My computer crashed..and my son had to delete all my stuff..and I am starting from scratch.....what a mess...I almost paniced to think that I would not be able to find my way back...I am not the most computer knowledgable person...and my son...only has so much patience for me...but I found you guys and I just wanted to let you all know that I am here lurking and gaining insight from the experiences that you share...I had no idea how caustic this cult is....until I read your experinces...a good sign is my daughter is asking me if I have any ney stuff to share...I hand her pages of threads that I have gotten off of this forum...it is not a benighn religion...it is a controuling man made cult...that uses deceit...manipulation...fear...guilt...I read it over and over in these threads.....thank you all so much for taking the time to reach into your experince and help another person from jumping blindly in to something that they will regret...my daughter was raised in my mission church...we scrap...we question...we learn to apply spiritual fruit to our lives...after we act real human....I smoke..I cuss...I act real bad...but I have learned to love...and know that I am loved...by my God...he will clean me up...the Holy Spirit...will guide me...I know my daughter has learned to listen to the leadings of the Holy Spirit....By the way...we are having a big celebration....my daughter has become and American Citizen...So we are having a big party to celebrate....YOU ARE ALL INVITED.....PLEGE ALLEGIANCE TO THE FLAG PARTY....now for all my foreign friends...just celebrate with us....SHE IS VOTING .........i CANT GET MY DANG SPELL CHECK TO WORK..SORRY FOR THE MISTAKES....
Waido
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Hello...looking for some experiences
by Waido ini am the mother of a 25yr.
old daughter...she has broken off her engagement to her young man..after discovering that they have a few differences in beliefs...she is sick at heart and so am i..after a year of dating they got engaged...then a year later..she dicovers he is an inactive jw...they lived together...and she has a two year old baby..he is not the father...but he is a wonderful man..and really was very good to her and my grandson...my grandson calls him daddy...well the issures started popping up...all of the sudden...he is a jw...and he doesnt celebrate...anything...not so much said..as he doesnt show for the festivities...sort of passive restance...long story short..they started discussing..issures..and my daughter freaks over the not accepting transfusions...her precious baby...not save his life!!
!...she is not a staunch christian...but she has absorbed beleifs having been raised in my church...now she is laying here with tears...and trying to figure out how they can make this work....he says that she can raise the baby in her beilfs...and they could just each beleive what they beleive...she is in that same mode..her heart hurts..and she wants to figure out a way that all this will work...she keeps asking me...she is twenty-five...i am her monther...i am heartsick...i want my daughters happiness...for the long haul...we discussed about the words warning of being unevenly yoked...i was hoping prehaps she could get some of your experinces....and your insight....thank you....
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Hello...looking for some experiences
by Waido ini am the mother of a 25yr.
old daughter...she has broken off her engagement to her young man..after discovering that they have a few differences in beliefs...she is sick at heart and so am i..after a year of dating they got engaged...then a year later..she dicovers he is an inactive jw...they lived together...and she has a two year old baby..he is not the father...but he is a wonderful man..and really was very good to her and my grandson...my grandson calls him daddy...well the issures started popping up...all of the sudden...he is a jw...and he doesnt celebrate...anything...not so much said..as he doesnt show for the festivities...sort of passive restance...long story short..they started discussing..issures..and my daughter freaks over the not accepting transfusions...her precious baby...not save his life!!
!...she is not a staunch christian...but she has absorbed beleifs having been raised in my church...now she is laying here with tears...and trying to figure out how they can make this work....he says that she can raise the baby in her beilfs...and they could just each beleive what they beleive...she is in that same mode..her heart hurts..and she wants to figure out a way that all this will work...she keeps asking me...she is twenty-five...i am her monther...i am heartsick...i want my daughters happiness...for the long haul...we discussed about the words warning of being unevenly yoked...i was hoping prehaps she could get some of your experinces....and your insight....thank you....
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Still around...reading all the posts....I am scared...I see the deception...I see the betrayal that is felt by so many....The manipulation...the control...and I am so scared.....Am I above manipulation...Noooo....every time I look at my daughter...I state the facts that I have learned from the experience of this forum....to think that they would seperate me (the smokin, cussin walkin dead) from my daughter and grandson...No weapon is wrong....I aint above dirty tactics....I would like the facts of college...the womans expected role...are veggie tales allowed??...whats the straight to the point skinny on pedophiles?...that would scare the crap out of her...she is quiet...sort of a suffering in silence that is killing me...and I am throwing little tidbits that I glean from the forum at her.....I know that my behavior is based on fear....but to think that I would be not a part of their lives....not gonna happen if I can help it....She was raised in freedom of choices...not on dictates...and I just want ammunition to strenghten her ....and keep my grandson and daughter....ok....I call fear strength...but sometime fear can be healthy.....I am honest with her...I tell her that I am fearful...and that my behavior is based on fear....but I can not help it when I see the stuff that goes on in the cult...that baby has been with me from day one...I adopted my daughter when she was 15 months old....I have invested in them.....I have spent my life investing in them....dirty tricks ....hell yeah....I told my daughter I would like to beat Fidels mothers butt...for getting her family involved in the first place....She said ....Ma...you can't walk very well...much less run...(I have Multiple Sclerosis...and my walking is affected)...hey....all I gotta do is get close...and she can consider her ass kicked....My daugher is Korean...but raised an American girl...and Fidel is mexican...on a work visa...but most of his family have migrated to America...his Mom lives in Chicago...with the JW daughter that she brought in.......just putting my pain and fears on paper...thanks for bearing with me....
