LOOKS OR PERSONALITY? (page 5)

Apostate Kate

Some men love curves...big ladies just need to wait for the right one. I think some bigger ladies have poor self images that put a wall up to some potential relationships, at least I know I did that. We all have a little shallowness inside somewhere I think. My husband and I are probably one of the most unusual couples you will meet. Shallow women passed him up because of his height..he is small of stature. We married a year and a half ago, the ladies that passed him up missed a GREAT man! He was the first to come along in years that peaked my interest enough for even a first date.

Kate~Very happyily married

Apostate Kate

Oops sorry for the typos, need to figure out spell check and "edit"

stillconcerned

Kate-

I think you are right, but, because guys are more visual, i believe women are more influenced by intangibles than guys are...

lola28

In the words of Judge Judy " Beauty fades, but stupid my dear is forever"

Personality wins every time.

Mary

I think guys SAY looks are secondary, but for most this isn't true. I see too many guys with 'arm-charms'...Don't they know she's half the gene pool for his future children?

This is probably true initially, but I personally know of a guy who's been married to two drop dead beautiful women------both of these women are horrible people and the second one is making his life a living hell. I guess being beautiful with a boob job doesn't replace understanding, kindness and the ability to make hubby a home cooked meal once in a while........I give their marriage another 2 years at the most. His brother in law told him to forget the looks and go for a woman with personality.........why do some men place ALL the emphasis on LOOKS?? Thinkin' with the wrong head??

Apostate Kate

LOL yep Mary that is what my husband says and he should know since he is one. I don't know why he is so different. He has a totally different set of values than any man I had met. I have so many girlfriends who fall for so many lines, and compromise. A guy is wired differently. I like the new book written by a guy "I'm Really Just Not That Into You." Some guys can have sex with any woman he finds the least bit attractive, without really liking her enough to make a commitment. Most women are wired to connect sex/intimacy with true bonding eternal love. How do we ever make it?

GentlyFeral

mrsjones5,

My husband tells me that he thinks I am beautiful

So do I.* I'm just sayin'.

gently feral

*(remembering the one time we met at the XJW picnic before you guys moved to the middle-west)

GentlyFeral

Smiles_Smiles,

Bottom line though ... I WANT IT ALL!

Me too! Funny thing is, though, my lovers keep redefining beauty for me. My favorite (ex) girlfriend was tall, bony, and awkward, but once I got a taste of the brain candy and the naughty bits I ~~thought~~ knew tall/bony/awkward was HOT.

Same for my now paunchy, graying, balding husband – something about that mysterious mischeivous smile of his makes my clothes fall off alla time. 32 years and counting.

gently feral

jwfacts

both! why settle for less?

bailabklyn

Personality wins out. Spirituality wins out as well. Guys who are religious, however, are a HUGE turnoff.

LOOKS OR PERSONALITY?

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