Has anybody read the book "Women are from Venus, men are from Mars?" and if so what did you think of it. Was it/is it accurate?
women are from venus
by stillajwexelder 11 Replies latest jw friends
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bebu
I read it, and I enjoyed it. I think it is a very good analogy for how the sexes might view each other.I thought that for the most part, all of the subtle messages given by women were accurate. Eg, "I'm exhausted" means "Would you help clean up the kitchen?"
I recall asking my husband whether the "cave" thing was true. He grunted a bit (like a caveman!) and said, um... yeah. I was so surprised!
bebu
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Now What?
I read it many years ago. Still have it on the bookshelf. At the time I thought it was interesting, but it still didn't save my marriage. I thought he painted some very broad strokes but others were insightful. If you are thinking of buying it, it is old enough that they might have it at the library.I seen him on stage once. Funny guy.
*edited to add: I decided to take another look at that, and he does have some good analogies and stories. I think now that I am footloose and fancy-free from the org I will re-read that. Never know, his insights might come in handy
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wheres caleb?
I thought it was a good book. As a man, I felt it helped me communicate my feelings a little bit better. The sexes can communicate better with more awareness about the other's differences. I learned to be a better listener.
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misspeaches
Yep I read it. And I found it really interesting. It wasn't difficult to read either. I agree with a lot of the messages that women express and Dr John Grays interpretation of them. Also knowing about the 'cave' has been one of the best things in having a good relationship with my boyfriend.
P.S. Stilla did you ask about this because you watch Star Trek & I watch Will & Grace? he he he
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Robert K Stock
The basic premise that women and men look at the world differently is true. His past involvement with TM and his claim that he spent so many years celebate that sperm seeped out of him from his sweat glands make him sound a little nuts to me.
He was married to a woman that has also made a bundle selling books about relationships. ( Beverly DiAngelus, I most likely mispelled her name )
They could not make their relationship work so they divorced. I always thought it was funny that they were both so successful, but as Steve Forbes grandfather said,"You don't get rich by taking your own advice, you get rich by selling it to others."
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banished1
Yes, I think alot of what he observes is true and when men and women are thoughtful of each other's differences and needs, then living together goes so much smoother and happier for both.
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Jourles
For those of us who never bothered reading it, what's the deal with the "cave?"
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stillajwexelder
P.S. Stilla did you ask about this because you watch Star Trek & I watch Will & Grace? he he he
Yes - one of the reasons
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misspeaches
P.S. Stilla did you ask about this because you watch Star Trek & I watch Will & Grace? he he he Yes - one of the reasons
Well if it helps you in your studies/investigations my Lesbian boss is a mad fan of Star Trek and my Gay colleague is a mad fan of Will & Grace.... interesting isn't it...! LOL Jourles Its been years since I read the book but as I remember the concept of the 'cave' is this.... Men have this place called the cave. What this means is that when they just want time out they go quiet and retreat as it were. (ie go into their cave...) Now along comes the woman and sees the man being quiet or whatever and from her way of thinking goes 'Oh no! somethings wrong!!!' so she tries to coax him out of the cave. Like by saying is everything okay? or whats wrong? that sort of stuff. This makes the man agitated and he retreats further into the cave. The lesson for women from it is that if a man is in his cave leave him alone. If you leave him alone he will come out of the cave a lot quicker instead of retreating further into it.