So complete was the shunning when I was merely missing meetings and inactive that I didn't hear any rumors! At an "intervention" my sister's staged under lying pretenses, I was told I must have done something bad and I needed to confess to the elders so I could come back. I was stunned! The worst thing I could have done, according to them, was read CoC; adultery would have been better, maybe even murder. I told them I wouldn't have known where to get apostate literature if I'd wanted to.
I made them mad enough to raise their voices by my refusal to participate that people in the restaurant began looking over at us. Still raises my blood pressure to think about it!
It would have been interesting to know what the congregation was saying about us.