by codeblue 53 Replies latest jw experiences
Flyinghighnow,
Aw, please don't tell me you have a fat prejudice.
Allow me to be honest here. I do not believe that over weight people are bad people, they are just as beautiful as anyone else as far as personality goes. But for the sexual part of it, over weight people do nothing for me. If that is being prejudice then so be it.
Well, I feel rather strongly about this - I met my Significant Other this way.
He is wonderful! Handsome, generous, funny, smart - everything I wanted and more! Had I not weeded through the rest (no one awful at all) I would never have found him.
Importantly, we were both very honest about ourselves because we were both seriously looking for our last relationship, not just dating.
You can meet liars and losers in church, through mutual friends, at the grocery store - so why is on-line considered so risky? I really don't understand why, if you have a disappointing "meet" that the whole concept of on-line dating is blamed. You have a chance to meet so many more people to choose from than the traditional ways of meeting. I thank my lucky stars that I did not give up before I met "the one."
Yeah - I do the online dating thing... it's a bit hit and miss to be honest.
I have been ripped off for money by one woman - but also met a few good people.
The worst case I have heard from a woman was the last one I went out with; she was drugged with the date rape drug with the last guy she went to meet...
the worst case I heard from a guy's perspective was a guy (not me) who went to meet a girl he'd thought he'd been nurturing a relationship with online for about 6 months and finally took her out and bought her drinks and she "pulled" while out with him for the first time and went off home with another bloke.
Flyinghighnow,Aw, please don't tell me you have a fat prejudice.Allow me to be honest here. I do not believe that over weight people are bad people, they are just as beautiful as anyone else as far as personality goes. But for the sexual part of it, over weight people do nothing for me. If that is being prejudice then so be it.
Well, I respect you for being honest. But then you generalize. If you happen to fall in love with a person who is overweight, the weight will not be a turn off. And hey, you may not realize it, but it could happen. But then if you are looking for a sex partner only, I guess you could get hung up on a perfect size. When you fall in love, you fall in love with the entire person, that is if it's real love. And a few or even a lot of extra pounds isn't going to matter. It's because of people who are as picky as yourself that those women feel pressured to keep their exact weight secret.You will do any woman on a dating service a favor if you are upfront about your repulsion to fat. There are plenty of men who don't have that strict kind of preference. Thank goodness one found me. I had to highlight your comment because women need to know that not all men are superficial when it comes to fatness. Jgnat and I are both zaftig women who have regular sized, muscular men who adore us. I just want everyone to know this.
Flyinghighnow,
I never once said that fat people were bad people. I also do not look just for the sex either. As the matter of fact I am looking for someone who is looking for a long term relationship, the same as I am. I do not judge someone because of their weight as you are imposing that I am. I am more attracted to thin women and just what the hell is wrong with that ? Do you have a guilty conscience because of your weight. It is my preference just like the man your with, it was probably his preference. Nothing wrong in that is there ? So why is it so wrong for my preference to be attracted to a thin woman ? Talk about being judgemental here.
I will be the first to say that there are many beautiful people who are over weight, it's simply just not my preference. I am sorry that you don't like the fact that this is what pleases me. Besides wanting someone who is healthy is not a bad thing either. Most heavy people are not healthy. They are over weight for several reason like Thyroid, this is not a person fault but someone who makes poor choices in what they eat or just a couch potatoe is not something that turns me on and I am not talking sexual here either. I am an active, fit man who only wants for the same, now if that makes me such a bad person to you then I guess then I could say that you are the one who is actually prejudice........
I think men and women define "overweight" differently. Almost every women I know wants to lose weight, even the thin ones. Many men look at average size woman and think she is not overweight, whereas that woman probably thinks she's overweight. But really, even overweight women can be physically fit and active. There is even a positive mortality correlation to being 10-15 pounds overweight starting around age 50. The extra weight can help a person live longer, both males and females.
If you happen to fall in love with a person who is overweight, the weight will not be a turn off.
Flying, you're probably right.
I've been told that the extra weight keeps things spicy. Different folds to experiment with. Some guys even name them.
Rub a Dub
I'm with old flame on that . Not into big women . Some guys are, some guys just aren't . At least he was honest about it . It does not mean I couldn't be nice to fat people, just means there is no sexual attraction. A little I can deal with but not obese .
I've known people that had a real good time with dating services . I've even registeres but never got into the pay for , I was more or less browsing . I always think there is a scam involved .
My divorced friend is the one on the online dating service. She shows me her daily "catches"....
She never mets them "alone"...they are in public places.
It is rather amusing the lines that people use.
But getting into physical characteristics: people are people having likes and dislikes. But as a woman, I find that men expect perfection in a woman. I know some over weight guys that make fun of fat women in front of me, but all the while, don't realize they are fat. That upsets me greatly!
If you happen to fall in love with a person who is overweight, the weight will not be a turn off.
Very true. However, we don't just "happen to fall in love" - physical attraction is a huge part. And there are certain preferences that have nothing to do with being prejudiced. I'm 5'8" - so I have always liked men who were fairly tall. Not only am I not "prejudiced" against short guys, I dated a guy who was 5'2" for awhile. Quite frankly, it was not a good feeling for me when we walked down the street - we couldn't hold hands because his was too close to the ground for me to reach! Ten years later, we are still very good friends.
