My older sister, was df'ed back in the early 80's. When my mom died, we provided the jerk elder with a carefully writen eulogy, listing all her childern, grand childern, etc. My older sister was #3 on the list, (the list was numbered) when the jerk got to that point, he paused, cleared hus throat, coughed, and skipped her and her children, and went on to me. My poor sister, cried that much harder! It was obvious to all, he skipped her on purpose!
She is at peace now! Forced to be baptised at 13 to protect her, forced to marry someone she hardly knew, and did not want to marry, at 16, to proteced her. Df'ed when she was 19, for messing up one time! She never knew the so called "truth" much less understood any of it!