Letter from Mom (page 2)

mrsjones5

Nice to meet you Mike. Great to have another Jones in the house!! Sorry about your Mom and Dad.

By the way I have a bil with your same name.

Josie

Well...here goes...I got the letter and mom goes on about how bad a job she did in raising me. I have not been in jail, I am not hurting anybody, and I am not a mean person. I think she did a great job. She says that the check for $250.00 was like a Christmas gift. The stuff I sent were not wrapped gifts. My brother wanted my old PDA, mom wanted a necklace that my wife wore on a visit to their home and dad wanted a jacket but, I sent him a college sweatshirt. It's funny that the only thing that came back was the check. She goes on to say that I have drifed away from the truth and that she is having to make some tough decisions and asks what should she do? I had a conversation with my brother and he laid a guilt trip on me saying that everybody asks for me...it's been 20 years since I left. If they were so intereted...call me. I think that my brother mentioned the conversation and this all got wound up. It makes mention that she is blood guilty because of my upbringing and that she in good conscience move forward until she wrote this letter. and end the letter with that I always love you.

I spoke with my wife and I will write the letter after my cruise in two weeks...tell me if I am wrong in saying... that my love for my parents will never change and that they we both moved on with our lives. It hurts me that I have to write this to my mom.

heck of a way to wind up 2005...well I am DJ'ing a NYE party for the same client for 5 years. Taking my wife to Wild Bills and celebrate and ring in 2006. I want to thank all that responded and welcomed me unconditionally to the board! I hope one day to meet some of you in person! :)

Mike

garybuss

I'd NEVER write the reply letter to mom. IF you do, wait a mimimun of 3 years to write it.

blondie

JWs are irrational (and I was one). So they kept the other gifts and sent back the money. That's weird. That is what you call Watchtower Logic (as Scully puts it).

Welcome, love, Blondie

Forscher

Jonsey. I might try calling her and explaining that the check and presents had nothing to do with Christmas other than, perhaps, bad timing on your part. You sent it because that was when you had it to send, and you love them, no other reasons. I wouldn't get embroiled in any discussions on teachings and do my best to let the inevitable hurtful comments slide off my back like water off a duck's.
Remember where she is coming from. She is in a faith that is built around separation and control. She is taught that she must "stand up for what is right" according to their twisted teachings. She doesn't see her comments as hurtful, rather, she sees them as "standing firm for righteousness". I don't know if you profess in form of Christianity, since you didn't mention it, but whether you do or not you show that you are taking the higher road if you react tactfully and pleasantly to her fanaticism.
That is my opinion, others surely will differ. I have family back in that organization and expect to see the screws get tighter myself as time goes by. As one who still professes belief in Christ, I've decided to let my light shine by taking the high road. They may be so far back in the darkness that they won't see it. But that is their choice in the end! You do what is best for you! We'll support you no matter who's advice you take.

Forscher

hamsterbait

Jonesy -

Love your woman & your kids when you have them. If the rest of them dont want to be icing on your cake - that is their Loss.

Be free.

Be happy.

Be true to yourself.

Love.

HB

ps HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

Sheepish

Welcome Mike,

Sorry the year is ending with this bit of hurt. My imput is, don't take it personally. She still loves you, she is just is guilted into behaving this way towards you. Remember the good things she has done for you, and just keep loving her and the rest of the family.You can only control yourself.She on the other hand is controlled by the organization.

GaryBuss, after reading your post I got a much better understanding of where your coming from.

Happy New Year!

skeeter1

Forgive your mother, she is brainwashed and knows not what she does.

Skeeter1

p.s. If you live in North Georgia, please, please, please go to North Point Community Church. It's about 13,000+ members. You will not be "fresh meat" and no one would even know you. There are no "crosses" in the building, and you will be very comfortable there. The main speaker, Andy Stanley, is refreshing. The church's message is about building a reasonable, loving, and forgiving relationship with God. It helped me get out of the JWs, and I encourage it to all. http://www.northpoint.org/ The Society teaches you a conditional love with Jehovah. If you go out in service 10 hours a week or do X,Y, and Z, then you are in Jehovah's graces. It's about doing, doing, doing, and not about relationships, relaxing, and enjoying God. I find that my family members who are still JWs treat me according to what I "do" for them and not for "who" I really am. As long as I "do" what they want, they loved me. If I don't "do" what they want, then the cold shoulder comes my way. What I am trying to say is that how we view God determines how we treat each other. Your mother has learned to model her relationships with you, as the Society has modeled Jehovah towards the JWs. It's an unforgiving, fear based "relationship."

jonsey

First of all Happy New Years to all of you!

I finished DJ'ing a party last night from 6-9 (Mock New years for a Country Club) I then took my wife to Wild Bills to ring in the new year www.wildbillsatlanta.com. We rang in the new year and did not let the letter get to the both of us. We both love my parents and will keep doing so. Our door will be open to them always. I will write a letter back to her saying the exact thing without dragging in the society. It is about a mother and her son's love for her and that will be the message in the letter. I will keep you up to date with the letter to mom.

ps

My sister in-law goes to Crossroads in Lawrenceville...I have popped in from time to time. It is totally different. It is the first chuch i have gone to ...1 that does not critisize another faith... 2 to it is massive so that you are lost...3 I did not have to wear a tie LOL

Mike

Balsam

Jonesy,

Families are weird sometimes whether your witnesses or some other religion. I was a JW for 30 years, and I would never have turned my back on my sons for the society or anyone. And they always knew that. I was a devoted JW and I always thought some parents were just crazy the way the treated their inactive or disfellowshipped kids. And I told them so. I told some of these Mothers I was friends with that they brought shame on JW for shunning their kids like they did. Anyway when I finally woke up from my JW coma, I took my two sons and we got the heck out of dodge. Today only their Dad out of our family of 5 is still a JW.

Your Mom is just trying to behave the way she thinks a good JW will behave. Know lots of Mom's like her, but also knew a bunch of great JW Mom's who would never let their religion separate them from their kids. Hope your letter to her straightenings things out.

Welcome to the discussion forum. I live in Charlotte, NC not terribly far from GA.

Balsam

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