.

  There were times I felt like I was due for a nervous breakdown. Now that I'm out I don't feel guilty if I have to miss something because I'm just too tired.

  Guilt made many of us do things we didn't want to do. Guilt feelings are heavy weights on shoulders, and the society made us feel guilty for many reasons.

  Glad I'm out and free
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  I Miss My Friend!

  by Cicatrix in

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  i couldn't take the constant pressure of being under the microscope.

  and i just plain couldn't continue living what i didn't believe anymore.

  i don't have any family members in, and i don't regret leaving.

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  Cicatrix. It is hard to leave ones behind when you finally exit. But know that you're not the only one, everyone here on the board is in the same ship with you.

  I know when my hubby and I left, it was months before I told my workmates that I no longer belonged to the jw bOrg. They were definitely surprised, wanted to the whole story "eventually", and they were soooooo supportive. Whenever I would have a bad day, they would be there for me, I had a lot of shoulders to cry on. Shoulders I never knew I were available until then. I found new friends in them.

  It has now been years since we left, I look back on the old friends still in the bOrg, I feel sorry for them, because I know they miss us. We had great times with them, but they're the ones suffering. I left my parents and brother and his family behind. I felt like an orphan and still do sometimes.

  One of the reasons I don't miss them is because I have such a large circle of friends now, I can barely keep up with them all, and our social activities are in abundance. I can't feel anything, but happy.

  Give yourself time to grieve your loss of friends. But know you have met many here.
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  what were you thinking when you got yourself baptised?

  by greven in

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  my first post diappeared so here's another try:.

  this is actually more than one question.

  but let me first explain my own experience: .

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  calamityjane

  Uhmmmmmm. I wish I had a V-8, instead.
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  Celebrating!!!

  by Joyzabel in

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  celebrating!

  yep, tonight is the night we have purchased our freedom.

  yep, the boys can only say (no incidents to point to, no 2 witnesses) that they feel we are <gasp> apostates!

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  Well, its a bit early in the morning for me to be drinking 8:30 a.m., but hey, what the heck. I'm raising a glass, and CHEERS TO BOTH OF YOU.

  Well to the wonderful world of being labelled an apostate.

  Did you feel the chains released when it happened
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  Is it normal to "obsess" with this site?

  by kat_newmas in

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  2. experiences

  i found this site a few days ago.

  it has been the greatest therapy.

  for the first time in twenty years, i have just been given the opprutunity to "let it all out" and answer to every issue i ever had with these folks.

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  Me too, I'm guilty.

  I feel like I've become an obsessive compulsive.

  I have the board open at work, keep it minimized, and go on it every chance I get. Can't get enough of it, of course I'm stil pretty new on it myself. I'm sure in time it won't be such an obsession. My hubby and I have to share the computer at home, so things get a little tense, if he's on too long and I want to get on the board. We'll have to either break down and buy another computer, or just learn to share
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  Bike seat is killing my butt

  by wednesday in

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  i just started a new exercise program, i'm riding a outdoor bike.

  i haven't ridden one in years.

  only the seat is hurting my butt.

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  calamityjane

  My husband and I are avid mountain bikers in the summer. What you have to get is a seat that is either female or male related. And shocks in the seat system reallly help. I would not ride a bike without the two.