A very long time. Getting out was a process of many years. Even after finding this site it took reading "Crisis of Conscience" to finally learn the truth and let go.
Posts by Emma
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23How long did you blame yourself before you realised.......
by jambon1 in.....that it simply wasn't the truth?.
i never really felt spiritual as a jw.
i knew that i should feel like a spiritual person, but couldn't work out why i never did.. .
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When You Left The "Truth" Did You Have Any 2nd Thoughts?
by minimus inwere you 100% sure that your decision was correct?.
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Emma
Welcome UU. Me, too.
Emma
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Emma
What a waste of a life. Would the judge think other adult decisions would have been OK? What about marriage? He may have been mature for his age, but this judge seems entirely short sighted.
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Be honest, Do you really Enjoy Christmas?
by BluesBrother indansk's christmas tree thread got me to thinking .. in this house we do not celebrate since my wife is still a die hard dub.
i have no complaints about that, it was our joint choice for decades and i an the one that changed .but as witnesses we were always given the negative view of the holiday time :-.
"people feel that they just have to do it although they do not really want to".
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Emma
I really do like it; I wish the season lasted longer. The j-dubs are wrong.
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Burrfukk!
by bigwilly init's too damn cold for my liking!
all the people that have real winters will laugh, but mid 30's to lower 40's is despicably cold by oregon standards .
to make things that much better, the furnace in the house where i live died on monday.
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Emma
Well, it's dark, rainy, and cool here in south-east Michigan. On the upside, just over four more weeks until the days begin getting longer! Garden planning begins in January! Actually, my most difficult cold months are February and March. They are soooooo looooooong....
Hope your heat gets fixed soon. I'd keep calling her, middle of the cold night, too, until it's fixed.
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Secret Santa Ideas thread
by Angharad inif everyone who is signed up for the sectret santa can post a few ideas of the sort of thing you like in here, when people receive their names they can come in here and look you up so get some ideas .
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Emma
Darkuncle, if I get your name I can send you some terrific G-F baked goods. I was diagnosed with Celiac Disease 3 1/2 years ago and have developed some good recipies.
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Secret Santa Ideas thread
by Angharad inif everyone who is signed up for the sectret santa can post a few ideas of the sort of thing you like in here, when people receive their names they can come in here and look you up so get some ideas .
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Emma
I'd love a work-out CD, burned from your favorite music. I also like tea, coffee, dark chocolate, but I'm also off gluten and can't enjoy most home made goodies.
Heirloom seeds would be terrific (keep my climate in mind, though!) I've just finished my second year in my new organic garden and love being a city farmer.
Or just surprise me. I posted this just in case Nos got my name - I don't want no stinking wts lit!
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How Have You Gone About Making Friends Since Leaving the Witnesses ?
by flipper ini've noticed lately that some on our board, or perhaps for many of us, that's why i'm writing this , have had a challenge making new friends after leaving the jehovah's witnesses religion.
it has been a mixed bag for me.
i have met some through my wife, who is not a witness.
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Emma
As my kids remind me, there's no one I won't talk to. I strike up conversations waiting in line at the grocery store. Though I haven't really made friends that way, I think the one thing that does help me is being non-judgmental. No one is perfect and there won't be many perfect matches for friends. But looking past some foibles helps. Not everyone has to be a best friend, either. I did join a Unitarian Church (bring your own beliefs) and that helped. Some have stuck as friends and others not. I guess I just try to be open and not overly expectant.
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Can anyone tell me why this "test" works...this is SO SPOOKY!
by FreedomFrog inok, can anyone tell me why this works?
this is so freakin' cool.
do the test as it is instructed...don't cheat.
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Emma
Blue shovel.
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DEAD JW MOTHER HUSBAND TO SUE HOSPITAL
by badboy ini understand from news of the world that anthony gough wants to sue the hospital because he feels they were neglient in saving his wife's life.
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Emma
Years ago, when I was still "in," my best friends mom died after hip replacement surgery. She had a severe allergy to the cement used with the replacement hip and also lost a lot of blood. What I also heard was that they gave her too much fluid trying to keep fluid in her veins since she wouldn't take blood, and that was the supposed cause of death. The family sued and Borg attorneys came in from NY to represent them. I left within the next few months so I never heard what happened. This was in Michigan.