by Scully 43 Replies latest social family
When I was married we always ate at the kitchen table as a couple. (I refused to do the daily text™ thing though). Now I live alone and eat most of my meals in front of the TV with my cockatoo on my shoulder. He likes to grab food from my plate, from my fork, or out of my mouth while I'm eating. We do not thank Jehover before eating, but the bird does thank me.
W
We always ate dinner together, and now grown, dinner is still a time the family all sits together.
The problem is, being a JW growing up, always having to be wary of what we say, how we say it, what we do, what we think, etc., eating dinner together didn't really do much to keep us close.
The thing that now helps keep my sister and I close is both having free thinking minds, having broken the chains. Our parents... not so much.
Chilhood family: when mom was alive we ate at the dinner table
after that it was in front of the t.v.
First marriage: Never ate together
Latest marriage: Husband insists on eating at the dinner table
At first I balked and hated it. Now I am into it and wax the dining table and place candles and a small vase of flowers and cloth placemats and napkins. The other day I made my first stuffed grape leaves with rice, broccoli, beets and potato salad. He looks forward to coming home and I look forward to his pleasure. We sit and he vents about his day. Our dinner lasts about 45 minutes.
I come from a dysfunctional broken home and a dysfunctional broken first marriage.
I am trying the Mars vs Venus approach and applying counsel from Ephesians and all good advice to make this marriage a happy one for us both.
and applying counsel from Ephesians and all good advice to make this marriage a happy one for us both.
Excellent job. Who better to look for advise concerning Marraige than from the one who instituted that arrangement.
D.
banished,
I didn't eat dinner with my ex much either. And as unfortunate as a divorce is, it taught me that unconditional love, attention and committment are essential to make things work. So Mozz and I eat together regularly without distraction. At first, it really might feel strange. But once you do it for a week, it really is relaxing. As long as you look at it as a time to uplift and serve each other instead of a time to gripe and fight. I just started another study on Ephesians today, (it's been a few years) so I'll look for what you see there!
Andi
We don't actually own a dinner table.
I work 2nd shift so dinner, no joke is served at 1a.m. My daughter is asleep then, but my husband and I eat together, with no TV.
My daughter Cassie and I eat lunch together, when school is out as I go in at 3:30p.m.
Eating together is and has always been a venew for discussion.
As a witness, we always ate together as a family and almost always did a big Sunday afternoon dinner. As I write this, I wish for more of that......
Jill
Wishes do come true sometimes
D.
I don't know if I am wrong but I had the impression that nowadays family life broke down to the point where they rely mostly on take aways and reheated supermarket ready meals for their dinners. Doesn't look like they all sit down together at the table to eat take aways.
The catering and the ready meal sector of the supermarkets are doing quite well.
My 15 year old and my 10 year old know the routine because it has not changed since they were born. During the week, we sit together. Fri nights are slacker as is Sat, but Sunday is always a big family special meal.
We talk, laugh, argue, and discuss during these things. That is what families do.
Jez
My Grandmother was my best example of eating together at what she called supper. My Mom carried on the tradition and so did I with my children. I loved our together time and so did the kids because as they got older and had jobs their own spending money and fast food became the food of the day for them everyone of them expressed at one time or another that they long for some good home cooking and knew what time supper was on the table and would more often than not show up for supper!
New marriage, new husband who doesn't like to sit at the table he would rather sit in front of the TV remote in one hand and fork in the other and it's a blur which one moves the fastest. Supper time is not so special anymore, kids gone and hubby who would rather watch TV. The only good thing is I hardly ever cook much anymore either so our life is much more casual and TV trays are not so bad I can use them to do hobbies on while watching TV.
