Shaking with adrenalin, fear and anger

by Crumpet 18 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Crumpet

  Just to be safe stay away from the edge of the platform till your legs are fully healed. It may be best to stay toward the wall if possible.

  thanks dedzpam - good advice. I was very concious of my body language during the episode. I was very aware of about 100 people watching the exchange, that probably helped me be more dignified. I tried to look non threatened and able to handle it. Instead of leaning towards him from my seat - I sat back and kept my arms open and my feet firmly on the ground - in a very open non threatening and relaxed manner, but with uncompromising authority I made eye contact and smiled and said enunciated as clearly as any head mistress might. I think thats why he backed off.

  its one of those rare occassions that I've been taken by surprise unpleasantly but have reacted and said everything I would say if I had weeks to plan and think about it. Normally I think of a dozen things I wish I had said and done after the fact. this time I don;t think I would have done a thing differently. Maybe I am becoming a grown up who can stand their ground! Hurray! And maybe in a weird way this was a positive experience that tested my character.

  I feel a lot safer here though with you lot!
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  dezpbem

  I hoep I'm making sense - I'm still in a bit of a trembly whirl.

  Its a shame because I was in such a good mood to that point.

  Try the following.

  Close your eyes. Recall a time you felt fully calm, happy, and confident.

  Relive the experience in your mind. Run through it several times.

  Each time focus on a different sense. First relive the positive experience by seeing it through your eyes.

  Next as if you were watching yourself on a movie screen.

  Next relive it but pay attention to what you heard ans sounds.

  Next relive it paying attention to the sensations of your body and movement.

  Relive it one more time. But this time focus on the positive emotion that is the strongest (i.e. calm, happy, whatever..). Focus on your body. Somewhere in your body is a sensation that is normally unconscious. It's a sensation in the body of the emotion. An example is when you feel sad you get the sensation of a lump in your throat. Happiness and all other positive emotions have a physical sensation in your body as well. Find it. Is it in your chest? Or your tummy? Maybe it's in your head? Relive the experience while focusing on this sensation and try turning it's "volume" up.

  After you do this you should feel fine.

  Dez
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  Crumpet

  defd - are you inciting me to immoderate drinking young man! LOL

  Dedzpam - I am actually feeling quite positive about this experience now. My last positive experience was also today. Anyone who has read my comments on this board will know I am rather anti-breeding and babies. However a friend at work who is on maternity leave brought her baby in today. I made my usual excuses for keeping distance and used my disability for a moment. Then I looked at her beaming face and bulging breasts and thought oh what the hell. Its mean that I don;t even pretend to look and coo at the baby so I hobbled over. I apologised in advance and said the baby would undoubtedly start crying. But she picked him up and he reached out his four month old hand and started playing with my hair which is like hers and started laughing. I was so embarassed and she and all the other ladies - who are all grandmothers exchanged knwoing smug looks!
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  RubaDub

  I have seen him once before yelling at a woman across the otherside of the tracks for talking too loudly on her mobile phone.

  If you had a magazine or brochure handy, you could have counted that as a return visit.

  Rub a Dub
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  luna2

  What a distressing situation! You did an excellent job, Crumpet. I'd still report the nut, though.
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  forsharry

  Honestly? I think you handled yourself with poise, maturity and dignity. Kudos to you girl for not even biting on his rather nasty lure. You didn't even grace him with a response to continue his maniacal arguing. ::High Five::
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  sweet tee

  I feel for you Crumpt (((((((((((((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))))))))))))))) You handled that beautifully, with poise and dignity - YOU GO GURL

  As for defd comments - he just would have to put down my hometown to make a point. He loves the dubs though. Yuck!
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  Sunnygal41

  Crumpet, I also get that reaction when I am put into frightening situations like the one you described. I am so proud of you......you handled it perfectly and didn't give away any of your power. Obviously, he's off.......and what good would it do to attack someone who is not in their right mind? I would have called the stationmaster or the police, as he may someday be a serious problem to someone if not put in check by the authorities...........and, for the record, remember that Sex and The City is not a true account of life in all of the states in the US.........big cities breed aggression from stress as people are forced to deal with congestion and competition for everything on a daily basis........I spent a weekend in NYC years back and could NOT wait to get back home away from the constant undercurrent of noise and people everywhere we went..........it was awful.

  Terri
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  Jordan

  Crumpet, I love that adrenalin rush you get when you confront someone. I love getting chavs and pikeys in the shop, because it's so exhilirating telling them to "get the F%£K out before I call the police". I'm weird like that, but I really do enjoy it.