Posts by freeatlast36

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FUNERAL OUTLINE

by freeatlast36 in

i knew it.

march 28, 2014 at 9:57pm.

nobody seemed to notice that i wasn't sitting with my immediate family.

Ya know, my dad had a very interesting, successful life. That day I entered the funeral home, and was seated 3 rows behind my own mother...I knew something was off. My feelings were a little hurt by then. Nobody seemed to notice that I wasn't sitting with my immediate family. The slide show was nice, I guess. Then the discourse began. This man started talking about MY dad. I didn't even know this guy. I couldn't figure out how, after the many close friends that my dad had over the years, how, this man that did not even know our family, or anything about us, was speaking at my dad's funeral. I met him once, briefly, at the hospital, just days before my dad left this world. He fumbled over the names, unfamiliar to him. I felt like I was the only one looking around wondering what the hell was going on? Did anyone else NOTICE? I was getting angry. Oh yes, I should have known. Here we go! The preaching started...I was transported back to the days of the District Convention..was I not really at MY DAD's funeral? Are there not people I know from our town, neighbors, friends sitting around me? I couldn't believe it! The Jehovah's Witnesses were using MY DAD's funeral to PREACH to the town! How disrespectful, and how far will these people go? I almost got up and walked out. Would anyone even notice?

A few months later, I finally got up the nerve to tell my mom how disappointed I was about how the funeral went. She said that is how Daddy wanted it. Whatever. So today, I find out, by accident, that the SOCIETY of JW's actually have a FUNERAL DISCOURSE OUTLINE that "should be used". And here it is. Here is THE reason my dad's funeral totally sucked and wasn't even about him. Yes, maybe he wanted it that way...he was one of the millions of people so brainwashed by this organization that they cannot even plan their own funeral. I am through being nice about it, not wanting to "offend" anyone. I AM OFFENDED. One day of a person's whole lifetime on this earth that should honor that person, is the day of their funeral. When are people going to wake up? God gave humans brains to USE, not be silent little sheep at the mercy of a bunch of MEN in NEW YORK. I PRAY that the blinders come off, minds are opened to the endless universe from which we have been prohibited! PROHIBITION IS OVER! Don't let this organization control every thought you have and every move you make! I PRAY that MY DAD's Soul is finding the TRUTH and is at peace! And I BELIEVE that his soul is somewhere wonderful, not just DEAD.

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New here, just wanted to say "Hello"

by Goldiver in

hello all, it is nice to have a forum for former jw's and see i wasn't the only one out there having serious doubts.

my parents got into it when i was about 4 years old.

my family was part of the granville ny congregation.. my dad in time became an elder.

freeatlast36

Hi there. I think most people on here can relate to your experiences. I was born into the JW' s and experienced the guilt trip from the age of 4. Like you, I married a "brother" and it turned into a disaster. My immediate family are still devout, but I am happily married to a wonderful guy who has put up with all the craziness of me breaking free of this cult after trying to convert him! What a nut I used to be! It is validating to read the experiences on this forum and sometimes sobering to realize just how abusive this organization is. Glad you are out!

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Circuit Oversneer Says. . .

by piztjw in

"do you realize how much of a privelge it is to enjoy the visit of the circuit overseer?

they are appointed by the governing body who in turn are apointed by jesus and holy spirit.

so you have a great privilege when we visit your congregation, because it is the same thing as having jesus visit you.

freeatlast36

It is disgusting how the CO and DO prefer to be wined and dined..stay at the fanciest house..taken out to play golf with the wealthy clique. I have seen poor little old sisters get turned down when they would feel so honored to share a meal in their humble little home!!!!!

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Circuit Oversneer Says. . .

by piztjw in

"do you realize how much of a privelge it is to enjoy the visit of the circuit overseer?

they are appointed by the governing body who in turn are apointed by jesus and holy spirit.

so you have a great privilege when we visit your congregation, because it is the same thing as having jesus visit you.

freeatlast36

It is disgusting how the CO and DO prefer to be wined and dined..stay at the fanciest house..taken out to play golf with the wealthy clique. I have seen poor little old sisters get turned down when they would feel so honored to share a meal in their humble little home!!!!!

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Circuit Oversneer Says. . .

by piztjw in

"do you realize how much of a privelge it is to enjoy the visit of the circuit overseer?

they are appointed by the governing body who in turn are apointed by jesus and holy spirit.

so you have a great privilege when we visit your congregation, because it is the same thing as having jesus visit you.

freeatlast36

It is disgusting how the CO and DO prefer to be wined and dined..stay at the fanciest house..taken out to play golf with the wealthy clique. I have seen poor little old sisters get turned down when they would feel so honored to share a meal in their humble little home!!!!!

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Circuit Oversneer Says. . .

by piztjw in

"do you realize how much of a privelge it is to enjoy the visit of the circuit overseer?

they are appointed by the governing body who in turn are apointed by jesus and holy spirit.

so you have a great privilege when we visit your congregation, because it is the same thing as having jesus visit you.

freeatlast36

It is disgusting how the CO and DO prefer to be wined and dined..stay at the fanciest house..taken out to play golf with the wealthy clique. I have seen poor little old sisters get turned down when they would feel so honored to share a meal in their humble little home!!!!!

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just got my first shun.:(

by unstopableravens in

freeatlast36

Unfortunately, THEY are the ignorant, brain-washed ones in this situation...you might respond by telling them Thanks for the UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, just like JESUS showed!!

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Accepting my own mortality, and the naturalness of death - the final step in my JW recovery.

by fresh prince of ohio in

jw
friends

for people who have a paralyzing fear of dying, to where it seems like it's this horrible, stalking monster, jwism is a powerful sedative.. but really, the idea of living forever, in human form, is nonsense.

living forever isn't about living forever, it's about not dying.. death is natural.

it can be painful, sudden, or both.

freeatlast36

Thanks adamah!

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Accepting my own mortality, and the naturalness of death - the final step in my JW recovery.

by fresh prince of ohio in

jw
friends

for people who have a paralyzing fear of dying, to where it seems like it's this horrible, stalking monster, jwism is a powerful sedative.. but really, the idea of living forever, in human form, is nonsense.

living forever isn't about living forever, it's about not dying.. death is natural.

it can be painful, sudden, or both.

freeatlast36

Thanks! Glad to be here!

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Accepting my own mortality, and the naturalness of death - the final step in my JW recovery.

by fresh prince of ohio in

jw
friends

for people who have a paralyzing fear of dying, to where it seems like it's this horrible, stalking monster, jwism is a powerful sedative.. but really, the idea of living forever, in human form, is nonsense.

living forever isn't about living forever, it's about not dying.. death is natural.

it can be painful, sudden, or both.

freeatlast36

Hi. This is my first post here...I really enjoy reading everyone's experiences and sometimes having a good laugh at the KH memories! I was born into the "truth" and finally after 36 yrs and some traumatic experiences, I am finally out. I still have family that are devout, and that just frustrates me seeing them so brainwashed. I, too, had a real fear of death.....that was one of my main concerns, and I still read everything I can get my hands on about death and what happens when you die. After reading many near-death experiences, and learning what other cultures teach about death, such and buddhists, I am really at peace now. I would encourage you to enter the world that we have all been sheltered from, and read, read, read! There is a whole universe out there that we were not allowed to discover in case our minds actually opened up! There is no way to control someone that is open and sees the organization for what it is!!

I hope you find peace with this soon, because it is incredibly liberating!!!