THANKS FOR THIS THREAD!
I think this may be one of the most important issues for anyone who leaves - OK, now what am I going to do? I have just a little (personal opinion) to say on it after 25 years on my own two feet:
First, IMHO, anybody leaving needs at least a year or two (maybe more) so that you can get your own thing together and not just let somebody else re-brainwash you into something equally stupid.
Second, I also have to go back to something REALLY smart that Marion Dunlap told me on this very subject - (he became much more tolerant of other religious views after the break, but remained independently Christian. If I understood him correctly he came around to Divinity of Christ without quite going Trinity and just kept his religion by himself in the later years. Never to my knowledge tried to start another group or go to another church) -
a. He allowed that it is very difficult for many of us who leave to go to any other mainstraim church because all the JW hate of other religions is still there in residue. (note - he did NOT say it was WRONG, just that it was mentally difficult for us).
b. He often lamented on how the WT B.S. was so guilty of actually destroying Christian belief - not only its own faithful but so many leaving who just went Agnosticism or Athiesm. One sample of his thinking was this stupid insistence on the 7000 year creative day thing. We often talked about how really ludicrous this was for good people who happened to have some scientific or medical (or whatever) background. His logic was that dumb things like this drive good people away from fundamental religious faith and never had any scriptural basis in the first place.
My own case: Still not sure what is exactly right after 25 years out. My story (and I am sticking to it) is that I went nominally back to Presbyterian which was what was original before JW. Two reasons: * my Dad passed a few years back and wanted to be buried that way. * Their minister is a very nice guy and also happens to be a model railroader.
Now, I have only attended there a couple of times in the past 5 years and I plainly told the minister that I really could not hack the predestination idea. (maybe i am finally accepting Quantum Physics?) He pretty much let me slide on that - (maybe I was just predestined to not get it? ha ha). My new wife is Vietnamese Buddhist and this philosophy also holds a lot of appeal; although not "Christian" it is at least mostly kind and tolerant.
I have personally known maybe 50 or more people who dropped out. I would way that their belief systems run about 1/3 to a new Christian mainstream; 1/3 to sort of an Agnostic independence, and about 1/3 to "other". Don't see anything wrong with any of these as long as they are thinking people with good tolerant ethics toward others.
And that is my "truth" reality,
James