HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH ANY ANY OF THE DECORATIONS - ESPECIALLY THE TREE.
if somebody else does that side of things, then it will look great to you and you won't start trying to change it. Look at how many artists hate a picture that everbody else loves!
The same symptoms will then appear when you are in the kitchen, doing the cooking. A touch more salt, blah blah.
If you grew up in the cult:
1: they have had the need to change things constantly in the name of purity and salvation.
2: nothing NOTHING you do is ever good enough.
3: New Light. ON the branches.
Whiskey and Green Ginger wine. Or Vodka and blue Bols will cure you.
HB