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  My Reinstated Niece Says She Goes To Meetings To Make Her Parents Happy

  by minimus in

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  i saw my niece last night and she told my wife, daughter and me that since she's been reinstated, she's only gone to a few meetings and part of a special assembly day.

  she complained how everyone still avoids her and how people just aren't nice in the "truth".

  she's totally bored at the meetings and doesn't want to go out in service ever again.

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  So sorry to hear that. Maybe she can do a fade eventually and her parents will accept it. It will take time but she will eventually figure it all out. It is a long painstaking process, but we all eventually get away. I can't say much, though, I still go to one meeting every other week so my parents and my good friend in another city will still be happy with me. When you love somebody so much you hate to disappoint them.

  I guess things are different in different areas though, because the bro and sis in our cong. run up and hug somebody after they are reinstated and take a special interest in them. It is so hypocritical. They don't speak to somebody until an announcement is made, but this person had to have straightened up their life in the first place to have the announcement made, but even though they were following the JW religion to a T for 3-6 months, no one can speak to them until the announcement is made. Bunch of friggin hypocrits. Sorry went off on a rant there.

  Just let your niece know You and your family are there for her when she needs you. I hope all goes well and she is able to be happy again.
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  Unseen Unheard Unknown

  by refiners fire in

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  2. bible

  i see that extensive excerpts from sarah hamilton byrnes book unseen, unheard, unknown are online.

  this is a most excellent book detailing sarahs life within the great white brotherhood cult run by her mother.

  this cult is a most notorious australian group that hit the headlines in the 80s when it was discovered that medical practitioners were involved in a church that, basically, illegally fostered children out to the cult.

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  Poor Kids!!!
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  Change of "look" after leaving the organization

  by JH in

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  i was wondering how many men here let their beard grow, when they decided to quit the organization.

  since having a beard in the jw's is not permitted, it would seem appropriate to let one's beard grow just to show that we don't go by their rules anymore.

  maybe for others it was growing a mustache or maybe shaving their head.. did you change your "look" right after leaving the organization?.

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  My hubby went back to long hair and five o clock shadow, just like when we first met!!!
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  The Truth shall set you free but first it will make you miserable!

  by Michele Lyon in

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  2. beliefs

  i'm new to this web site.

  i was 3rd generation witness, a member for over 40 yrs.i helped write information for the awake mag.

  (for a brief while), i'm a certified grief counselor, counselor for addictions, co-taught workshops on addictions, communication, marriage & parenting, 12 step work.

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  Welcome Michelle.

  I understand your feeling of relief and closeness to God. I never felt close to God when in the Borg. As soon as I stopped attending meetings regularly, I started praying, "If this is the right religion, let me know" OR "If this good news is to be preached, how can I do it without being a JW?" I actually felt like I got answers to my prayers for the first time. I would have my little epiphanies as I called them. All of a sudden things would make sense and I was sure I was doing the right thing leaving the Borg. It is good to know other people did similar things.
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  Cross religion mariage

  by 2k in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have a friend who recently married a witness.

  he isn't a witness, and this is causing some issues with the family.

  i'm curious what is cosidered the appropriate way that the families should deal with the issue.

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  I didn't notice they were already married, I thought it said getting married. My bad.
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  Cross religion mariage

  by 2k in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have a friend who recently married a witness.

  he isn't a witness, and this is causing some issues with the family.

  i'm curious what is cosidered the appropriate way that the families should deal with the issue.

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  If the JW is baptized he/she will more than likely be pubically reproved or disfellowshipped for marrying an unbeliever because the apostle Paul said you shouldn't marry an unbeliever. If he/she is publically reproved, they can still be talked to, but not socially active with other members of the congregation. If the JW is disfellowshipped, they can not be spoken to even by family members, unless they live in the same house. If the JW is not baptized, then they will be marked in the congregation as a bad associate and the same social rules for a publically reproved person apply.

