Posts by wannaexit

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Health - has anyone else suffered long lasting health effects from years with the Borg?

by Chariklo in

does anyone else feel or know that jehovah's witnesses damaged their health?.

i know many have emerged with depression, and i'm very relieved that i am not one of them.. but, being the age i am, (a large tribe of grandchildren) i was nonetheless pressured to go out door to door in steep countryside often in bad weather, and because i was doing my best to keep up that ended in an injury which has proved to be long lasting.. and that's not counting the stress-induced consequences...i won't cite them all here, but physical.

a few days in hospital and a summer spent on compulsory almost complete rest can all be laid at the watchtower's door.the trauma of actually extricating oneself from the borg is not stopped when one has finally written that letter that disassociates oneself from them.

wannaexit

I know of some that put off braces. Now they cant afford to have their teeth fixed.

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How did you fare in High School as a JW?

by PaintedToeNail in

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for me it was rather painful.

it was like pressing your nose against the candy store window, knowing that you can look, but you cannot partake.

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wannaexit

Hi missed out so much in High School. Dresses to the knees and for some odd reason the local rule was that young sisters shouldn't wear slacks with zippers in the front. So I coun't even wear jeans. No dances, no football games.......In grade I had the chance to enter a public speaking competion--but of course I had to back off because it was being held in a church basement.

But I was a good little dubby. On my first day of high school I wore a a watchtower and awake pin. (anybody remember those?). My mom explained that I should show who I was right away.

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I am signing off....

by Cagefighter in

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might be back, might not.

i really appreciate the historical information on the jw's this board allowed me to find out about.

it really put things into perspective.

wannaexit

BlindersOff1 said: Many on this board feel the smart way to battle the borg is from the inside .

Well said! From personal experience- I have 3 friends that have discovered the wizard behind the curtain. They are still in- with a little less cognitive dissonance

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Are disfellowshipings proportionately increasing or decreasing?

by yadda yadda 2 in

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i have been re-reading chapter 10 of ray franz's brilliant book "in search of christian freedom" (must reading for every borean-like jw and former jw), and i note that on page 315 it says that in 1995 there were 36,638 disfellowshipped, and 37,426 deepfried in 1996.. are there any statistics that show whether the number of expelled persons is increasing or decreasing proportionate to the number of publishers each year since then?

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wannaexit

the jehovah's witness movement has been likened to a revolving door. In and out. As a kid I remember hearing that approx 40,000 per year were getting disfellowshipped.

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It's Friday, I feel like singing a song.....c'mon everyybody!! Myriads & Myriads of brothers...

by Theocratic Sedition in

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google_ad_section_start 1. myriads on myriads of brothers,.

firm in integrity.. myriads we are on myriads,.

2. myriads on myriads of brothers,.

wannaexit

I hate that song :( but I like the new rendition:)

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Witness Speak: the worst of collection

by grumblecakes in

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so we all know the jw vocabulary is a weird one.

what words or phrases bugged you the most?.

a few of mine:.

wannaexit

pioneering

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Witness Speak: the worst of collection

by grumblecakes in

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so we all know the jw vocabulary is a weird one.

what words or phrases bugged you the most?.

a few of mine:.

wannaexit

Apologies if this was mentioned but a few expression that drives insane are:

One scholar said

Isn't it wonderful brothers

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I am signing off....

by Cagefighter in

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friends

might be back, might not.

i really appreciate the historical information on the jw's this board allowed me to find out about.

it really put things into perspective.

wannaexit

Tornapart: I appreciate your comments and respect your honesty. and I also appreciate cagefighter's feelings.

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I am signing off....

by Cagefighter in

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friends

might be back, might not.

i really appreciate the historical information on the jw's this board allowed me to find out about.

it really put things into perspective.

wannaexit

Cage: thank you for your thoughts but I would like to address a few things you said to me.

On your deathbed you will not be able to bargain for one more minute you wasted in field service at the meeting and assemblies. You are correct. On my deathbed I will have some regrets of times in my life that I wasted. You will too and so will everyone else on this earth.

Your parents have had their life and made their choices.Unfortunately my parents got sucked into this cult. They were simple immigrants who ended up investing their whole life in the organization. Its sad! However, I can't change that now. What I will NEVER DO is fault them for doing that they thought was best for themselves and their children.

What about you? When I started to figure things out, the first thing was educate myself. I got in contact with Ray Franz, visited with Andersons, dialouged with Tom Cabeen and read everything I could get my hands on. Once I became intrinsically sound, then I made the choice to ease out of my "amost 20 years of pioneering". I made the choice to go back to school ( in my forties). I got a degree and landed an amazing job. I also made the choice to instill in my kids the value of an education and sent them off to university. So please don't feel sorry for me.

It's laughable for you to tell me I have so much to learn. This was a reactive response to your generalized blanket statement that : this board is full of more people trying to stay in the org rather than leave it. I have no interest in keeping that kind of company. If you are trying to set your own" personal boundary" why do you have to announce it to the rest of the forum? Take your leave and be done with it. You appear to be an intelligent person- why make a comment that will generate incendiary responses?

Do you know how much I treasure [relationship with parents] the real relationship I have with them now? No you don't because you have never tried? I take umbrage to this statement. In reality we don't know each other. You can't begin to judge my relationship with my parents. Love and respect are important ingredients in any relationship, especially in the parent-child situation. I know that my parents would accept me even if I left with a "bang". But I also know it would cause them a great deal of pain grief . I CHOOSE not be the instrument for their pain and grief. At 83 and 76 my parents days are numbered.

So I go along with the status quo. I go to meeting (not all ) I go out saturday in service (spent in coffee shop)It's not a perfect situation--but it's doable for me.

I don't think I am doing anything than validating ( and now arguing with) their indecision and watching them waste their own lives. Really Cage, I don't feel my life is wasted. Unfortunately the Jw experience is something that is not easily shed. You and I and everyone else who has had the pleasure or better displeasure of being acquainted with this cult, will carry it till the day we die.

I am trying to make lemonade with the lemons I've been given. Everyone deals with it differently. Please don't feel sorry for me. I am a big girl. Maybe even a princess once in a while

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I have a girlfriend now and "me so happy"

by RayPublisher in

here is my sweet survival plan, post jw life!

...yet another part of my healing process...yes healing is g o o d.... .

btw, it feels so great to not have to hide and to able to put my picture up anywhere i feel like!.

wannaexit

she is a cutie