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  Your Opinion(s) of Others

  by StinkyPantz in

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  2. friends

  scenario: you meet a person and like this person.

  all of your friends tell you to beware of the person.

  do you ignore their warnings and give your all to the friendship or are you more cautious than you would have been otherwise?.

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  happyout

  I am a woman of strong opinions, and I form my own judgements. I listen to others, but I will make the final decision. A lot would likely depend on WHY my other friends don't like someone than if they did. I don't trust people that much initially, so my normal reticence usually keeps me from getting hurt. I haven't had a friend "turn" on me or deliberately hurt me in over a decade.

  Of course, becoming my friend is quite a feat, and anyone willing to put in that kind of time and effort can't be all bad

  Happyout
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  Polyester skirts and recipe cards

  by joannadandy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  ahh yes.. eyegirl and i were taking that long dirty and shameful walk down memory lane.

  tonight's topic.

  the second school, and why it sucked monkey nostrils to be a sister back there giving a talk.. you would think, no sweat, smaller crowd, less pressure.

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  happyout

  I, too, fondly look back upon my days on the stage. The wonderfully interesting topics that blended so easily into everyday conversation, the knowledge that you really did know all the scriptures in your talk by heart, the fact that your "householder" was guaranteed to show interest and practically beg on bended knee for a bible study. The understanding elder always praising your efforts, the congregation applauding politely as you exited the stage knowing you had made a "pleasing odor" to Jehovah.

  Aaaahhhhh, I remember it well.

  Happyout (whose drinking is obviously out of control)
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  Do you address people by their "religious" titles?

  by happyout in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  even though i have been out of the borg for over a decade, when i run into an older witness, i sometimes still slip and say brother or sister so and so.. i was married by a baptist minister, and my husband insists that i address him as reverend.

  this tends to make me a tad uncomfortable, although i don't know why.. when i lost my daughter, the hospital chaplain came by, and i easily referred to him as father, and never thought twice about it.

  i know there were a lot more important things on my mind, but i wondered about it later.. what about you?

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  TJ,

  I humbly salute your unselfish patriotism.

  I aspire to be like you someday (wipes tear from corner of eye)

  Happyout
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  Do you address people by their "religious" titles?

  by happyout in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  even though i have been out of the borg for over a decade, when i run into an older witness, i sometimes still slip and say brother or sister so and so.. i was married by a baptist minister, and my husband insists that i address him as reverend.

  this tends to make me a tad uncomfortable, although i don't know why.. when i lost my daughter, the hospital chaplain came by, and i easily referred to him as father, and never thought twice about it.

  i know there were a lot more important things on my mind, but i wondered about it later.. what about you?

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  happyout

  Heathen,

  Yeah, what you said!

  Happyout
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  Do you address people by their "religious" titles?

  by happyout in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  even though i have been out of the borg for over a decade, when i run into an older witness, i sometimes still slip and say brother or sister so and so.. i was married by a baptist minister, and my husband insists that i address him as reverend.

  this tends to make me a tad uncomfortable, although i don't know why.. when i lost my daughter, the hospital chaplain came by, and i easily referred to him as father, and never thought twice about it.

  i know there were a lot more important things on my mind, but i wondered about it later.. what about you?

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  Brummie

  I don't address my husband as reverend, silly, he insists that I address the Baptist minister who married us as reverend Sorry if that was a little unclear, but you've just given me a good idea for a joke to play on him.

  Happyout
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  Do you address people by their "religious" titles?

  by happyout in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  even though i have been out of the borg for over a decade, when i run into an older witness, i sometimes still slip and say brother or sister so and so.. i was married by a baptist minister, and my husband insists that i address him as reverend.

  this tends to make me a tad uncomfortable, although i don't know why.. when i lost my daughter, the hospital chaplain came by, and i easily referred to him as father, and never thought twice about it.

  i know there were a lot more important things on my mind, but i wondered about it later.. what about you?

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  happyout

  TJ,

  I got your e-mail and responded. You're bad, and StinkyPantz tried to warn me By the way, did anyone participate in your neighborhood?

  If I am talking about them to someone else, I use their title, usually for purposes of identification. I guess I am freaked out about appearing to believe someone else's religion by buying into their title. Or maybe that's just my JW mom's teachings coming back to bite me. She was totally against us calling people outside of the borg by any title. Is that a dub teaching, or did my mom make that up all by her lonesome?