  This would cause great concern among the JW family. They know the consequences and will more than likely fiercely oppose the wedding. No one wants to not be able to speak to their child and no one wants to see their children hurt by being cut off socially from those in the congregation. The JW family will probably threaten not to attend the wedding and all sorts of other things, just to stop the wedding. You must realize though, that even though family members thinking is twisted, but they are doing what they think is BEST for their child. JW's also believe that if you aren't in good standing with Jehovah you will die at Armageddon, which is just around the corner. This too would be a cause for the families concern. Since the bible says you shouldn't marry an unbeliever, then doing so would cause a bad standing with Jehovah, and the family would be terrified their child/brother/sister would die at Armageddon.

  I personally think if you both believe similar things, then you aren't marrying an unbeliever. If you both believe in Christ then you are both believers. You must realize though, JW's think they are the ONLY TRUE RELIGION and ALL non-JW's even Christians are unbelievers.

  Hope this clarifies a few things for you. BEST WISHES!!! And if you ever need support or your fiance needs support going through this difficult time WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!!!!
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  How you can tell they've come back! or, timewasters....

  by LDH in

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  2. friends

  i was just thinking, when i was a young teenager, i started an attempt to become fashion conscious.

  i started noticing what people were wearing, even at the kh.

  ok, especially at the kh!!!!.

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  I would play with my fingernails for 2 hours.
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  cool personality quiz, takes about two minutes....

  by tinkerbell82 in

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  here's the site:.

  http://www.colorquiz.com/.

  here are my results...hoooly schmoly, i can't believe how dead on they are, and all you have to do is pick some colors, too!!.

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  Your Existing Situation

  Orderly, methodical, and self-contained. Needs the respect, recognition, and understanding of those close to him.
  
  

  Your Stress Sources

  Feels that life has far more to offer and that there are still important things to be achieved--that life must be experienced to the fullest. As a result, she pursues her objectives with a fierce intensity that will not let go of things. Becomes deeply involved and runs the risk of being unable to view things with sufficient objectivity, or calmly enough; is therefore in danger of becoming agitated and of exhausting her nervous energy. Cannot leave things alone and feels she can only be at peace when she has finally reached her goal.
  
  

  Your Restrained Characteristics

  Wants to broaden her fields of activity and insists that her hopes and ideas are realistic. Distressed by the fear that she may be prevented from doing what she wants; needs both peaceful conditions and quiet reassurance to restore her confidence.

  Egocentric and therefore quick to take offense. Sensitive and sentimental, but conceals this from all except those very close to him.

  Very exacting in the standards she applies to her choice of a partner and seeking a rather unrealistic perfection in her sex life.

  
  

  Your Desired Objective

  Considers the existing circumstances disagreeable and over-demanding. Refuses to allow anything to influence her point of view.
  
  

  Your Actual Problem

  The fear that she might be prevented from achieving the things she wants drives her to the exploitation of all types of experience, so that she may categorically deny that any of them has any value. This destructive denigration becomes her method of concealing hopelessness and a profound sense of futility.
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  The Emerging 'Schizophrenic' Witness

  by metatron in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have a 'loyal' witness relative suffering various watchtower-related trials, who, i believe, represents an emerging.

  new form of jehovah's witness.

  she seems to have a sort of 'spiritual schizophrenia'.

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  My mom is the same way, she talks about all the corruption she sees in the hall, all the politics and divisions, but she keeps saying we can't stop loving Jehovah because some humans ruin the experience. She will never leave. I don't get it either.
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  Tattoo

  by leslane in

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  2. friends

  i have a fettish for tattoos...along with piercings.

  (they all think the piercings i want and have will lead me to getting dfed..too bad, i'm not committed yet!

  ) i have mentioned it to a few of my associates in the congregation and they freak.

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  There was an article and talk given a few years back that stated if you were of age, 18 plus and you wanted to get a tattoo or a piercing that was your decision. It did say however if you were living in your parents house, you should ask them first and if you were a female married, you should ask your husband first. But they ultimately left the decision up to the individual. You can't get d'fed just for getting one, unless like previously mentioned, you get a pagan symbol, like a huge cross on your ankle or something. They do discourage it though, following worldly trends, yada yada yada.