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  I feel blessed

  by vinman in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just wanted to express a simple thought.

  having awakened 11 months ago , i feel blessed to have awakened at this special time.

  i feel so vindicated.

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  Sorry, meant to "like" your post, using a phone.
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  Asking Her Out - Follow Up - Advice?

  by Garrett in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  soooo..... going to ask that wonderful lady for her phone number tonight as per everyone's advice... first time i will ever be doing that with a non jw girl...erm...woman.

  my dear female friends, what are some genuine questions i can pose to get a conversation rolling and what are some other questions/things i can ask/say to restart a stalled conversation?

  i'm very very shy when talking to new people... especially someone i'm interested in, and have some social anxiety.

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  Humor, if you're a natural at it. It get's us most of the time.

  Confidence, in who you are even if you're shy. Don't mistake this with arrogance.

  Look at her in the eyes, be present, get to know her. When you do this, your anxiety will melt away and you'll be genuine.

  Don't feel insecure just because you have the JW past, if chemistry is there it won't matter. We all have pasts.

  Avoid over pleasing. See her as your equal. Have fun, be attentive. If it doesn't work out in this stage, it comes down to chemistry ultimately imo.
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  Today I learned - I'm incapable of having a relationship

  by Garrett in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hello my dear friends,.

  while this post may not be entirely witness related, i figured i'd write out my thoughts here as a form of release and reflection.. recently, a lot has changed in my life.

  i'm away from home for the first time in a long while training to get certified in a field i'm not even sure i want to work in anymore.

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  Introvert characteristics make sense as well. Your abuse background ties in with the intimacy phobia. May be both?
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  Today I learned - I'm incapable of having a relationship

  by Garrett in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hello my dear friends,.

  while this post may not be entirely witness related, i figured i'd write out my thoughts here as a form of release and reflection.. recently, a lot has changed in my life.

  i'm away from home for the first time in a long while training to get certified in a field i'm not even sure i want to work in anymore.

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  Those are classic symptoms of intimacy phobia. It's caused by some form of abuse either as a child or adult/heart break in previous relationship or abandonment.

  It's a case of being afraid of getting hurt by getting too close and having that love/happiness taken away and leaving you broken.
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  Who am I to screw up their happiness?

  by Crazyguy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  that was the question to me tonight.

  because of their beliefs they have a moral compass, a net work of friends and a support group.

  they have what they believe is a loving god.

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  It's not simply a matter of a belief system as we're talking about intentional mind control here. The way a pedophile operates is very similar to the leaders of the WTS. The cult itself carries the same tone of grooming/promising all sorts of great things, gaining power over the victim(s), abusing, then denying and placing the fault onto the victim. You're family is literally being abused and conned.

  Is their moral compass that weak that they need to be lied to and threatened with the illusion of "Armageddon" in order to behave? Come hang out with me, I'll introduce you to many great people from all walks of life and belief systems, including Atheists and you'll get a real taste of moral compass. I am not an Atheist, yet based on experience I've found Atheists to have the greatest set of morals and they have nothing to gain.
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  If the elders were abused sexually this problem would have been taken care of long time ago.

  by Still Totally ADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i feel the real problem with the wt cult concerning child abuse is it happens to children not adult men.

  notice i didn't say adult women because they don't care about adult women either.

  i remember a c.o.

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  Johnathan Drake,

  secondly, statistics have shown for years that a person who is sexually abused is more likely to be come a sexual predator. I have read that in many places

  I don't know where you're getting your facts/ statistics, it is incorrect. Most sex offenders were Not sexually assaulted as children and it is a misconception that a child who's sexually assaulted is more likely to become a predator or homosexual.

  As for the problem being taken care of if elders were abused as adults. I know of an exJW who was abused as a child and became an elder. His case wasn't handled any better when the pedophile came back into the organization.
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  JW logo and symbolism

  by Illuminated in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  there's a recent thread regarding the jw indoctrination expressed on the net, particularly instagram.

  from an outsider looking in, i noticed this when looking through jw instagram profiles.

  it came off super cult-ish and robotic along with similar wording used as though everyone, male or female, is a stepford wife (watch the movie for those who haven't seen it).

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  Scientology: http://www.scientology.org/

  Mormon: https://www.lds.org/?lang=eng

  Jehovah's Witness: http://www.jw.org/en/

  They are all very similar. I wonder if they're using the same marketing company.
  
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  Anybody have any "REAL" experiences of spirit/demon activity? I'll explain.

  by runForever in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know there is a lot of people on here that will say it is pure make believe but i am interested if anybody has had any real concrete things happen such as something moving or something appearing in the mirror etc.. anything just post it up here even if it wasn't much.

  please give a little context as to the situation..

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  Spirits, yes. Most people who lived in a previous building including myself did. Also, a friend of mine who's dealt with/seen them since childhood. This is common and no it's not "schizophrenia". The average human mind only perceives so much, and we jump to labeling things out of our inability to grasp it.

  Demons? I believe in negative energy, however demons in the standard sense, not as much.
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  JW logo and symbolism

  by Illuminated in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  there's a recent thread regarding the jw indoctrination expressed on the net, particularly instagram.

  from an outsider looking in, i noticed this when looking through jw instagram profiles.

  it came off super cult-ish and robotic along with similar wording used as though everyone, male or female, is a stepford wife (watch the movie for those who haven't seen it).

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  The Searcher, I see it as an intentional branding method, targeting and luring people in from all angles. Scientologist play on this color in their branding as well. Ironically, the negative aspect listed in the keywords, fits both cults.
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  JW logo and symbolism

  by Illuminated in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  there's a recent thread regarding the jw indoctrination expressed on the net, particularly instagram.

  from an outsider looking in, i noticed this when looking through jw instagram profiles.

  it came off super cult-ish and robotic along with similar wording used as though everyone, male or female, is a stepford wife (watch the movie for those who haven't seen it).

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  Illuminated

  There's a recent thread regarding the JW indoctrination expressed on the net, particularly Instagram. From an outsider looking in, I noticed this when looking through JW Instagram profiles. It came off super cult-ish and robotic along with similar wording used as though everyone, male or female, is a Stepford wife (watch the movie for those who haven't seen it). It was a bit creepy.

  I wanted to bring attention to JW's being against symbolism. Why do they have the corporate looking logos plastered all over the place? It's symbolism in itself, is it not? So why are they against symbolism that includes humans (other religions) yet not against symbolism such as a blue square with letters that's reminiscent of the corporate "worldly" world or Scientology?

  Ironically, the square box shape of the logo is very much like it's members trapped inside a rigid box, unable to step outside of it due to the fears/phobias. Interesting note on the psychology of color, blue in this case:

  
  

  "Dark blue: trust, dignity, intelligence, authority"

  
  

  "This color is one of trust, honesty and loyalty. It is sincere, reserved and quiet, and doesn't like to make a fuss or draw attention. It hates confrontation, and likes to do things in its own way.
  

  From a color psychology perspective, blue is reliable and responsible.

  This color exhibits an inner security and confidence.

  You can rely on it to take control and do the right thing in difficult times.

  It has a need for order and direction in its life, including its living and work spaces."

  "Negative keywords include: being rigid, deceitful and spiteful, depressed and sad, too passive, self-righteous, superstitious and emotionally unstable, too conservative and old-fashioned, predictable and weak, unforgiving, aloof and frigid. It can also indicate manipulation, unfaithfulness and being untrustworthy."

  http://www.empower-yourself-with-color-psychology.com/color-blue.html
  

  http://www.colormatters.com/the-meanings-of-colors/blue