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Posts by goofy
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81Hello, I am Vivamus' Mum and new to the board
by Country_Woman ini am vivamus' mum, and i have heard so much about you, that i'd like to meet you all myself.
i joined the witnesses in 1998, but i have always doubted the organization, but not the faith.
i am still jehovah's witness, but i am sure that the elders will kick me out as soon as possible, should they know what my real thoughts about the organization are.
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Since leaving the org..what do you do with the time that you now have free?
by MoeJoJoJo inafter quitting meeting attendance, study for meetings and field service we gain alot of time.
i wasn't used to having that time to just do nothing and i've never been used to doing just nothing (relaxing and having time to stop and smell the roses).
so i joined the pto, my kids signed up for sports, i became a parent volunteer at the school, i became a coach and the list goes on.
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goofy
It still seems like I am busy all of the time. But I joined some sports, made some friends, ect..but I am still very busy. But at least I get to choose what I am busy with. What I do not miss, is having to stress about putting talks together. I always waited to the last minute and then had to make the time to get it together somehow. I am not very good at sitting still and such. I am a true sales person by nature, so I am not much into researching for talks. I am so happy not to have to do that anymore.
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Dress for Memorial
by goofy inok, advice please.
i just bought a red layered dress.
i don't know how to explain it completely, but it is a red chiffon and a copy of a very famous german styler.
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goofy
Nina, actually the dress has a built in slip, so I guess skipping the slip is not optional, lol. But I will say that I do not intend to walk in there, it has been a year, since I have been at the Hall, and hang my head, sit in the back and act humble. I am going to smile, extend my hand and say I am doing great. I am also sitting mid way up. I know how they expect inactive ones to act and I am not acting as if I am wrong and ever so humble. I have a right to live my life how I like. Maybe I will wear the dress and dye my hair a shade blonder than it already is. lol, I really don't want to make a scene or statement but will not play the beaten inactive one either. Sandy, the Memorial this year is the 16th. I may have said the wrong date in my original post. But is Wednesday, the 16th.
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While A Witness, Did You Ever Date A "Worldly Person"?
by minimus inhow many here ever dated a "worldly" person, while still a jw?
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goofy
Yes, I did. I even married a Worldly guy. Divorced now though and dated worldly guys after that too. Passed up on many good opportunities though when my conscience was "working" at points in my life. My only regret is that I didn't date some of the worldly guys I passed up when I thought I was being good.
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Dress for Memorial
by goofy inok, advice please.
i just bought a red layered dress.
i don't know how to explain it completely, but it is a red chiffon and a copy of a very famous german styler.
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goofy
Hey thnaks everyone, I think that I will borrow sevenofnine's boots and wear the dress, lol. Gopher: Yeah my Mom is happy I am going, but I know she is hoping is a start to me coming back and not a one night event (which it is a one night event). Myself, I think I might actually have to join you in a glass of wine when it is all said and done, lol maybe two glasses of wine. I loved you comment Minimus "Don't be goofy, Goofy, lol. I probably wear the dress, just because it's new and I do want to wear it soon.
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Dress for Memorial
by goofy inok, advice please.
i just bought a red layered dress.
i don't know how to explain it completely, but it is a red chiffon and a copy of a very famous german styler.
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goofy
Ok, advice please. I just bought a red layered dress. I don't know how to explain it completely, but it is a red chiffon and a copy of a very famous German styler. I know some wholesalers and bought this dress for $70 but it would retail for $400 if in the store. I have been advised not to wear this dress to Memorial because it would draw attention to myself and look bad since the attention should be centered on the occasion. It is a modest dress, actually ankle length and a little flouncy. But very elegant and it is attention getting. I have been told that I will look like I am being rebellious after all this time of not being at the Hall and walking in with a red chiffon dress. I just fell in love with this dress and had to have it and I want to wear it Wednesday. I am going in the first place to please family. I know how it would hurt them if I did not attend. But I don't want to look like I am causing trouble. Do you think it will look like I am trying to make a scene or wear a nice dress?
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An Apology
by Satanus ini wish to apologise to some guys, and especially to the women who have extended friendship, which i did not continue.
i feel uncomfortable w closeness.
when it is a loose friendship, it's ok. but i fell uncomfortable w anybody getting too close.
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goofy
I think it is hurt in a person's life. A person gets to a point that they just can't stand to be rejected or betrayed one more time and still maintain thier sanity. I think it can happen to anyone but for those raised as Witnesses it is even worse because we were rejected as kids when our personalities were being formed. School was hell for a lot and the people in the congregations could be very judgmental. I think if a person wants to live a happy life somehow though you just have to take the chances and try to open up and ignore the times we do get hurt. No expert here though.
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Weekend shot to hell by a simple knock on door
by goofy inhi all, just thought i would vent a little.
i am more mad at myself than anything.
yesterday (saturday) morning, after a very nice friday night of partying and chatting it up at my favorite lounge, knock knock on my door.
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goofy
Thanks everyone for listenning. Be Wise I think I may try your idea of writing things down and then looking at it later. It might help, my head is pretty screwed up at the moment in life. MoJO, thanks for the invitation to talk. Hey where do you live, (city)? I wish I knew some of you here in my city, but I need to be careful right now.
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I'm not counting my chickens quit yet, but...............
by WildHorses in.
i've been without a cigarette since the night before last.
wish me luck.
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goofy
Good luck!! You can do it!
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Weekend shot to hell by a simple knock on door
by goofy inhi all, just thought i would vent a little.
i am more mad at myself than anything.
yesterday (saturday) morning, after a very nice friday night of partying and chatting it up at my favorite lounge, knock knock on my door.
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goofy
Hi all, just thought I would vent a little. I am more mad at myself than anything. Yesterday (Saturday) morning, after a very nice Friday night of partying and chatting it up at my favorite lounge, knock knock on my door. It is about 10am, I am am just finishing my breakfast, long shirt on, no bra, hair not fixed no makeup. Knock Knock. I have a door with glass on it and a nice see through white curtain over it. I know they saw me dash and hide. My friends would not be knocking on my door unannouced on a Saturday morning, they would be in about the same situation as me. I could see there were two people. I know it was the brothers. I have felt so guilty and depressed since that. I feel horrible for not openning up but I was not presentable and it brought back a flood of emotions. I guess I am upset that they visit me because they have to, either to fulfill their shepparding calls a little late or Memorial invite. I am also upset that they didn't call ahead. Had they called I would have been dressed, made up and had coffee and donuts of some sort. Don't get me wrong, I have zero intention of going back, but at one point these people were my friends and I hate being a bitch and hiding like that,and especially since I know they saw me and I probably hurt their feelings. Then of course my Mom and sis lay a guilt trip on me when I mentioned it. I have felt depressed and went on a stupid drinking binge since yesterday morning, something that I have had under control for the most part. I have been crying and having this emotional thing brought back, too many memories. I was reading the Mission statement on the Awake last night, someone had posted about that. It changed from declaring the 1914 generation not ending, to now Armageddon coming soon. It made me so upset that I spent all my life so far and set my goals according to "the hope" and now it has all changed and now they show up at my door wanting me to go back, I am sure. I am just so upset and want to live my life and see my family members (which they never will) live their life normal. If I see the Brothers or Sisters I want it on a social basis only. I don't want the guilt pressure and all these horrible emotions that keep coming back. Thanks for letting me vent.