JW - Teen Suicide

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  • Mystery
    Mystery

    http://www.newsregister.com/news/story.cfm?story_no=201011

    Y-C hit with second suicide

    Published: November 19, 2005

    By PAUL DAQUILANTE
    Of the News-Register

    YAMHILL - A 17-year-old Yamhill-Carlton High School senior was found dead of hanging Thursday morning by his mother, according to the Yamhill County Sheriff's Office.

    Lt. Ken Summers said Cody Earl Monks-Damm hung himself in a barn at the rural family home, northwest of Yamhill at 23880 Mount Richmond Road. He said Cindy Damm discovered the body and called 911 about 11:15, triggering a response from deputies and medical personnel.

    Monks-Damm, who had been sent home from school the previous day for disciplinary reasons, is the second Y-C student to commit suicide this school year.

    Junior Anndi Huff, 16, was found dead Sept. 12 in her pickup, parked in the school's north parking lot. She had shot herself in the head with a .22-caliber pistol.

    Superintendent Steve Chiovaro said Monks-Damm did not have a history of discipline problems. He said the boy had been expected back at school Thursday.

    However, like Huff, he had been suffering from bouts of depression. And like Huff, that had raised family concerns, triggering treatment.

    "He has been treated for depression issues," Summers said. "His family had been concerned for some time over the struggles he was having. He had undergone treatment."

    Chiovaro said he was out of town when he received a call about 1:30 p.m. informing him of the incident. Other school officials, including Principal Jim Orth, had been notified, he said.

    The county's crisis control team, consisting of counselors and clergymen, immediately responded to the school and set up a safe room where students come to grieve and talk.

    Orth went from room to room, taking each teacher aside to explain what had happened and offer direction on how to break it to students.

    Students who wanted to talk to a member of the team were escorted to the library. The team returned to school Friday to continue its work.

    "Some people are a little numb, and they're wearing their emotions on their sleeves," Chiovaro said. "It's just a very, very tragic situation.

    "The staff, they're good teachers. They care very much about their kids. They take these things very personally."

    Orth said Monks-Damm, who had attended Yamhill Elementary School previously, "had his group of friends." But he said the youth was not as involved in extracurricular activities as most students.

    "As I walk down the halls, I see kids who are so resilient," Orth said. "They have been so supportive of each other. I don't want to get used to this type of thing, but we know how to support each other.

    "It just says so much for our students and the staff. This is why I believe so strongly in the small-school environment. This is why I work in a school this size."

    Orth said, "The staff knows the students. They know each other and pull together."

    A Memorial Service will be held at 6 p.m. Tuesday at the Forest Grove Senior Center, 2037 Douglas St. in Forest Grove. Ed Willer, elder of the Jehovah's Witness Kingdom Hall in Forest Grove, will officiate.

    Arrangements are under the direction of Tualatin Valley Funeral Alternatives, based in Hillsboro.

    At least it "says" parents tried to find help for him; although they were the cause of the depression.

  • Thegoodgirl
    Thegoodgirl

    That's so so sad. Very exact similar situation in our KH 9 years ago. I wouldn't say it was the parents fault, but of course the strict religious environment in which we were brought up, I think does contribute to guilt at never living up to these high standards, and no excuse for not doing so. No way to back out. I'm so sorry for the family, and the congregation too.

  • avishai
    avishai
    Orth said Monks-Damm, who had attended Yamhill Elementary School previously, "had his group of friends." But he said the youth was not as involved in extracurricular activities as most students.

    What he did'nt say speaks volumes. That it's a 95% probability that he was'nt ALOWED too.

  • blondie
    blondie
    A Memorial Service will be held at 6 p.m. Tuesday at the Forest Grove Senior Center, 2037 Douglas St. in Forest Grove. Ed Willer, elder of the Jehovah's Witness Kingdom Hall in Forest Grove, will officiate.

    This shows that some elder bodies do allow funerals at the KH for suicides and for elders to give the funeral talk. Each elder body though decides for each congregation rather than there being a organizational policy.

    Current WT doctrine regarding the resurrection of suicides:

    ***

    g90 9/8 p. 23 Suicides—A Resurrection? ***/A Merciful Opportunity
    Stunned friends of a suicide victim may thus take comfort in knowing that "Jehovah has shown mercy to those fearing him. For he himself well knows the formation of us, remembering that we are dust." (Psalm 103:10-14) Only God can fully understand the role of mental sickness, extreme stress, even genetic defects, in a "suicidal crisis," which, the National Observer noted, "is not a lifetime characteristic [but] often a matter only of minutes or of hours."—See Ecclesiastes 7:7.
    Granted, one who takes his own life deprives himself of the opportunity to repent of his self-murder. But who can say whether one driven to suicide might have had a change of heart had his fatal attempt failed? Some notorious murderers have, in fact, changed and earned God’s forgiveness during their lifetime.—2 Kings 21:16; 2 Chronicles 33:12, 13.
    Thus, Jehovah, having paid "a ransom in exchange for many," is within his right to extend mercy, even to some self-murderers, by resurrecting them and giving them the precious opportunity to "repent and turn to God by doing works that befit repentance."—Matthew 20:28; Acts 26:20.
  • orangefatcat
    orangefatcat

    Yes I am suprised that the elders are doing a funeral at the kingdom hall . I thought that in the case of suicide they didn't.

    I say this because in our KH a brother committed suicide and the funeral was held in the chapel of the funeral home.

    thanks Blondie for the information.

    orangefatcat

  • wanda
    wanda

    Maybe some elders are ignoring Brooklyn. Good. (Shhhhh....)

  • magoo
    magoo

    sad, sad, situation repeated too often these days, especially among youthes!

    A Memorial Service will be held at 6 p.m. Tuesday at the Forest Grove Senior Center, 2037 Douglas St. in Forest Grove.

    Is the Senior Center a kingdom Hall? It does seem unusual that an elder would give the sermon.....what would he say...." ah ...gee ...he was a good dub, but maybe we will see him after armagedon, in the new world" Would not want to be a JW elder in this position knowing what the JW teachings are.

    magoo

  • Odrade
    Odrade

    Wait a minute... we need confirmation that this is a JW teen, not just someone obliquely associated with someone who is an elder. Y-C was in my old hall's territory, but I've never heard of these people. It could be that they were attending a neighboring congregation, I've sent out a couple of inquiries...

    My husband knows the elder who is giving the funeral, not that we can just call and ask him. Ha.
    Not to minimize the fact that this stuff happens, but before we start hanging it on the JW religion, let's be sure it was a JW kid...
    Sr Center is not the KH. They have a nice hall with a couple of congregations out there.

  • mouthy
    mouthy

    very sad!!! what a waste !!! When I was a JW we had several suicides but they NEVER held the memorial talk in the KH ---they must have changed again...

  • Aude_Sapere
    Aude_Sapere

    I had to re-read the memorial annoucement twice because I thought the same thing at first: A Kingdom Hall memorial for someone who completed suicide? How is that allowed??

    Reading it the second time, it was clear. Ceremony will be officiated by an elder from the local Kingdom Hall at the senior center.

    My heart just aches over this. He was asked to leave school for disciplinary reasons. I can imagine that he was given the 'You're bringing reproach on Jehovah' lecture. (Maybe a meeting with the elders in the back room because his mother (or whoever) needed help in raising him.)

    *IF* he was a jw.

    So tragically sad.

    -Aude.

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