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Low-Key Lysmith

......For those of you who have family that still speaks to you on occasion, does it seem that they are always trying to update you on goings-on in the congregation? My Grandma, every time she calls (which isn't often), likes to say "brother or sister so-and-so were asking about you the other day". Or "brother so-and-so got disfellowshipped". Or sister so-and-so just got married". It doesn't come out as cheerful banter either, it's almost like there's some guilt trip lying just beneath the surface. It's as though the horrible gossip that accompanies the Borg spills out into the realm of apostates too. I remember once when I was a kid, being slapped across the mouth and grounded for a week for telling my mom that I wasn't interested in hearing the latest juicy bit. I suspect that my Grandma is trying to make me feel guilty by trying to emphasize the point that "folks in the Cong still care about me." Or am I being too suspicious?

-Breck

mrsjones5

Omg yes! My mother is always going on about sister so&so or brother so&so and how their kids are still in the truth and how good they are doing and how good they look or about sister poorthing who recently came back into the truth and wasnt that a good thing. Like I care! Most times I just let her drone on and after a while she moves on to something else.

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ballistic

Yeah - you got it too. My only thoughts when I hear, "so and so has left the truth and moved away", I think, how the hell can I get in touch with them and why aren't they on this board?

Darth Yhwh

Breck, I certainly don't feel that your being to suspicious. My mother used to do the same thing untill recently. I think she finally has come to terms with the fact that I am no longer or never will be returning to her cult.

Low-Key Lysmith

I also get the whole schpeal (sp?) of "don't you want to see your mother and sister resurrected in the New System?" or my favorite, "can't you understand how hard it is on me and the rest of your family to know that you are as good as dead?" It makes me want to slam the phone down in her ear when she starts talking like this. I also notice that she doesn't lay on any of the guilt when she calls me asking for money.

-Breck

ballistic

Lysmith, my mother says I will find a nice wife if I go back to the truth. Well, she says it so often, I have two different replies...

1. "but wouldn't that be decietfull for me to go back for that reason?" and

2. "Look what happened last time I married a witness girl"

Low-Key Lysmith

Geez Balls, I have used that one on my family since the start. "Wouldn't it be wrong of me to go back to an organization I didn't believe in just to make those around me happy?" It goes in one ear and out the other. They cannot comprehend the fact that someone could change their mind about what they were taught as a JW. I have outright told my family that I do not believe that it is "The Truth", and that I am much happier and better off where I am. I also tell them that they don't find me trying to knock down their beliefs and make them think the way I do. It is all just pissing in the wind.

-Breck

ferret

Good comment balistic

ballistic

Well, aint it the truth.

serendipity

Hi Breck,

My non JW grandmother used to tell me all about people she thought I remembered from her neighborhood. She was old, short on cash, so didn't get out much, only read the newspaper and watched a little TV and worked in her garden. We didn't have much in common, so she talked about what she knew. It may just be a typical grandma thing. Enjoy it while it lasts.

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