Coward is a harsh word, and for that I apologize. We all make mistakes. I hold to the rest of my stance.
TheSilence
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Question for the men
by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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Question for the men
by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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TheSilence
In this day and age assuming that the man provides the home and comfort, etc., is quite a leap. I'm not absolving women of their part in the marriage and I would take the same stance if we were discussing a woman cheating on her husband. If you made a vow to be faithful and that is the deal then you live to that vow or you leave. You can blame it on her or on him all you want... but once you make a choice to be unfaithful that is *your* choice and *you* own it. If a wife isn't providing what you need in marriage then you leave and find someone who does. Playing on the side is the coward's way out.
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Question for the men
by SafeAtHome ini'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.
if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?
would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?
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TheSilence
But plenty are driven by a need for compainionship and love by cold women who decided they "were no longer in love" or who didnt know what that mean in the first place.. A man is not obligated to spend the rest of his life suffering under the thumb of a coldhearted selfish bitch because he said "i do" when he was 19.
I agree, he should not feel obligated to spend the rest of his life suffering. What he *should* feel obligated to do is tell her the truth. Be a man and say you're sleeping around and if that's not cool then we end this. Or be a man and end it before you sleep around. This excuse holds no water for me whatsoever. A man talked talks to his wife and she ignores him so that gives him permission to screw around on the side? Two wrongs don't make a right. If she's unwilling to talk and make it work then you leave, you man up and leave your comfortable home to find whatever it is you are looking for. You decide what is most important to you... the comfortable home or the sex... and you pursue it. If you want both then you find someone you can have both with. But you don't lie and cheat to have one thing from one woman and something else from another. You want to have an open relationship, that's fine with me, but it works both ways. Otherwise you stay true to your vows or you leave if what you're not getting is that important to you. I have no tolerance for this argument at all. Grown men should be able to make the hard choices.
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Saw some JWs this am! Couldn't stop laughing
by Free!! inthis morning on my way to the office i decided to stop at the gas station to get some coffee.... as i am pulling into the parking space i see this woman w a haircut from the 80's the typical below the knee skirt and long sleeve shirt (is a 105 degrees over here in the shadow).... i immediatly knew she was a jw... she had the latest wt in her hands..... she skipped me and approached a group of young mexican laborers that were resting in the back of a truck... but... as soon as i walked out of the gas station... guess who was waiting for me???
the jw!!!
she wanted to do a presentation.. i looked at her and w/o saying a word i started laughing so hard the guys in the truck started laughing as well... she just looked at me and still kept trying to push her literatrash!!
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TheSilence
I will say that if the laughter was due to nervousness with how to handle the situation because it can be difficult to confront witnesses after we have left I can at least understand that. But when I read the opening post that's just not how it felt to me. If that's what it was there was no need to mock the hairstyle and dress, that simply made it feel like mean laughter. I hope that interperetation on my part is wrong.
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Saw some JWs this am! Couldn't stop laughing
by Free!! inthis morning on my way to the office i decided to stop at the gas station to get some coffee.... as i am pulling into the parking space i see this woman w a haircut from the 80's the typical below the knee skirt and long sleeve shirt (is a 105 degrees over here in the shadow).... i immediatly knew she was a jw... she had the latest wt in her hands..... she skipped me and approached a group of young mexican laborers that were resting in the back of a truck... but... as soon as i walked out of the gas station... guess who was waiting for me???
the jw!!!
she wanted to do a presentation.. i looked at her and w/o saying a word i started laughing so hard the guys in the truck started laughing as well... she just looked at me and still kept trying to push her literatrash!!
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TheSilence
I, too, feel sorry for the woman. While I don't agree with forcing your religion on someone else, I also know that every one of us who once lived that life did the same thing. And, as Sulla points out, I still have a sister in... and if I saw someone cause an entire group of people to laugh at her for her beliefs I wouldn't like those people very much (and being the big sister I am I would likely threaten to kick someone's ass). I expect my witness family, and really all people, to respect my right to my beliefs. If that is what I expect of others then I have a responsibility to show the same respect to others, even if they do not live up to that expectation themselves. How can you laugh at someone living their beliefs in one breath and defile them for judging you for your beliefs in the next? Hypocrisy does not begin and end with the witnesses.
Jackie
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Seeing the Thunder
by compound complex insilence is good.
she embraces and guides me .
along a shore whose sand crunches .
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TheSilence
Thank you for such nice words. :D
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For those who do not believe in the Bible: Why don't you?
by Chemical Emotions ini don't believe in the bible either, but i'm just curious as to why others don't.
ridiculous misogyny and mass murder by a petty little god are two reasons for me.
(ilovehigh-lighting) .
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TheSilence
What do you mean by 'believe in the bible'?
That is a very valid question. I believe the bible exists, I have seen it myself. I also believe Snow Flower and the Secret Fan by Lisa See exists as there is a copy of it sitting on my desk as I type. The wording of your question leaves a great deal open to interperetation, much like the Bible, itself, does.
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For those who do not believe in the Bible: Why don't you?
by Chemical Emotions ini don't believe in the bible either, but i'm just curious as to why others don't.
ridiculous misogyny and mass murder by a petty little god are two reasons for me.
(ilovehigh-lighting) .
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Can you think of anything that is postive about being A JW?
by jam inthey make good neighbors, why because they.
stay to themselves..
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TheSilence
Thanks, SBC. :)
Jackie
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Can you think of anything that is postive about being A JW?
by jam inthey make good neighbors, why because they.
stay to themselves..
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TheSilence
Growing up as a witness I learned that it was okay to stand up against the norm and be ridiculed for it if you were standing up for yourself and your beliefs and that something might even be gained from it. I may not believe the things I was taught to believe as a child, but that lesson has served me well in my life.
