cognac,
I have been reading all your posts. Your story seems very typical and stressful. I think WT has a lot to answer for all you did was go out and have some fun with the kids. You are handling it well. I suppose it is a relief to be found out then you can really be yourself.
If you get invited to a JC will you go or let them DF you without you there? They may just reprove you though.
Thanks for keeping us informed, it's healing to know we are not alone in our experiences.
Kate xx