  Happyout (always willing to admit her mental shortcomings, few though they may be )
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  Do words that "just slip out" reflect true feelings?

  by happyout in

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  happyout

  Six,

  While I am easily able to admit I don't know the teacher's motivation (and have done so at least once on this thread) I am at a loss to understand when it would be NEEDED to make a statement like the one that was made. "A little Sambo sitting in the back of the class"? Why could she not have said, " a child sitting in the back of the class"? And, personally, I think the fact that she added "little" to the term goes far more towards showing some sort of bias than otherwise. There is possibly some reason she needed to identify the child by race, but then you have to accept that she knew the term referred to blacks, and it makes more sense to believe if she knew the term referred to blacks, then she knew it wasn't nice, at the very least.

  The fact that something isn't used often in no way detracts from it's offensiveness. Because I don't use slurs personally, I won't go into the many words that used to be popular, are no longer often used, but still have the same intent and affect as they did decades ago. I know you won't like this, but I can't think of any other way to say it: calling a slur mild shows that you likely don't know how it feels to be called one. I am not saying that you have gone through life without issues, problems, name calling,etc. I am saying most every minority person I know reacts to slurs, old or new, and that's just the way it is. (and by react, I simply mean they are offended)

  The one thing I agree with you on is the story is sparse on details. Maybe it wasn't a big enough story to warrant a follow up, but I could not find it anywhere. What it does say, however, is that two attendees of the conference reported the incident. Two. Not a lot (although I admittedly don't know the number of attendees). Seems like she almost did get away with it.

  I just re-read the article again, trying desperately not to be biased, and there is no way I think this was said without racial bias. You can sugarcoat it by calling it "home spun wit" but it's a slur, and she should have had more severe a punishment than paid leave.

  Just my opinion, and I think you and I will likely have to agree to disagree on this one.

  Happyout
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  Do you address people by their "religious" titles?

  by happyout in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  even though i have been out of the borg for over a decade, when i run into an older witness, i sometimes still slip and say brother or sister so and so.. i was married by a baptist minister, and my husband insists that i address him as reverend.

  this tends to make me a tad uncomfortable, although i don't know why.. when i lost my daughter, the hospital chaplain came by, and i easily referred to him as father, and never thought twice about it.

  i know there were a lot more important things on my mind, but i wondered about it later.. what about you?

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  Caspian,

  those are descriptions, not titles

  Your humble servant

  Happyout
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  Do words that "just slip out" reflect true feelings?

  by happyout in

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  Frannie,

  It is sort of a hard call with so much "classical" literature having racist terminology. I wish I had a good answer, but I don't. If you are not a minority, it may be impossible to understand how those terms can harm. Not that I think anyone should be mollycoddled, but I also don't think they should be demeaned. Things were very different just a short while ago, and the words that were accepted then aren't now. I'm sure it's harder, especially for the elderly (not that you are) to keep up with all the changes.

  And we are in 100% agreement on wishing that racial designations weren't used all the time. I don't know why it's always such a big deal. And I don't understand why all the changes ( I doubt you will ever hear me refer to myself as "African American") except that it is kind of an indication of a people in transition. For so long, so many minorities were made to feel inferior, and now I think some of them (blacks, latinos come to mind the fastest) are trying to shape their own descriptions. I understand the why, just not the path.

  Sometimes it is important to classify race, and also gender, just to understand the full situation. As in medical conditions, so called "racial profiling" , etc. I have no issue with that, and want to see those statistics used for the betterment (if there is such a word) of society.

  Anyway, nice to see that two such "different" looking people can be on the same basic page, huh?

  Happyout
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  Do you address people by their "religious" titles?

  by happyout in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  even though i have been out of the borg for over a decade, when i run into an older witness, i sometimes still slip and say brother or sister so and so.. i was married by a baptist minister, and my husband insists that i address him as reverend.

  this tends to make me a tad uncomfortable, although i don't know why.. when i lost my daughter, the hospital chaplain came by, and i easily referred to him as father, and never thought twice about it.

  i know there were a lot more important things on my mind, but i wondered about it later.. what about you?

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  happyout

  Even though I have been out of the Borg for over a decade, when I run into an older witness, I sometimes still slip and say brother or sister so and so.

  I was married by a baptist minister, and my husband insists that I address him as Reverend. This tends to make me a tad uncomfortable, although I don't know why.

  When I lost my daughter, the hospital chaplain came by, and I easily referred to him as Father, and never thought twice about it. I know there were a lot more important things on my mind, but I wondered about it later.

  What about you? If you run into someone who has "earned" their religious title, do you use it? How does it make you feel?

  Happyout