Posts by KateWild

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Message from Designer Stubble to the former JWR members

by Designer Stubble in

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message from designer stubble to the former jwr members.

first of all i am glad to see that many of you have found your way to this great forum, facilitated by simon.

i am sure that after the dust of the jwr shutdown has settled, you will find this to be a good new home.. i would like to apologize for the sudden closure of jwr.

KateWild

DS....it's very nice and caring of you to start this thread and answer PMs this shows how much fellow feeling you have.

Its refreshing to see that many xJWs are infact more compassionate than JWs.

Good luck with your moving on.

Kate xx

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Introduction - Any Believers?

by Believer in

i’ve been reading it for a few of years off and on, but have been a little too ... maybe ... timid to join.

i left the watchtower organization almost 20 years ago but never abandoned my faith and belief in god.

i knew the gb/organization didn’t represent god, so when i lost my faith in them, i managed to keep my faith in an all wise benevolent creator.

KateWild

Hello Believer,

Yes I still believe in a creator. I left WT in 2013 but I have not lost all my faith.

I am also a chemical analyst by trade and what I have studied about specific scientific processes is evidence for me that evolution required some guidance. So I don't dismiss a creator.

There are still some of us here.

Kate xx

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Welcome y'all from JWR - any questions?

by Simon in

i just wanted to take a minute to say "hi" and welcome to the site for anyone who's come here from jwr.

i can imagine the site being shut down suddenly was shocking and unsettling for many who relied on it and sometimes you don't realize how much you do rely on something until it is gone.. hopefully you'll see some of the same familiar names appearing and be able to reconnect with people you knew via this site and continue your journey together.

i don't know what the posting policies on jwr were but know it as a moderated site so can't imagine them being hugely different to the ones here.

KateWild

I would like to say welcome too. I don't post as much as I used to. But I am here daily to support those who are asking for it.

I left due to the mishandling of domestic violence in WT. If this is your experience too or you want to know more, I have a YouTube and JC recording. PM me for it if you want to listen.

Welcome again

Kate xx

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Introduction from another JWR Refugee

by 2badsosad in

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friends

yet another jwr refugee.

been active over there for a while now.

was quiet for the last couple months but just starting to 'reactive' myself again.

KateWild

Welcome to the board and thank you for your story.

Welcome to the other poster too.

Kate xx

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Jehovah's Witness Recovery is no more...

by TimeBandit in

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friends

i just tried to go to the site and there is a goodbye message.

i was a member there since 2010. i was really surprised.

i had just started posting there again after being away for a while.

KateWild

Well I suppose this is bitter sweet news really. It sad to see some exJWs in need of support, and if you post a thread here I will offer any support I can, but it's also happy to see some exJWs moving on.

Because of my age and circumstances, I don't think I will ever move out of the exJW community and it will be a part of my life daily, but my daughter has definitely moved on and I have hopes that my son when he is her age moves on too.

Perhaps Simon may want to move on one day too.

I think that if you have been fading for years and cannot expose yourself publicly, it's a very difficult place to be. Thankfully I have contacts in real life now and I am fully out on Facebook as an exJW.

Kate xx

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Should I stay married to my JW wife

by gatorguy in

me and my wife were at the beach the other day and i finally told her, i don't think i believe in god anymore.

i fessed up to the fact that it started with me doubting some jw beliefs and then it just led me to this point where i don't even believe in god.

i wouldn't say that i even have a negative view towards jw's or religion in general.

KateWild

A useful book for you to read is "Combating Cult Mind Control" by Steve Hassan.

Your wife is stuck in a cult and the book describes that people have two different personalities when in a cult. A cult personality and an authentic personality.

The book helps loved ones focus on the authentic personality to help them move on slowly and eventually see they are in a cult that they need to escape. Not everyone can help their loved ones but there is some very good advice in the book.

If you really love your wife I would recommend you read this book and try taking some of the advice in it.

If it's not working then the best thing to do is divorce. But if you love her, try first.

Kate xx

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My wonderful son

by KateWild in

hey everyone,.

for those of you who don't know my story.

i had a messy divorce i lost custody of my son in 2011 age 9yrs after four years of court battles to get him back i couldn't do anymore.. yesterday my wonderful son had an upsetting day as our contact was cancelled.

KateWild

Hey Freddo,

Yes my son can see it for what it is. Hence the song. He knows the future. And yes his school is close by. If he is able to live with me at 16, but if not it will be 18.

The point is its soon relatively speaking. We have weathered the storm with our bond in tact.

Kate xx

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My wonderful son

by KateWild in

hey everyone,.

for those of you who don't know my story.

i had a messy divorce i lost custody of my son in 2011 age 9yrs after four years of court battles to get him back i couldn't do anymore.. yesterday my wonderful son had an upsetting day as our contact was cancelled.

KateWild

Thanks Rebecca, Gt, and Jw gone bad for you support and posting.

Jwdaughter,

Yes over the years there has been different court orders to ensure contact. But these court orders are not enforced and over time my ex wanted to stop contact all together. He did for ten months. But my son was so upset so we got contact back and it was supervised.

So this week the supervisor phoned in sick for the second time in a row. Even though it's court ordered the courts won't enforce the contact. My son asked his dad if he could see me unsupervised and also asked him if he would come with us to supervise the contact. But his dad refused. I can't call the police and say there is an emergency as the court order is being breached. The police can't enforce the order.

My son was devastated that he couldn't see me and his dad's reasons were nonsense which upset him even more.

He is 14 and a half now. He will be 16 in eighteen months. He will be an adult soon and no courts will be able to keep him away from me. That's why we can say he will be home with me soon. Then all this bullshit contact controlled by his father will stop.

Kate xx

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I have a plan....

by DATA-DOG in

with all of the bat-shit crazy propaganda of late, i'm considering talking to my wife about the cult.

we have had zero religious discussions for two years.

the last discussion ended with ,"you have no beliefs, no personal beliefs, because you change your "beliefs" when the wtbts writes an article.

KateWild

Good for you DD, great plan.......especially the bit about texting your daughter after the video.

Go for it and keep us updated.

Kate xx

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My wonderful son

by KateWild in

hey everyone,.

for those of you who don't know my story.

i had a messy divorce i lost custody of my son in 2011 age 9yrs after four years of court battles to get him back i couldn't do anymore.. yesterday my wonderful son had an upsetting day as our contact was cancelled.

KateWild

Yes Lisa it has been really painful for both of us but our bond is strengthening each day.

Thanks Angus. I actually phoned just before you went to Poland when the kids were on half term. You were at work.

Thanks for recognising we have been through crop......but the positive outlook is the more controlling and unreasonable his dad is......the more he hates his dad and wants to come home to me.

Kate xx