Samwise, I certainly understand where folks are coming from. When this incident occurred I had most of the same feelings. He should have avoided any contact with Soon Yi. I thought that then and I think that now.. But uiltimately the facts are what they are. He certainly could be guilty of child abuse; we will likely never know. But one thing I simply don't care about is what occurs between consenting adults. That seems to be a primary issue of concern with a lot of people on this site. Separate that from all of the other stuff. What you are talking about Samwise are perceptions and feelings.
It is the ultimate in arrogance to judge, try to control, worry, fret, make laws about or whine about what consenting adults do, and that is the same whether they are the same sex, different sex or of different ages. I do not understand why so many on this forum care about what consenting adults do; the same discussions are had when the topic is the LGBT community. Allen showed deplorable character. But he is still married to Soon Yi. Let's separate our feelings, perceptions and our own moral code from the facts of the situation. I am trained to do such. I also worked diligentlly post JW to do such. I don't judge or make decisions in llife based on hysteria or knee jerk reactions or some judgment criteria that needs to go the way of the dinosaurs. Try it, Samwise, you might like it.
Viola, your comments don't deserve any response. If my 'arrogance' about the inability of so many on this site to separate thier feelings and their own personal moral code from the reailiy of life and its compleities bothers you, that is your problem. There is nothing I have stated that isn't 100 percent true. If you think please point out any errors. Other than betraying his mate, everything else he has done is simply conjecture and accusations, unsubstantiated by any facts. Whether it was the 18 year old or a 20 something Soon Yi, all of those individuals were consentingt adults. Get over it. I condemn him for his betrayal and poor judgment. Whether he did anything else wrong I do not know. And neither do any of you. The pereceptions, feelings, beliefs and judgments don't mean a thing to me. Sorry Samwise. I refuse to judge him on things just because of Soon Yi or the 18 year old he dated. It's called being fair. None of that. NONE Of that is 'proof' of anything. To use that word in relation to Soon Yi or the 18 year old he dated is pathetic, and thankfully the individuals who made the very tough decsiiosna bout this case so many years ago had the same mindset. And conveniently those feeling as you describe, Samwise, are ignoring lots of real data that doesn't support your views. VIola went off and googled a song the other day about child abuse; why can't see and the rest of you all google this story - as I have - and read both sides of it. And think rationally about the data and facts we know absent our personal beleifs or moral code????
Those are the facts Samwise. Otherwise, I am not far off from most of you in my general disdain for him. Life doesn't revolve around the judgments and prejudices of so many on this forum. Sorry. Get used to it.