.....My late father was right !!

thewatchman

He never really believed or took to heart the JW religion which I refuse to call the truth.

The years before we as a family were 'contacted' we were a normal working class family with a lot of love for each other......we were happy

I have few memories of those happy times, I was 7 when my mother decided to take on the religion

That in time would include all of us........2 sisters and a brother

To me my mother was the more adept of mind....ie...would question things rather than just believe what she heard...I therefore developed a trust in my mother

In time my father questioned the religion and its doctrines etc......

I despaired in my father as did we all........why was he doing this to our family??

He DA'd himself and I was extremely upset by his actions but I was never invloved with why he had done so.....to me he just refused to see 'the truth'

In time my mother divorced my father.......(I am cutting this story down somewhat!!)

To me he was in the wrong, he rebelled and accused my mother of many things without foundation

.....in hindsight he was distraught at the ending of a family and 25 years of marriage.....

I could not see this...... and after so many events and occurrances, I didn't speak to him or see him to speak to in 2 years!!

He never involved his children....as far as he could help......in telling as to why he rejected the religion.......

He was a man that put his family first despite what he was faced with....(losing his family!!).....he tried so hard to keep his family together whilst keeping us (the children) from the reasons why he rejected the religion....WE WOULDN'T LISTEN!!

I do not blame my mother, she believes whole heartedly in 'the truth', and I respect her for that

My father died in 1997 of a heart attack, and 9 years later I am beginning to understand what he went through, ....... I failed him as his son, it was not me alone, it was what the WTS had programmed me to think. I am sad I failed a loving father with whom I wish I could reconcile my differences, but thanks to the WTS, I may never get the chance to say...'Dad, you were right...I'm Sorry!!'

TooOpinionated

((((thewatchman)))) I'm so sorry. We are here for you.

jaffacake

That is so sad...but on a positive note... you now know the truth.

Don't you feel that your father knew you would see it sooner or later? Seems to me he knew the religion well enough, like the rest of us, to recognise that you certainly did not fail him at all - how could he blame someone taken into a religion as a seven year old? The JW religion failed you all. In time I believe you will see there is no need to apportion blame to yourself or within the family. Take care!

Frannie Banannie

I'm so sorry, TheWatchman. Don't worry. The WTS doesn't know everything about death and dying. I wouldn't be surprised if your father already knows this and perhaps has been of help to you in finding your way out.

Frannie

skyman

WOW thanks for sharing

Double Edge

I may never get the chance to say...'Dad, you were right...I'm Sorry!!'

You just did. I strongly believe our loved ones who have passed on are closer than we could imagine. Take care.

IronClaw

My father died in 1997 of a heart attack, and 9 years later I am beginning to understand what he went through, ....... I failed him as his son, it was not me alone, it was what the WTS had programmed me to think. I am sad I failed a loving father with whom I wish I could reconcile my differences, but thanks to the WTS, I may never get the chance to say...'Dad, you were right...I'm Sorry!!'

Watchman Welcome, I was 13 when my Dad passed. I share your pain. Maybe someday you will get that chance. I look forward to being with my Dad again someday ( Wherever that might be ). Keep your chin up.

Satanus

A sad story. Your father must have been heart boken. Those of us who believe in an afterlife think that your father is getting satisfaction now. Whether you do or not, there is one more thing that you could do for your own peace of mind. Write down you apology on paper, go to your father's grave, read it to him, and then burn the paper over his grave. The burning will help your mind to see an end to your regret.

S

Sheepish

Welcome Watchman, big hug of sympathy. One thing I have learned getting older is, older folks understand stuff that younger people don't. We finally see what our parents were talking about. As was stated before, he probably knew you'd get it "one day." It's part of the burden we take on as parents...

serendipity

((( watchman))) My father died young and I feel regret that he and I didn't have a good relationship. I can't change that fact, but I can ensure that I live life thoughtfully and deliberately to minimize future regrets.

.....My late father was right !!

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