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Hello...looking for some experiences
by Waido ini am the mother of a 25yr.
old daughter...she has broken off her engagement to her young man..after discovering that they have a few differences in beliefs...she is sick at heart and so am i..after a year of dating they got engaged...then a year later..she dicovers he is an inactive jw...they lived together...and she has a two year old baby..he is not the father...but he is a wonderful man..and really was very good to her and my grandson...my grandson calls him daddy...well the issures started popping up...all of the sudden...he is a jw...and he doesnt celebrate...anything...not so much said..as he doesnt show for the festivities...sort of passive restance...long story short..they started discussing..issures..and my daughter freaks over the not accepting transfusions...her precious baby...not save his life!!
!...she is not a staunch christian...but she has absorbed beleifs having been raised in my church...now she is laying here with tears...and trying to figure out how they can make this work....he says that she can raise the baby in her beilfs...and they could just each beleive what they beleive...she is in that same mode..her heart hurts..and she wants to figure out a way that all this will work...she keeps asking me...she is twenty-five...i am her monther...i am heartsick...i want my daughters happiness...for the long haul...we discussed about the words warning of being unevenly yoked...i was hoping prehaps she could get some of your experinces....and your insight....thank you....
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Thank you all so much for responding...My daughter has read your posts....and the clear message is that the JW experince is a most destructive one...of course she wants him to read all these posts and see the light...I dont think it will be that easy...We as a family are going to educate ourselves as suggested and are going to get the reading material suggested...thank you for websites...Makes one so tired to think that this is such a complex issue...You never even think that these will pop up in your life...I just thoughht that my daughter would meet a nice young man...get married and have a great life...I did make my daughter laugh..We were going around to cult sites and my son said...Whats a Hare Krishna?...I said dont worry about it...your sister hasnt met one of those yet..well cross that bridge when we get there...she laughed...was good to see her laugh...thanks to you all...very hard day...very hard week...I met some of you in chat today...and thank you for your responses...I got booted out and couldnt get back in...I shall return...this has been an encourageing and supportive and I and my daughter thank you all so much....
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Hello...looking for some experiences
by Waido ini am the mother of a 25yr.
old daughter...she has broken off her engagement to her young man..after discovering that they have a few differences in beliefs...she is sick at heart and so am i..after a year of dating they got engaged...then a year later..she dicovers he is an inactive jw...they lived together...and she has a two year old baby..he is not the father...but he is a wonderful man..and really was very good to her and my grandson...my grandson calls him daddy...well the issures started popping up...all of the sudden...he is a jw...and he doesnt celebrate...anything...not so much said..as he doesnt show for the festivities...sort of passive restance...long story short..they started discussing..issures..and my daughter freaks over the not accepting transfusions...her precious baby...not save his life!!
!...she is not a staunch christian...but she has absorbed beleifs having been raised in my church...now she is laying here with tears...and trying to figure out how they can make this work....he says that she can raise the baby in her beilfs...and they could just each beleive what they beleive...she is in that same mode..her heart hurts..and she wants to figure out a way that all this will work...she keeps asking me...she is twenty-five...i am her monther...i am heartsick...i want my daughters happiness...for the long haul...we discussed about the words warning of being unevenly yoked...i was hoping prehaps she could get some of your experinces....and your insight....thank you....
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Waido
I am the mother of a 25yr. old daughter...She has broken off her engagement to her young man..after discovering that they have a few differences in beliefs...She is sick at heart and so am I..after a year of dating they got engaged...then a year later..she dicovers he is an inactive JW...They lived together...and she has a two year old baby..he is not the father...but he is a wonderful man..and really was very good to her and my grandson...my grandson calls him daddy...Well the issures started popping up...all of the sudden...he is a JW...and he doesnt celebrate...anything...not so much said..as he doesnt show for the festivities...sort of passive restance...long story short..they started discussing..issures..and my daughter freaks over the not accepting transfusions...her precious baby...not save his life!!!...she is not a staunch christian...but she has absorbed beleifs having been raised in my church...Now she is laying here with tears...and trying to figure out how they can make this work....he says that she can raise the baby in her beilfs...and they could just each beleive what they beleive...She is in that same mode..her heart hurts..and she wants to figure out a way that all this will work...she keeps asking me...she is twenty-five...I am her monther...I am heartsick...I want my daughters happiness...for the long haul...We discussed about the words warning of being unevenly yoked...I was hoping prehaps she could get some of your experinces....and your insight....Thank you....