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  Unhappy being asked to give a Disfellowshipped Sister a ride to and from Meetings

  by Isambard Crater in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i'm pimo, very much against disfellowshipping, and going to a meeting leaves me feeling confused and angry at the best of times.

  except an elder asked me on thursday night if i can start giving a ride to a disfellowshipped woman because she lives near me and nobody else from the hall lives in my village.

  it seems the elder and his family who have been giving this woman a ride for the past six months can no longer stomach the time it takes them to go out of their way.. i thought all normal publishers weren't to have any contact with disfellowshipped people?

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  KiddingMe

  It puts you in a position where you have contact her when your not going to the meeting, so she know not to expect you.. You have to go straight home from the meeting...what if you're not planning to do that. It puts pressure on you because now her spirituality depends on you getting her there.

  This is the elder's responsibility, not yours. They are the shepherds. This can go on forever after she is reinstated. What if you plan to fade?

  Tell him your uncomfortable doing, it. Don't give him any extra explanations.
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  Is he interested?

  by Sunnybear in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.

  on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.

  it was not planned, it just happened.

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  KiddingMe

  I'm sorry. Welcome to the forum!!

  The points you disagree about this religion are valid. Feel free to search those topics or post a new thread regarding them.

  Is he baptized? I'm assuming not if you've met his family, they sound a little more lax then the typical JW family. Not that that changes anything, even if the relationship is not just sexual, it's still conditional with the hope of you eventually becoming a JW.

  Basically, the religion teaches marriage before sex, and only with JW's. This is likely why the long term relationship isn't going to work for him. If he is not baptized, he knows eventually he plan to get baptized and in the long run you would be an obstacle since you are not a JW.

  As a way around this obstacle I've seen many young JW's seek relationships outside of the religion with hopes that there mate would eventually study and get baptized. This would make their life easier..i.e.no decisions to be made on if holidays, and birthdays are celebrated in the household.
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  Is he interested?

  by Sunnybear in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.

  on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.

  it was not planned, it just happened.

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  KiddingMe

  In addition to the previous comments, signing up on Match.com is a no no for JW's.

  So it is very hypocritical for him to disobey his religion, sign up on a dating website, have sex out of wedlock then want you to learn about his religion.

  Seems he doesn't really care about his religion enough to not have sex but wants you to learn about it because that will tell him were you stand to him. His relationship interest with you is very conditional, if you don't learn the religion it's short term but sexual. If you do learn the religion and convert it could be long term.

  Usually JW parents won't study the bible with their child's non-JW girl/boyfriends, so I'm not sure what's up there.
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  Satan is "bullying" you through family

  by neat blue dog in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just thought i'd share this ridiculous picture from a recent watchtower.

  in recent years, the word bullying has been thrown around a lot, and often misused by instigators and subtle bullies themselves.

  in this picture we learn that your loving family who wants to continue sharing a family tradition with you, who hands you a beautifully wrapped present with a smile on their face, is in fact bullying you.

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  KiddingMe

  Lv 159 under the topic, "Should I Accept a Christmas Bonus"

  Even if the gift is given because of a religious holiday, that does not mean that the recipient is thought to share the religious view. A fellow worker or a relative may tell a Witness, “I know that you do not celebrate this holiday, but I still want you to have this as a gift from me.” If the Christian’s conscience would be at rest, he might choose to accept the gift and express thanks without any reference to the holiday. (Acts 23:1) Perhaps at a time when there will be less likelihood of causing offense, the Christian can tactfully explain his stand.

  https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/1102008072#h=104:0-107:281
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  The fly doesn't know it's in a bottle....

  by dubstepped in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ... the walls are transparent.

  so if you want to help the fly escape you first have to convince the fly that it's in a bottle, and only then can it find its way out.

  that is taken from this american life episode 635 called "chip in my brain".

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  KiddingMe

  Thx sounds interesting! marking for later.
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  BOE-Jan/18/2018-Donations!

  by Atlantis in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  january-18-2018--boe.

  donations for 2019 international convention travel.

  https://we.tl/ikbkzz8xpwatlantis!

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  KiddingMe

  We are pleased to see that many congregations have already enquired for further instructions on how they can support this initiative

  Just love how there is always some type of statement that implies that congregations are banging down their doors to support their new initiatives.
  Wonder exactly how they determine that many congregations are inquired for further instructions? Dont recall any votes in ours as to if an inquiry should be made. Or is their one spokesperson for the entire congregation?
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  Im new to the site. 28 years old, over 10 in exile. This is my story

  by Jayk in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  it's bitter sweet to find a site like this..i was born in the truth.

  when i was 16 i given the option to stop going.

  father and mothers family are both witnesses.

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  KiddingMe

  Welcome Jayk!! Thanks for sharing some of your story...looking forward to hearing more. This site is a great source of support.
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  Updated Recommended Reading List

  by doubtfull1799 in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  not long after i joined here i posted a reading list of books that helped me wake up, but since then i've read so many more that i've found invaluable in furthering and refining my new worldview, plus giving me a more in-depth well read perspective on theological and scientific issues.

  so i thought i'd post an updated comprehensive list for other voracious readers like me who are always looking for good books to read.

  how jesus became god - bart d. ehrman.

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  KiddingMe

  Thanks! This is a great list to have. I agree- could you recommend your top 3 or 5 or suggest recommendations for starters. I've read Crisis of Conscience and Steve Hassan's Books but wouldn't know where to begin.
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  Leah Remini (Scientology expose' series) "May turn attention to Jehovah's Witnesses next"

  by TerryWalstrom in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-4935392/leah-remini-turn-attention-jehovah-s-witnesses.html.

  remini said that she was warned of the jehovah’s witnesses that 'these f----rs are super powerful,' but is not one to cower in fear.. 'are you ready for my response?

  'i don’t give a s--- about powerful.

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  KiddingMe

  Thanks for sharing. This could get interesting, I've been watching Leah Remini's show sometimes playing the same episode I've already watched when my family is around so they hear and possibly subconsciously take notice of some of the similarities. They usually have looks on their faces as if to say those people are crazy but they dont take a deep enough interest to sit down and watch.

  But every now and then I will over hear my husband discussing a point with someone else about how crazy scientology is. He loved watching King of Queens. I'm curious how he may react if she turns her attention to JW's.
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  This week's "Give Us Your Money" meeting item.

  by freddo in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  if you went to it, (or go later this week) how was it handled?

  just the video or some commentary too?.

  i have heard of a few negative comments from some that attended - one jw even openly said to me "not very encouraging, all they go on about is money lately" and another (a serving elder, no less) said "someone's got to pay for all those lawsuits".

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  KiddingMe

  The timing of articles at the end of the year is very interesting. I agree that it may have to do with competing with donations from other charities.

  Also, many company's and government agencies in the U.S. give end of year cash bonuses, so this could be a way to tap into some of these funds of JWs.

  Holiday spending and shopping picks up during this time of year...so maybe some (especially if they formally celebrated Christmas) are in more of a gift giving spirit??