Posts by KateWild

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Long Story of my Life/Experience

by GrownMidget in

also, my wife has come to her limits of understanding me about the witnesses related grief i have been having.

she has told me many times to stop reading the ex-witness sites because i get depressed and become angry, which sadly is true.

it's not very productive to be sad throughout the entire day and then shout at your wife for the reason she has no first hand experience about, therefore how could she possibly know and help?

KateWild

Despite if I read or not, I still get outbursts of sadness that later turn into anger. I feel the stress is so much that it's negatively affecting my life and marriage.- GrownMidget

Welcome GrownMidget, thank you for this insightful thread. I am sorry you are still suffering outbursts. I hope you get support and your marriage can be a happy calm relationship with that support.

Mental illness is an awful thing to suffer and has stigma to it. It can be hard to live with, but you are a fine example of someone who has tried to stay positive and is looking for support and a way to deal with your outbursts.

Take very good care GrownMidget

Kate xx

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Is it true? Heard a rumor WT postphones Disfellowshipping until further notice!!??

by Olivia Wilde in

i am not sure if it's true but i heard from a good source that wt has given instructions to elders to postponed disfellowshipping members from wrong doing/gross sin until further instructions given by headquarters.

i heard some jws were just reproved either privately or publically.

has anyone else heard anything like this recently?

KateWild

No I have heard nothing. Is your source from Bethel or an elder? Seems a bit far fetched to me

Kate xx

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Hello!

by josephus in

jw
friends

i haven't been around in some time, i used to post under the name "josephus" many years ago back when the late great farkel.

i have returned recently and have a youtube channel called "thegreatapostate!

i am very pleased with it and hope you'll have a look.

KateWild

Good video thanks

Kate xx

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Refused to go to meeting wife broke frying pan on my car....now SHE is inactive 4 years my advice!!!

by Witness 007 in

my wife is a stubborn stubborn woman.

when we got the internet in 1998 i slowly faded due to trying to prove apostates are lairs and scum...only to find they told nothing but "the truth.

" every qoute was checked and re-checked.

KateWild

Funny story, thanks for sharing. Glad you both left, it's much more pleasant with a caring spouse I expect. Kate xx

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Missing Friends.

by Resi in

it's been a long time since i posted.

for a brief recap, i have an aunt who is one of jehovah's witnesses.

when i was really sick, i sought out their group because i remembered the support my aunt had and how they were like a second family to her.

KateWild

Move on with your life.-Toes up

You have no idea how rubbish this advice is. Moving on after being in a cult is lonely and a struggle, don't be so naive as to believe moving on is a simple case of getting an education, a career, volunteering, finding hobbies. You don't actually get true friends by doing all of this. It's just a distraction from the isolation. then when you're tired and home alone, you get emotional and feel how awful it is you have no one to share your life with because your acquaintances from your jobs, hobbies etc, have other priorities and are too busy to socialise with you.

People come to this board for advice and support. we need to acknowledge their struggles, not be dismissive about isolation and how stressful it is.

Kate xx

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Missing Friends.

by Resi in

it's been a long time since i posted.

for a brief recap, i have an aunt who is one of jehovah's witnesses.

when i was really sick, i sought out their group because i remembered the support my aunt had and how they were like a second family to her.

KateWild

It's an awful feeling to connect with people and realise they don't really see you as that much of a priority in their lives. You're right about them being prejudice as you're not baptised.

This cult really causes a lot of damage and isolation. sorry you are missing your friends.

Kate xx

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Introduction

by shattered_origins in

i joined the forum yesterday and made 2 angry posts which received encouraging replies.

i spent a good chunk of time today browsing various posts, and i can't get enough!

i'm doing things backwards now and taking a moment to introduce myself.

KateWild

Welcome shattered

Kate xx

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New Watchtower Propaganda and hate speech destroying families (Feb 2016 WT)

by Daniel1555 in

the following is a paragraph from the new february study watchtower article "learn from jehovah's loyal servants.".

7 a conflict of loyalties may arise when a close relative is disfellowshipped.

for example, a sister named anne [1] received a telephone call from her disfellowshipped mother.

KateWild

How do the writers of the WT know she was committing some wrongdoing and is unrepentant? They are making unsubstantiated conclusions. Only Jehovah supposedly reads hearts.

Not everyone that gets DF'd has been Df'd justly. Like me I was unjustly DF'd and was repentant. I did not commit a sin either. This infuriates me and I will make sure my son know this is all utter nonsense to cause divisions and isolation and manipulation.

Disgusted

Kate xx

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Your thoughts on Halloween , yes, no or maybe ?

by Finkelstein in

well its that time again when the ghouls come out to play.

i personally think halloween is a bit irresponsible and inappropriate from a sociological perspective.. there's something about the intent of frightening young impressionable children minds with frightening objests.

and feeding them candy which most likely cause tooth decay and stomachs is irresponsible activity conducted by adults.

KateWild

I am not looking forward to it at all. I wanted to have fun and do something festive. But I have been unsuccessful in making plans.

I tried about three weeks ago to make plans with various people in my life, sadly to no avail.

This just reminds me of my social life that I lost in WT.

Not looking forward to it.

Kate xx

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The Effects of Sexual Abstinence Before Marriage

by cofty in

very interesting article on the psychology of sexual abstinence and the effects it can have on sex life after marriage.

it focusses on an evangelical group for single men called "the river" but the attitudes will be familiar to born-in jws.. ___________________________.

..respondents had been told, since they were young, that women were nonsexual.

KateWild

I think the key to sexual compatibility is generosity.

If your partner is generous towards you before you have sex you can guarantee they will be during sex also.

There is no hard and fast rule as to whether or not pre marital sex is an advantage. Open communication is what's more important.

Kate xx