Instead of a letter - sent this just like it is......

by AK - Jeff 12 Replies latest jw experiences

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff

    to a former witness elder, still in the organization, who 'shuns' me. He also 'shuns' his daughter, the subject of the little piece I wrote here.

    He might know who it came from, I have no clue. But highlighting his daughters name at the top should make him read it. I hope it opens his eyes a little bit. Who knows?

    Not long ago, I saw [Name deleted to protect my identity on the forum] in a local restaurant.

    We conversed for a long time. Her efforts to raise her children by godly principles was clear. They were well behaved and pleasant. She seems to be a good and decent person also. She may well owe that fine conduct and character to some religious group with which she currently associates. Of that I do not know, as we did not discuss her religious affiliations. But, there was no reason to believe that she was ‘bad association’ in any way. I certainly could see nothing in her speech or conduct that remotely paralleled the sort of person that the scriptures say Christians should mark as unworthy of fellowship. I felt no need to excuse myself from her presence due to danger of her as spiritual leaven. In addition, there is no evidence that she was engaged in the sins set forth by Paul or John for those who should be rejected by Christians. She indicated no ’active’ sins as mentioned by Paul, and she certainly was not acting against the Christ as suggested as reason by John to ’shun’ another. [1 Corinthians 5; 2 John]

    I had to ask myself; Will my Lord Jesus be at all swayed in making a final judgment of XXXX by the fact that a religious committee of three determined behind closed doors that she was unworthy of life? Does the opinion of these men carry merit as to my decision to show her kindness and respect a full decade after they convicted her of some sin unknown to me? Further, if Jesus was here would he admonish that due to her failure to return to a particular religious group she is unworthy of ever being spoken to by Christians? By what stretch of propriety, would this lovely person be continually viewed as wicked by puny men, and treated insolently all her life by Witnesses, in spite of having long ago adopted spiritual, positive values and lifestyles?

    How can it be right in the eyes of those who serve a forgiving Master to continue shunning her till she dies, though living an upright and good lifestyle? And for a sin she committed as a teenager? Should she choose not to return to Jehovah’s witnesses, the assumption is that she remains wickedly unrepentant. These three men who judged her were neither able to read her heart then nor now. Yet she is continually viewed as evil! Where is Christianity here shown?

    In what way does an organization that spurns other people in such a way, at times ruining relationships with parents, siblings, children, grandparents, and spouses, show the love of Christ? How can such be viewed as action that will expedite repentance and a return to Christianity? How could my ’shunning’ this good and decent soul, ten years after her purported sins, have any good effect on bringing her back to God? I will not perpetrate the erroneous thinking of those who fail to love one another under the mask of righteousness. Will you?

    Another example of the hatred that disguises itself as love among legalistic societies who seek to control rather than to soothe and comfort as did our Master Jesus. The question is Love or Laws written by man? Is there a choice?

    Perhaps if we know of specific individuals like this, a similar letter, well placed, could move a heart to examine these beliefs? Just a thought.

    Jeff

  • SWALKER
    SWALKER

    Thank you for sharing that with us. It moved me to tears and I don't even know her! Good job!

    Swalker

  • ozziepost
    ozziepost

    Well done, Jeff!

  • vitty
    vitty


    That was great, i do know someone who I could send it too, but they are more interested in scoring brownie points than embracing their family member

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff

    Most of 'em are, Vitty, most of 'em are!

    Jeff

  • blondie
    blondie

    Good letter, great points, but

    pearls cast before swine in some cases.

    People live more in fear of humans, than fear of God.

    Blondie

  • dedpoet
    dedpoet

    Great post Jeff, I know of a few people who ought to read that, but I doubt they'd take it to heart anyway. Thanks a lot.

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff
    Good letter, great points, but

    pearls cast before swine in some cases.

    People live more in fear of humans, than fear of God.

    Blondie

    I know. But hope springs eternal. I thought maybe a reminder that hit home would have a possible impact on him. You never know. I know the odds are not too good. Jeff

  • ozziepost
    ozziepost

    It may indeed be easily dismissed by your average dub but this point can't:

    How can such be viewed as action that will expedite repentance and a return to Christianity? How could my ’shunning’ this good and decent soul, ten years after her purported sins, have any good effect on bringing her back to God?

    I have made this same argument to several dubs and I've found that personally they agree even though they 'have to' obey "the Organisation".

    It all seems so illogical.

    Take for example the case of Mrs Ozzie and I. Just suppose (and it's not gonna happen, so don't worry!) but just suppose we entered a KH. How would we be treated? We'd be shunned - right? And this would continue for a very long time, no matter how many meetings we attended and how regular we were.

    How on earth could that be attractive to us? Why on earth would you bother?

    Not only that, but psychiologically it'd be damaging to us, to regularly be rejected by the people you were associating with.

    No, it's not on. Just plain stupid.

  • defd
    defd

    Good letter AK. I hope It does some good.

    D.

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