I was baptized when I was 18. It was Sept. 27, 1997, and I remember as they were asking us the questions right before hand when you answer YES, I was thinking, “Okay, I will be good from this day on. I’m going to stop getting crushes on worldly boys. Three months later I had my first kiss, with a worldly guy…who is now my husband. My family was sure that since I had just gotten baptized this relationship was evidence that Satan was attacking me. Whatever!
Charmed
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Do You Remember the Day of Your Baptism?
by minimus inyour baptism date is supposed to be the most important time of your life.
i was 9 years old when i took the plunge.
i remember my baptism, mostly because, i was baptized twice.
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WOOHOO!!! The Detroit Turkey Wings were swept by the Walt Disney Ducks!!!!
by Jourles in.
of course, colorado is now only one game away from advancing.
but we all know they are going to take the cup this year anyways, as the picture below shows..... .
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Go Avalanche!!
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I went to the Sunday Meeting!
by UnDisfellowshipped ini went to the sunday meeting!
by undisfellowshipped ([email protected]) .
i went to the meeting on sunday because i wanted to hear the comments on the watchtower study, and i knew that someone would say something about dateline or the silentlambs, because the watchtower .
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Charmed
I thought that I had read this before. I was getting serious deja vu.
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ugh....no more Bob :(
by LP_gurl inhad a good phone convo with bob tonite.
well i guess it depends on your definition of good but anyways.
he spewed for an hour straight about why we can't talk anymore and that unless i become a witness, we can no longer have any contact.
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Sorry about your break-up. Trust me that you do not want to lose your family for an organization. Bob is so brainwashed he would never be able to give himself to you fully. I think you are doing the right thing, no matter how hard it may be.
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At what age did you join the Witnesses?
by JH in.
at what age would a person have to be to join the witnesses and not suffer too much?.
if they are children, it robs their youth.. if they join in the teens, they won't get a decent education.. if they join at 20 years old, they will have to marry a witness.. if they join at 30, i guess that would be less destructive because they already are married, have children, have a house, an education and a job.. at what age did you join, and how did it affect you?
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I'm another lucky one that was born into it. Thankfully, I got my education and ended up marrying a "worldly" man, so I saved my 20s. Now if I could just get back my teen years and my childhood. Ah well, someday I will live intravenously through my own children.
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Daughter counselled on dating a wordly guy
by minimus inmy daughter recieved this email from one of her witness "friends".
she is counseling my daughter (indirectly) about her choice to date a "worldly" guy.. hey, so, we had a talk recently that was about love & respect in your marriage.
the brother brought out that this was more for us witnesses rather than worldly people, because it seems that even in the truth now marriage has lost it's correct place.
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Minimus,
This whole situation touches me deeply as it so closely resembles my own experiences. I had friends write me letters when I began dating a "worldly" man. I had my sisters lecture me on how he was not going to be a good husband. I had my brother tell me that this man would end up being an alcoholic and divorce me. It breaks my heart to this day to think about how conditional their love is.
I don't know what to tell your daughter to say back to her friend now. If it was me, I probably wouldn't say anything now. There's no changing thier minds, y'know.
All I can say is that I hope that you will be there for your daughter. She will no doubt lose more "friends" if this relationship with this guy continues. She will need you. Also, when your daughter comes to you all twitterpated and in love talking about how her boyfriend said the funniest thing or how he did the sweetest thing for her, please listen and be happy for her. My parents reacted more like her friend, and I still can't understand why they couldn't just be happy to see me happy.
Charmed
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Wacko Talks
by gitasatsangha inshare one of the odder/funnier talks you've heard (where the manuscript went out the window, along with any degree of decorum, preferably).
one time a brother had a 15 minute part and he spoke very calmly and relaxed.
he smiled all the time, but the part seemed aimless.
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I remember a guy that used to read the scriptures from a printout. He started a fad and soon everyone was bringing printouts of the scriptures in the WT, or at the book study.
Otherwise, I can't think of any particularly funny talks. Sometimes I think I must have blocked all those memories to protect myself.
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Are you planning anything special for Memorial?
by Athanasius insince i never partook of the bread and wine all the years i was a jw, thought it would be fun to attend this year's memorial and sample the matzo and hopefully some kosher wine.
thought it might impress jws if i walked into the kh wearing a yarmulke and a tallith (prayer shawl).
anybody else plan to have some fun at the memorial?.
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I'm not going either. I'm a little worried about the repercussions from my family, but I just can't get myself to go this year. I think instead I will have dinner with my family, but no wine because my sister-in-law is an alcoholic. I'll probably come on this board at some point that night too because there's a good chance I'll be feeling guilty even though I know I have no reason to feel that way.
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How do you cope with stress?
by Scully in.
when things in your life get so overwhelming and you don't know how to deal with it anymore, what do you do?.
love, scully
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Sometimes I take a walk with my dog. The quiet allows me to just think things through.
Go shopping and buy yourself something pretty.
Drive fast with the music blaring so loud that you can't think about anything other than the music and the lyrics.
I used to enjoy the chocolate when I was stressed, but now I'm trying to lose a few pounds.
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I never thought in a million years..
by thegentleman inthat i would love a jw gal.. deep down i am a hopeless romantic at heart.
i had given her a heart-shaped necklace and i told her "that this symbolizes me giving my heart to you".
we have been through good times and bad , maybe its just me, i go all out when i'm passionate about something.
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Charmed
I am so sorry and I do know what you must be feeling. I was once just like the girl that you so deeply love. I left the love of my life for three months...no calls, no visits, no emails, nothing. I totally cut him out of my life because that's what the Elders told me that I had to do for Jehovah to forgive me. I was in hell. On the one hand, I didn't want to leave my family or all the friends I had known growing up my whole life. On the other hand, I didn't want to leave my honey. I didn't want to live in a world where no true unconditional love existed. I was deeply depressed and even attempted suicide several times.
Eventually, the love of my life emailed me a nasty drunken letter claiming my religion was a cult and that I was brainwashed. Well, I had to defend the "truth," so I emailed back defending myself and my religion. This ended up opening the door for more communication and eventually he introduced me to Crisis of Conscience and sites like this one, although not this one in particular. Now, we are going on 2 years happily married. It was not easy, and I would never wish that hell on my worst enemy.
I don't know if your story can have such a good ending, but I think that if it's meant to be it will find a way to work itself out. I am so sorry this is happening to you. My heart is with you and even with the girl who had to give up such a wonderful man. ((((hugs))))