noelle, being lied to for years and coerced into being baptized so that I could "understand". No understanding came with baptism, nor freedom to ask and get answers to a host of questions. I was kicked out at age 14 for the crime of disobedience. Asked too many questions and told to be quiet.. You just don't engender alegence in youth with those tactics.
No one has suggested it yet, but you may want to get the book Crisis of Conscience written by a former leader of the Jws. Its an insight into the twisted leadership. Maybe your bf would consider looking at it. By his response you will see whether or not he is capable of detaching himself from the flesh hooks of the organizaiton.
I wish you well!
carmel