Hi Donna. I too just registered to this forum. I loved your letter. I, like your father have a brain tumor and thatis the very thing that brought me out of the Org. When I first became ill I started to look at my own mortality for the first time in my life. I grew up an orthodox christian. I married my wife in 1993. I had no idea of her beliefs in spiritual matters. She is not a JW, but the majority of her family is. We used to attend the kingdom hall and we were progressing to baptism. When I became ill, I started to question that if I die, where exactly was I going. Even though I studied with the witnesses, and attended some of the meetings, I was not going to be saved according to their doctrine. That revelation ultimately led me to the truth about the JW's. Since I was not totally controlled by them yet, I was not afraid to look for myself. I felt I had the freedom to look for outside information. And look I did. It all started with a web site macgregorministries.org. I bought a new international version of the bible and stopped reading the JW bible. I compared many of the scriptures that the JW had changed and it all became quite clear they had changed the bible to support their doctrines. The very thing they preach about christsomdom doing, they had done. I was deeply hurt. All they had ever done I felt was lie to me. My relationship today with my witness family is not that great. I think they all feel that since my brain surgery and radiation and chemo treatments some part of my brain was affected and that is why I turned away from the JW's.
Good luck to you and I will pray for your father. I like yourself now have a relationship with Jesus and through him I know that however my illness turns out I will be okay.